'Free Sex' Is Not Free!

FREE SEX IS NOT FREE

It has a price tag!

       "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge." - Hebrews 13:4

        God designed human sexuality within the framework of a lawful and loving marriage relationship - not as a shallow or recreational activity. From the beginning it was one man for one woman, and the two shall become one flesh (Genesis 2:24). There is nothing wrong or shameful about loving and passionate sexual intercourse between a husband and wife. It is honourable and undefiled in God's eyes. But outside of marriage, it is evil and unclean.

       When a man commits sexual intercourse with a woman he is not lawfully married to, he becomes “one flesh” with her, and she with him. Many teach that a “soul tie” occurs which is not easily broken (I can’t say for sure regarding the “soul tie” theory since I’ve never seen anything in the Bible to prove it). Nevertheless, the Bible does teach that sex outside of marriage is a SIN. It is considered FORNICATION, and the man or woman who habitually practices sex with multiple partners to be a WHOREMONGER. A “whore“ is anyone who defiles themselves spiritually and physically. Any man or women who defiles themselves and their marriage by having sexual relations outside of it are also called ADULTERERS. The Bible is clear that unless they repent, God will judge both the whoremonger and adulterer.

       Unfortunately, these are terms which are looked upon as outdated and irrelevant in today's liberal “free sex” society. Before I became a Christian, I saw nothing wrong with having multiple sex partners, or “living together“ with someone until I became tired of them and found somebody else. My heart was hardened by sin and rebellion towards God's laws. But when I came to the Lord, I had to give up my sinful life. As a matter of fact, I was living in sin with a woman when I first got saved. Since I was bi-sexual most of my life, I had taken a fancy to one French Canadian girl I had picked-up in a bar one night. I had gotten her pregnant and I refused to give her money for an abortion. So we ended up having the baby girl and living together with the idea of perhaps getting married some day. It was around this time that I got saved and turning my life around.

       As I started going to church and studying God's Word, I kept coming across the word “FORNICATION” every time I would read the Bible. I didn't know what the word meant but it would jump out from the page at me. I finally got curious enough and decided to look it up in the dictionary. To my surprise, it described the sin I was committing with my girlfriend. I realized God had been speaking to me and I went to my girlfriend and told her about my conviction. She agreed to get married and I immediately arranged for my pastor to marry us - to make our relationship right before God. Shortly thereafter, my girlfriend got cold feet and she moved out before we could tie the knot. But since the day that I discovered we were committing sin, I refused to have any further sexual relations with her until we got married. I loved the Lord and didn’t want to displease Him in any way.

       Unfortunately, too many pastors and churches don't preach against fornication anymore. The churches today are full of unmarried couples living together or practicing free sex. Christian men are divorcing their wives at the drop of a hat and remarrying others unashamedly. But adultery and fornication are considered grave sins in the sight of God and will exclude the guilty from His kingdom.

“…that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God” -Gal. 5:19-21.

       God expects the believer to exercise self-control and purity with reference to all sexual matters. To justify unlawful sexual activity or “play around” outside of marriage (including the touching of private parts of another or viewing their nakedness before marriage) is sin. The Biblical standard of purity prohibits the uncovering of the nakedness of anyone who is not your lawful wife or husband. After marriage, however, sexual activity with your wife and husband should be thoroughly enjoyed.

       If you have already been at fault in the area or fornication or adultery, my advice is to repent of any sexual sins you have committed as a Christian and ask God to forgive you. But don't take His grace for granted and think you can keep on doing it. Learn to practice abstinence and restraint. It's not as hard as you think when you draw nigh unto God and let the Holy Spirit be in control of your life.

       If you are already living with someone in sexual union, discontinue your sexual intimacy until marriage. If you're not sure whether you want to marry the person you’re living with, then you shouldn't be living with them in the first place. Discuss your convictions with your partner. If they really love you and its God's will for you to marry, then they will be in agreement with your decision to do what is right before God. If not, then you're probably better off without that person.

      Don't defile your body before God. Your body is no longer your own; it is now the temple of the Holy Spirit. "But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation (living); because it is written, Be Ye Holy; For I Am Holy” - 1 Peter 115,16.

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