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Reba (f)
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Well girl, non of us here can tell u what to do,but take some of this advices here and think good for me I just wish u all the best of luck in what ever u decide.and take that punk along with your decision because no matter what he will be part of it too. Good luck all the way from SA
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le govo (m)
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i reason with that !
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akamihe (m)
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If u spoke 4 abortion, u ve not spoken well. But if u spoke 4 having d baby, u ve spoken very well. Baby4ever, it's good news that you're pregnant the circumstances not withstanding. Please carry your pregnancy n have your baby. Bone that guy n bone wht people will say. Nobody's a saint!! Having the baby wldn't stop u from achieving whtever feat r u destined to achieve. It doesn't even imply u'll become a single mother. Me o! I can marry a woman even if she has a baby before. So bone that side n move on babygirl. Nothing de happen.
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lunafish (f)
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You have to decide whether you want to
1) Have the baby and raise it alone (he's not in a position to be responsible especially if he's cheating)
2) Have the baby and try to work it out with him (somtimes a hopeless case)
3) Have an abortion.
Think about what position you're in in life? Can you support a baby?
Do you have what it takes to raise a child?
No one can give you the answer but you need to be practical and think about that baby. Would you be able to provide it with everything it needs?
Whatever your decision-have courage in your convictions and I hope you make the wisest.
In futre please use a condom. Best wishes
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eveseh (f)
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to me he don't really love,why is he trying to hide u from his
ex?
that's sick man
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baby4ever
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Thanks all the nairaland family member.
My boy friend advice me to use Alabunkun and Schwepps better lemon and when l refuse he says his less concern about with l come up with and his broke and can't afford money for abortion.
He refuse to call me l have to call him and when l told him to try at list call once a while he say he doesn't have money to top-up his phone/credit his phone and he can only be sending me text messages.
I think l am left alone to my faith with my baby. What should l do?
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bolex (m)
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baby4eva
the nigga is useless
when he was doing he did not know abi
let him know that you know what you want
don;t complicate your womb
I know of a woman who did her own
Now , she is over 45 waiting on the Lord
lol, she used her own hand to mess herself up and she is expecting a miracle
beans ?
girl, give birth
if you are able to face this particular challenge at hand
There is no challenge in life you would not be able to face
TRUST ME ON THIS
We all love you and will always be here for you
No matter what
Take kia
God bless and forgive you
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chinani (f)
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I feel for you my dear. Please know that we can not make your mind for you. Decide what you want and then move quickly. If it is an abortion then so be it. Are there any doctors who will perform the procedure safely where you are? If not then post your state and city immediately and people on Nairaland will tell you where best to go. Remember you are not the 1st or last woman to have an abortion. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Go post hauste and ask this boyfriend for the money for the abortion. All of it! If you do not get an abortion then it can be for after the baby comes. This is not dishonest or stealing b/c he is responsible too! I'll be thinking of you.  |
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mochafella (m)
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If not then post your state and city immediately and people on Nairaland will tell you where best to go.
I didn't realise we had abortion clinic experts on the board.   |
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chinani (f)
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I didn't realise we had abortion clinic experts on the board. You'D be surprised. Everyone knows something that would surprise someone. Truly, with 24, 604 members I'm sure more than 1 person on Nairaland has had an abortion or paid for one. |
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ojd (m)
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@baby4ever
Now from your second posting we know the guy is gone. Don't expect any help {financial or emotional} coming from him. My advice to you is to look up to your mother {though u didn't state the kind of relationship you have wit your parents or if they know about the pregnancy} she should be able to support you through this.
An abortion is well out of it bearing in mind the various consequences. Health wise and the emotional guilt and don't forget your womb can got with it forever.
Irrespective of what people write on this forum the final decision is yours. BE WISE!!!
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Christino (m)
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Dearie,
If you need money afterwards, please log on, we will keep this thread and donate it to you. As for my niggie, he is just being a guy that he is (irresponsible this time around) and he gon do it to the other girl too. I need not add salt to injury by saying you made a mistake in the first place, needless to say, players are sweetmouthed from day one.
Take things as they are, don't snuff life out of that kid. Could be your most successful child in life, could be the saviour your generation has been waiting for. If you need me, i pledge my help to you, and if he needs a godfather, you can count on me.
If your rhesus is negative and his is positive, there is a 99% chance that this will be your first and last pregnancy. No Doctor can make you pregnant again unless you are injected with some stuffs now, and if you abort the baby then you can call it a lifetime.
This situation's gon' pull u back, school, ambition, just name it, but you can be whatever you want to be, and that baby might just be your only consolation in times to come. Log on to google and read the lyrics of baby don't cry - Tupac. Be strong.
One Love!
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bolex (m)
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If you create a thread for donation I would donate from ma heart  Provided you promise to bring up the child in the way of the Lord onlyIf a guy , not to be like his father If a girl , never to be like you We are going to have you say it And I am going to make a monthly donation for you Am for real here That's ma 13th cent |
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trips (m)
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i definately not advise you to abort,
its very dangerous and i believe you saw those pictures on the site,
do you want to do that to your baby,
i'm a man, if my baby got pregnant for me now i'D have no other option but to keep the baby,
it's not an "it" its a life form, a she or a he,
please don't abort
doing the right thing is always hard the bad thingys r always a easy to do,
anyway i can help please let me know,
regards!!
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Seun (m)
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baby4ever, you just "came back from a journey overseas". You should have enough money for an abortion.
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Christino (m)
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 Seun is back and this time around, its laughter galore.
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bolex (m)
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Someone's life is about to be altered I don't think it is a laughing matter  except if the poster of the thread was trying to get recognition by the way , who said being abroad automatically means you have money ? And why is Seun stressing on the abortion thing ? Should bad things be encouraged on Nairaland now ? |
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2cantango (f)
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God Bless You Bolex |
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Christino (m)
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@ Bolex, that's the second post of Seun's i've seen today. The first one was very funny, then I saw this one again. That's the first time i'll be seeing the name Seun on nairaland in a while.
Back to the topic. Leave a piece of advice for dearie.
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bolex (m)
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@ Bolex, that's the second post of Seun's i've seen today. The first one was very funny, then I saw this one again. That's the first time i'll be seeing the name Seun on nairaland in a while.
Back to the topic. Leave a piece of advice for dearie.
well , you seem to be so glad that he is trying to be funny when someone's life is about to be doomed why not leave an advice because I think I have left some We all trying to edge her on to the light jump on the boat no silly jokes on this thread there are over 10,000 threads where jokes can be shared This thread is meant for serious people and serious posts should be seen on here only How do you think baby4eva would feel if she reads jokes when all she seeks is advice |
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Christino (m)
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@ Bolex
Ganja man, the first post was not on this site, mind you. I left my post already, yet to get a reply, meanwhile the deed is done, life has to go on, even dearie has to smile, she's got a hell of advises already, she needs to laugh @ times of which i'm sure she's prolly doing right now. Now back to the thread okay!
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bolex (m)
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If you going to make her smile or laugh
Prophesy good for her unborn child
hey sweetie
I pray that chuild grows to be the end of your sorrows by God's power
AMEN
Now, that's how to make someone smile in this kind of situation
Hey, guys ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
Too much advises
It's time to say some prayers for Dearie and her baby
You got something to say now ?
@ Christino
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2cantango (f)
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I like your style bolex |
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Christino (m)
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I woulda posted my lyric "Welcome to the world" but its in the studio and she'D have loved that.
If i had to give baby a name, it'D be DESTINY
I pray baby grows up in good health, great brains, great mind, soft heart but rigid conscience and be good and kind to everyone around and above all, take all the pains away and take good care of MamA.
And make sure when you make it out the hood, you always holler back
Think about what you got from that
And always put your dollars back
On top of that, this is a legacy and we a part of that
The hood is where ma heart is at
Catch me around ma way - Talib Kweli (around my way, the beautiful struggle)
Word up.
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bolex (m)
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@ Christino That's more like it 2 dearie and the cutie unborn |
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bolex (m)
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God Bless You Bolex I like your style bolex Thanx you got prayers to say ? |
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chinani (f)
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baby4ever, you just "came back from a journey overseas". You should have enough money for an abortion.
Seun, it was the boyfriend who came from overseas I believe. |
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uyo-babe (f)
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Hey baby4ever, i pray for u and your unborn child, and i hope you make the right decision on what to do whether it is to keep the baby or abort it. I believe everything happens for a reason, and i know that God has a reason for you being pregnant. I want you to know that you can make it on your own without your boyfriend, i know you will go through obstacles but trust me, you will make it. My aunty made it, she is raising 3 kids and me and on top of that she is about to become a millionaire. Am not saying this to brag am saying this because it my aunty can make it, you can make it too. She went through trials n tribulation, and you will go through it too, but what doesn't kill you, will definetly make you stronger girl. Keep your head up, believe that you can make it, explain to your family about what you are going through, and although they will be dissapointed, they will come around, You never know your baby could become the next president and could change the world. 
Please girl don't abort your baby, because 1. baby is one way of God saying that the world will go on, 2. you will feel guilty for the rest of your life. One of my close friend just aborted her baby in January, and almost every week she is suicidal. So please think about what you want for you and your unborn child. Remember the decision is YOURS!!! leave your stupid boyfriend alone, he will reap what his sow, and his reward is in heaven. He will regret everything at the end, and Please be strong and know that God is not sleeping, and he knows what is going on. If i can be of anymore help email me, once again be strong, Trust in the Lord because he will see you through, and i wish you and your unborn child nothing but the best.
You are always in my prayers.
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naijacutee (f)
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@ Seun
There's no proof that LDRs don't work. I'm in one right now and I've never experienced anything better.
@ Calabar man.
Re-think, man. What's with all the hypocrites thing? Well if they are telling her not to abort, then it could only mean that they have gone down that road and woldn't advise anyone to go the same as it's not pleasant. Besides how would you know if you haven't put a few ladies in those cirumstances yourself. You guys forget that a girl doesn't drink juice and get pregnant.
@ Baby4ever
See, with Life every action has its consequences. Some consequences are greater than others. You've made a mistake but theres no use crying over spilled milk. You could kill that baby growing inside you now,destroy your womb, for the sake of this guy whom you're not even sure of, and he dumps you in the future. Then you lose in all directions.
Or you could get up now, if you're 'Overseas' then you've got better options. Seek support from one of the young-parents clinics, you could get a part-time job at the early stages of your pregnancy, just to save for this baby coming your way. Get prepared, attend ante-natal clinics so you learn how to cope. Most of all , talk to someone who's got expertise in this field (could be your local GP) and they'll give you the pros and the cons without mincing words.
I wish you luck whatever your decision and I'll remember you and Baby in my prayers
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Bisanke (f)
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Awwwwwww sorry o. I fill your pain cause i gotta friend that is in the same position at the moment and she's only 13 years old. Girl i don't know what 2 say cause i got no info about u but just b strong 4 yourself and da child
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mochafella (m)
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she's only 13 years old.
Talk about a kid having a kid *sad* |
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