I Am Pregnant And don't Know What To Do. I Need To Act Fast

The fact that he tried to hide you from the former girlfriend tells me he is up to something. Since he is partially responsible, I would at least make sure he is involved in whatever route you decide to take.  Do whetever you deem best for you, but make sure you get his ass involved, since you did not do this alone.

Awww,  crap. I am not in the position to advise you on what to do. I have never been there, but that guy is one heck of a loser. Regarding the baby, which decision are you leaning towards at this point? Having the baby or not? It will be your ultimate decision. I'm not advocating this. However, I know 2 really good friends that have had abortions for different reasons and they tell me it wasn't painful at all, but it was "uncomfortable." Weirdly enough, they both used that same word. Like I said, I can't tell you what to do because I don't know much about this, I don't know you and I have never been there. I wish you the best of luck. Keep us posted!

u need 2 sit down with ur man and talk this shit out because it's both ur baby he played a big role in this shit so whatever desicion u both decide to take make sure it's what really works for u especially because u're d one going 2 b carrying d baby 4 nine months so make sure u both talk it out


              and yeah check him out that so called ex-girlfriend might just be his wife

Hey girl,
  Hmmm, this is touching but i want you to think twice about the decision you are about to make. But am not going to advice you on abortion. what is your location, oops that is confidential, you can email me @ mydove20@yahoo.com and we will go from there. Pele, just take hearts and believe that God is with you and make him your strength.

girl

You are now in the position in your life to make decisions that would affect your life for ever

Abortion

BIG SIN

Early child birth

BIG DISGRACE

Now, you have two things :

sin to God or sin to man

Whatever choice you make

Think twice

If there is real LOVE between you and the father

You face it

LOve is a thick and thin thing dear

face the disgrace and pray to God to pull you through

Don;t worry

You will be fine

 

MAY GOD HELP YOU

My best advice for you is to leave his ass and don't abort the baby.

Ohh u poor poor thing.

I would like to know how old you are before i go on to advice you. And uhmm are you in college, high school or something? Ur parents and whatnot,  do u live alone?

YOur answers to these questions would help me decide which advice to give. 

Something just doesn't jive with all the responses I am reading from the ladies here. When I was in University  the number of girls who have had abortion was quite high, I believe the figures are much higher today. I am sure some of the ladies here saying you shouldn't abort have aborted but would never come out to say. Damm Hypocrites.

Raising a kid as a single mother if you are still in school or not financially stable is very very though especially if the guy responsible is not willing to do the right thing and settle down with you. The final decision is yours but you need to think it through carefully and if you decide to go ahead with abortion  please look for the best clinic and doctor in town to do it and ensure that the guy follows you there. If he is not willing to do the proper thing of settling down with you then he needs to be part of (Physically/Financially) whatever decision and actions is taken as a result of.

And if you decide to keep the baby and be a single Mum (which by the way is the proper Christian thing to do) note that Nigerian men tend to descriminate against single Mums, most don't mind dating single Mums but would shy away from marrying them if it is their first marriage.

I know it is a tough decision and now is not the time to cry over spilled milk, no need for had I known thoughts, try and clear your head and decide what is best for you. Good Luck.

      

Lol - that's better    

I have thought about this again and the following would be my decision if I were a girl in the same situation:

Assuming:
*  I am  Less then 30, still in school, or just out of school but not financially stable, I would ABORT.
* If I am over 30, good career, financially stable and independet, I would keep the pregnancy.

@2cantango just pray that it doesn't happen to you otherwise your tone would change. Don't forget condoms do fail, if you like tell me you are a virgin like 99% of the babes on Nairaland are claiming

u see! ur fish brain is at it again! u wan abort wetin! u no sabi wetin, ! keep the baby  when he is 2 years old, call me and i will gladly adopt him!

I know of a girl

Ma 1 year senior

She studies engineering


She had a 1 year kid but guess what ?

She is 1 of the best 5 students in her year

This girl did not allow the baby to bring her down

neither did she kill the baby

& She is doing quite well

You can make it dear

It is tough

Forget all circumstances

DO NOT ABORT

Am sure 2can can explain better to you as she is experienced

Well , I can give you emotional support id you want

But dear , abortion is not a thing of the mouth

The thoughts of you killing your first child would haunt you for life

By the way , you never know if God will let you loose the baby at an early stage

That is when God intervenes

girl , it aint the end of the world

This girl i told you of is like ma school mother now

I love and admire her for her courage and determination

girl , don;t worry

It is a mistake

You will make it

Seun,

1) I don't support the notion that having a lover in 2 different places "will not work".  Until you come up with statistics to show this, I will have to disagree. Mind you, even a non-working rate of 99% still doesn't mean it won't work, because there is the 1% that does work.

2) I think what this lady needs right now is a solution and not a "why did u, didn't you know?" type statement.

My advice is to keep the baby.  As many have said (paraphrasing), there is a reason for everything.  Besides the moral factor, an abortion could be risky which may ruin your chances of having another baby.  For those who say that if you aren't in a western nation, you will find it difficult to raise a child on your own and that you are likely to face ridicule, to them, I would say (if I were you), let he/she without sin cast the first stone.  The good thing in Nigeria is that at least there will be someone willing to look after the baby for you while you, for example, decide to go to school.

The best you can do is keep it.  If times turn out rough, let that serve as motivation to do better in life for your baby's sake.  Also, as an atonement, I would suggest you talk to fellow young girls on the possible dangers of first of all, having pre-marital sex, and falling for a guy based on sweet talk.

Finally, be, as the pilgrims who first landed on the US shores centuries ago, a light on the hill showing girls of today that if you can do it, though not to be encouraged, you can do it as well.

I wish you well, in Jesus' Name - Amen!!