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maclee (m)
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What would you do when your partner wants to have sex and you are not ready?
What would you do when your partner wants to have sex and you are in the mood to have sex that day?
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CimonJorr (m)
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Are we looking at things from the man's perspective.. the woman's.. or both??  |
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vexxy (f)
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Do it anyway. Sex is a gift to be freely given and received. It's an act of love between married partners and should not be with held...unless there is a physical problem. Keep your man happy and he won't stray.  |
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Saintjoe (m)
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Well...............
when your partner want sex and u don't want there must be smth wrong, he/she might begin to think u are having secret affaris. And there could be thing u might do that my affect the relationship.( like depriving he/she from having what he/she wants to)
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vexxy (f)
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That is true. Women are very emotional. If they are not feeling loved or respected it is hard to get intimate but men keep all that seperate.
I say to still not with hold on physical intimacy because you would want to treat your partner the way you would want to be treated and leave the rest to God.
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abuguy64 (m)
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Hmmm.....if you really love your partner,you got to find out(gently and with love),why he or she is not in the mood.This may not work!So you stay with the person,and try to forget about your needs for once!!  |
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nddy (m)
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if my partner isnt in the mood , she would go for check up the next day.
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tommy (m)
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Simply... you have to wait until your partner is in the mood for it (like a trafficlight) when`s red stop. is green go! And give all your best! Next time it wount take long  |
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Latoya (f)
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I understand what u guys r on about.But i think the best thing has been said,'wait until you're both ready'
Sex is not just doing and been in the act,its about the attachments involved.You can always make a guy be in the mood physically by turning him on,doing certain things to him.but not emotionally because his mind wont be there especially when he is disturbed by certain issues.wait until u know the both of u want it like mad.
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Trooper (m)
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If you are not in the mood he or she will understand. better days will come.
@ Tommy, und wenn die Ampel Gelb zeigt, was machen wir dann ? Means...what to do when the traffic light shows yellow.
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CimonJorr (m)
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And what of when the man is not in the mood?? |
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mosiate (f)
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Understanding is one of most important factor in a relationship,when patner is not in mood try to reason along ,don't be seilfish,just leave him/her, better days will defintetly come.
More importantly,try to understand the sex cycle of your partner and what easily turn your partner on, then you will have a little problem concrning sex issues in your relationship
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dablessed (f)
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I hope we all mean " Married Partners" sha. Otherwise, no partner is under any obligation to "be in the mood"
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mosiate (f)
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I hope we all mean " Married Partners" sha. Otherwise, no partner is under any obligation to "be in the mood"
dablessed,not necessiraly married,it can be anybody. |
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gina34 (f)
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well if your partner is not in the mood simply wait until both of you are ready for it.
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layi (m)
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@CimonJorr.
Man can be enticed easily (even if he's weak). Ladies, Just show sum thighs. If u havent got stuffs to flaunt, then just get him to see u sittin carelessly (u know what i mean). He'll use his reserve energy. Trust me.
As for ladies i don't know. Dem be stone. They Lock and Open themselves at will or so i think.
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Greatpeter (m)
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Sex is natural and should be allowed to occur naturally. Give time for arousal or romance and you will see your partner developing the interest little by little. No man/woman is a log of wood. the intrinsic factor is there. Seun should i expatiate it a little? Keep your partner warm it works faster in warmth atmosphere  |
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hopy2005 (f)
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Please, let me hail my people,
latoya-good point
trooper- YES, I agree with you.
mosiate- Exactly
deblessed- that is it, nice talk.
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dablessed (f)
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Ose ojere Hopy2005
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hopy2005 (f)
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baby girl, are u speaking french,
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dablessed (f)
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Oh i'm sorry, thought u understood the russian language. no worries, i shall translate: Thank you Hopy2005"
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mosiate (f)
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Sex is natural and should be allowed to occur naturally.
u're in the spirit i almost post the same thing. hoppy,thank you. |
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maclee (m)
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mosiate, if it happens to u, what will be on your mind? please I'm not trying to be rude..
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mosiate (f)
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mosiate, if it happens to u, what will be on your mind? please I'm not trying to be rude..
nice question,if it hardly happens,i will understand,but if it is now often,i will think probably he has start cheating on me or i've done something wrong to him,i'll try to find out what the problem is and make amendment. secondly,may he caugth STDs |
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CimonJorr (m)
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@ Layi... I still maintain that some times men can not be that easily turned on.. and it may be due to any number of factors... (which I don't want to get into here).. Bottom line.. What does the lady who needs to have it do then..?? |
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Motee (f)
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Goodpoint "Keep your partner warm it works faster in warmth atmosphere " but some ladies don't just like sex and am not saying they don't make love.
N.B(They are not lesbian and do not use any stuff to have a feel). because of rules i can't express to much[size=8pt][/size]
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layi (m)
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@CimonJorr
You r right. You want sex from a man who just lost his job or mother(and u know)? thats probably suicide mission.
That said,i still maintain that men are more easily turned on than women. The gap is really wide.
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vexxy (f)
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You are right about that. For women, getting in the mood starts way before you even enter the bedroom.
Most men don't take the time to understand that. Also, it seems as if men show their love and affection, and receive love and affection through physical intamicy. Women operate emotionally. Most men can feel that you don't love them, or like them if you won't get physical with them. It doesn't work that way for a woman.
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abuguy64 (m)
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Good talk Vexxy! The sooner men realise that that there is more to a relationship than sex,the better the world will be.
Having said that,suffice is to say that the sooner women realise that men are not mind readers, the less frustrated women will be in a relationship.
But like someone said ealier,both partners,should take the extra effort to study each other well enough to know when it is better to go take a cool shower,than to expect any bedroom action.
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vexxy (f)
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Amen to that, Abuguy64
Women to tend to expect men to know how they are feeling or what they may want at any given moment. Communication is the key to a satisfying relationship. A couple should never hold back on communicating how they feel or how they like to be loved.
There are so many ways to love someone. Words of affection, physical intimacy, quality time, etc. You need to take the time to find out which category your partner falls in and cater to that need.
A relationship needs to be worked on every day. There is always room for improvement. It's not going to be easy. Once that newness of the relationship wears off (in which sex is most practiced), you are left with the real person who you need to love and cherish and try to understand to keep things flowing.
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