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Question: Majority of Igbo Men Marry  At  Age Bracket 25,30,35,40
Yes b/w 20 & 35 - 1 (33.3%)
No  b/w 35 & 40 - 2 (66.7%)
Total Votes: 3

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May kelly (f)
Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« on: April 12, 2008, 12:58 PM »

Am wondering why Igbo Men hate to marry in good time. Is it that they prefer money, house, wealth than having a wife? Please can somebody tell me why?
don buchi (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #1 on: April 12, 2008, 01:16 PM »

Are you been approached by any about that age bracket? EH!!!!
echelon (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #2 on: April 12, 2008, 01:18 PM »

The average Igbo guy wants to "arrive" first before marrying. By that I mean buy a car, build a house, and have a fledging enterprise running before getting into marriage. These days they marry around age 30 and not 45/ 50/ 60 years
lucabrasi (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #3 on: April 12, 2008, 08:52 PM »

its not their fault,its a known fact that marying from ibo land is a massive capital intensive project  and these  guys need to make enough money first for the whole wedding proces and then taking care of the family
OMO IBO (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Cultur
« #4 on: April 12, 2008, 10:27 PM »

as an igbo boy, i've never really taken note of this trend. i thought everyone got married when they are ready and not when the material things are in place. if it so happens to be in the 30's, 40's and 50's then so be it
stillwater (f)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #5 on: April 12, 2008, 11:43 PM »

It's not their culture. But there's a truth in it that they tend to marry later than any other Nigerian ethnicity, moreover your age bracket estimation is over the top.
SAM MILLA (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #6 on: April 13, 2008, 01:13 AM »

@poster,
 Did you also notice that igbo people are the least in divorce cases, They believe in being able to take care of their wives before marrying them. Average igbo guy does not depend on his fathers house or wealth. They want to build their own houses before getting married. I don't say this is right or wrong but i believe that marriage is not what you jump into because you love a girl or a boy, Besides why are other tribes not marrying at 12 or 13,



MY FATHER MARRIED AT 23 AND HE IS IGBO
OMO IBO (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Cultur
« #7 on: April 13, 2008, 08:06 AM »

Quote from: SAM MILLA on April 13, 2008, 01:13 AM
@poster,
 Did you also notice that igbo people are the least in divorce cases, They believe in being able to take care of their wives before marrying them. Average igbo guy does not depend on his fathers house or wealth. They want to build their own houses before getting married. I don't say this is right or wrong but i believe that marriage is not what you jump into because you love a girl or a boy, Besides why are other tribes not marrying at 12 or 13,



MY FATHER MARRIED AT 23 AND HE IS IGBO


GBAM!
May kelly (f)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #8 on: April 14, 2008, 12:11 PM »

Quote from: SAM MILLA on April 13, 2008, 01:13 AM
@poster,
 Did you also notice that igbo people are the least in divorce cases, They believe in being able to take care of their wives before marrying them. Average igbo guy does not depend on his fathers house or wealth. They want to build their own houses before getting married. I don't say this is right or wrong but i believe that marriage is not what you jump into because you love a girl or a boy, Besides why are other tribes not marrying at 12 or 13,
MY FATHER MARRIED AT 23 AND HE IS IGBO


Yes your father married, what about you. Igbo do not have the least in divorce case, where did you get that statistics from?

Quote from: OMO IBO on April 12, 2008, 10:27 PM
as an igbo boy, i've never really taken note of this trend. i thought everyone got married when they are ready and not when the material things are in place. if it so happens to be in the 30's, 40's and 50's then so be it

So be it. exactly what we are talking about, so why should it be? is it right? Huh

Quote from: echelon on April 12, 2008, 01:18 PM
The average Igbo guy wants to "arrive" first before marrying. By that I mean buy a car, build a house, and have a fledging enterprise running before getting into marriage. These days they marry around age 30 and not 45/ 50/ 60 years

No, They don't marrry around 30 nor 35 but from 43 and above
echelon (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #9 on: April 14, 2008, 01:09 PM »

Quote from: May kelly on April 14, 2008, 12:11 PM
No, They don't marrry around 30 nor 35 but from 43 and above

Oh really? Well how did you come up with that? How can you be so exact at 43? Is it that you know one person that married at 43 and you are now generalizing? My last three cousins that married were less than 34 before marriage.
tboy1 (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #10 on: April 14, 2008, 01:18 PM »

I was going 2 say the same thing. Although i'm not igbo i have gone to at least 7 igbo weddings and i believe the age range was around 27 - 34 for the husbands

@Poster

You might probably know maybe 1 or 2 people that got married @ that age, that does not mean you should generalize the whole igbo tribe.
OMO IBO (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Cultur
« #11 on: April 14, 2008, 02:06 PM »

Quote from: May kelly on April 14, 2008, 12:11 PM
Yes your father married, what about you. Igbo do not have the least in divorce case, where did you get that statistics from?

So be it. exactly what we are talking about, so why should it be? is it right? Huh

No, They don't marrry around 30 nor 35 but from 43 and above
u seem bitter about something? did your boy friend tell u he has to make some money before taking u to the alter?
May kelly (f)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #12 on: April 14, 2008, 05:14 PM »

Quote from: tboy1 on April 14, 2008, 01:18 PM
I was going 2 say the same thing. Although i'm not igbo i have gone to at least 7 igbo weddings and i believe the age range was around 27 - 34 for the husbands
@Poster
You might probably know maybe 1 or 2 people that got married @ that age, that does not mean you should generalize the whole igbo tribe.

i guess it was only those 2 people that you know in Igbo land. And how did agree you asscertain that their age were b/w 27 and 34. or did you dicovered that on their faces or did they printed it on their wedding card, common you don't know anything about the igbo men and their late marriage stuff.

Quote from: echelon on April 14, 2008, 01:09 PM
Oh really? Well how did you come up with that? How can you be so exact at 43? Is it that you know one person that married at 43 and you are now generalizing? My last three cousins that married were less than 34 before marriage.

If truely you want to tell yourself the truth and keep away this your sentiments; truely the age brackets i 45,50 even 60 is correct

Quote from: OMO IBO on April 14, 2008, 02:06 PM
u seem bitter about something? did your boy friend tell u he has to make some money before taking u to the alter?

You are dirty inside and outside. shame to you for keeping a girl friend because surely the pit of hell is waiting for you. You seem  to be  Angry because I have touch that part you wouldn't want people to know about.
stillwater (f)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #13 on: April 14, 2008, 05:20 PM »

I don't see any need to go defensive, May kelly Undecided
OMO IBO (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Cultur
« #14 on: April 14, 2008, 05:23 PM »

Quote from: May kelly on April 14, 2008, 05:14 PM
i guess it was only those 2 people that you know in Igbo land. And how did agree you asscertain that their age were b/w 27 and 34. or did you dicovered that on their faces or did they printed it on their wedding card, common you don't know anything about the igbo men and their late marriage stuff.

If truely you want to tell yourself the truth and keep away this your sentiments; truely the age brackets i 45,50 even 60 is correct

You are dirty inside and outside. shame to you for keeping a girl friend because surely the pit of hell is waiting for you. You seem  to be  Angry because I have touch that part you wouldn't want people to know about.

hahahahahahahahahahahhahhahahahahaahha. chei ya
u just confirmed your frustration. i no blame u. may i stress that marriage is not a do or die affair.
Kashif (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #15 on: April 14, 2008, 06:01 PM »

Quote from: May kelly on April 14, 2008, 05:14 PM
i guess it was only those 2 people that you know in Igbo land. And how did agree you asscertain that their age were b/w 27 and 34. or did you dicovered that on their faces or did they printed it on their wedding card, common you don't know anything about the igbo men and their late marriage stuff.

If truely you want to tell yourself the truth and keep away this your sentiments; truely the age brackets i 45,50 even 60 is correct

You are dirty inside and outside. shame to you for keeping a girl friend because surely the pit of hell is waiting for you. You seem to be Angry because I have touch that part you wouldn't want people to know about.


There are probably things you have not told us and until we are told those, we (especially me) will remain shocked at your outburst. Shocked

We should always try to avoid making permanent decisions on temporal situations. Wink

ebelegirl (f)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Cultur
« #16 on: April 14, 2008, 08:29 PM »

Quote from: OMO IBO on April 14, 2008, 02:06 PM
u seem bitter about something? did your boy friend tell u he has to make some money before taking u to the alter?

LOL I was thinking the same thing. @ Poster, where did u come up with a random as hell # such as 43! LOL, I am Igbo and I have been to many Igbo weddings and NONE have been that age, Oh I guess they were not included in the sample size for your accurate and in depth research,
grafikdon (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Cultur
« #17 on: April 14, 2008, 09:20 PM »

Lol. . . na wa for WAEC o. . . somebody is not telling us the full story  Grin Grin  She just goes gangtsa-chow-pow  on anyone that truncates her 'impeccable' age range 'research'.  Lips sealed
grafikdon (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Cultur
« #18 on: April 14, 2008, 09:29 PM »

Quote from: May kelly on April 14, 2008, 12:11 PM
Yes your father married, what about you. Igbo do not have the least in divorce case, where did you get that statistics from?

So be it. exactly what we are talking about, so why should it be? is it right? Huh

No, They don't marrry around 30 nor 35 but from 43 and above

I am not sure what else you'd like to hear/see, considering you've been given the most obvious/reasonable answers. Perhaps you want somebody to confirm your research, no? Unfortunately, there won't be such confirmation because the marriage age range for Igbo men that you want to push down our throats is not anywhere near the truth.
nwando
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #19 on: April 14, 2008, 09:41 PM »

Igbo this Igbo that.
The average age of marriage amongst nigerian men nowadays is 34 or thereabout.
It cuts across.
We have a poster out to make a  stupid and baseless point.
The topic said Igbo men marry at 45,50 60 and also she says the average is 43 Shocked Shocked
let's hear her out.
I'm sure she has a father who by her estimation must be in his mid eighties to nineties.

If she has a 60 year old Igbo suitor all she needs to do is turn him down not make false generalization.
It's not by force to marry sef.
grafikdon (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Cultur
« #20 on: April 14, 2008, 09:52 PM »

Quote from: nwando on April 14, 2008, 09:41 PM
Igbo this Igbo that.
The average age of marriage amongst nigerian men nowadays is 34 or thereabout.
It cuts across.
We have a poster out to make a  stupid and baseless point.
The topic said Igbo men marry at 45,50 60 and also she says the average is 43 Shocked Shocked
let's hear her out.
I'm sure she has a father who by her estimation must be in his mid eighties to nineties.

If she has a 60 year old Igbo suitor all she needs to do is turn him down not make false generalization.
It's not by force to marry sef.



 Grin Grin Grin  I wonder o. Could it be that somebody was approached by a 60 yr old Igbo 'bachelor' who was actually hunting for a second wife since Mama Augustina has gone all flabby?  Lips sealed I think we can provide the right answer if the poster can tell us that hidden story. . . or at least 0.9% of the hidden story.  Undecided
Zandra1 (f)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Cultur
« #21 on: April 15, 2008, 01:35 AM »


Buhehe  Cheesy Cheesy , 45 to 60 years kwa. O di egwu ooo.
May kelly (f)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #22 on: April 15, 2008, 11:26 AM »

@OMO IBO, nwando, grafikdon, Kashif
You all are something else. How could you people tell lie this length. anyway those who will tell them the truth are yet to post. Yoruba and hausa are the ones that marry at twenties and thrities. If an Igbo man say is age is 30 defintely he is beyond that, and when he said 34 surely he is beyond that as well/ or should i invite the hausas and the yorubas to help explain to you all. Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
grafikdon (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Cultur
« #23 on: April 15, 2008, 01:35 PM »

Quote from: May kelly on April 15, 2008, 11:26 AM
@OMO IBO, nwando, grafikdon, Kashif
You all are something else. How could you people tell lie this length. anyway those who will tell them the truth are yet to post. Yoruba and hausa are the ones that marry at twenties and thrities. If an Igbo man say is age is 30 defintely he is beyond that, and when he said 34 surely he is beyond that as well/ or should i invite the hausas and the yorubas to help explain to you all. Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

Ndo. . . sorry . . . kpele . . . . Like you were advised, all you had to say was 'NO' to the 60(49)  yr old Igbo suitor. . . not by force my sister.  Lips sealed Lips sealed  Grin Grin
earthrealm (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #24 on: April 15, 2008, 02:50 PM »

the  poster  may  hv  a  point, but  i  think  her  ave  age  of  40/50/60  are  way  out of  line,
between  29  n  35  is  the  norm, n  this  is  because   in ibo  land, before  a  young  man  decides/tells  his  people  that  he  wants  to  marrry, he  must  hv  weighed  his  pocket  well  well, because  he  doesnt  expect  any/much  help from  his  family, its  generally  belived  in  ibo  land  that u should  be  able  2  pay  the  piper, if  u  want to  hear  him  play!!! Shocked

this is unlike the yorubas  who  encourage  theri  sons  2  marry  early, even  in  final  yr/nysc  level, n  u  see them  supporting  the  guy  financially  n  otherwise,

each  of  these  has  its  advantages  n  disadvantages, i  aint  supporting  or  against  either,

but  i  blv  that  before u dream  of  getting  married, u  should  hv  basic  stuff, like  a  house, whether  rented  or  your  own  n  a  means of  livelihood, a  car  is  optional, but  4  urs  truly, its  a  must Cheesy
londoner
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #25 on: April 15, 2008, 07:21 PM »

OP, why are you getting so hot under the collar? People have their own opinions on the matter, they obviously have not experienced what you assert is supposedly the norm among Igbo men. I have to say, that I have never been to an Igbo wedding where  the groom was over 40, all in their thirties, but I wont say they don't happen.

Anyhoo, I agree that many expect a man who says he wants to marry to be settled or even accomplished in other areas of his life first. He is assuming some  responsibilty by getting married.

In this day and age, I think many cultures around the world are seeing later marriages.
romeo (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Cultur
« #26 on: April 20, 2008, 04:46 PM »

At what age did your family members got married? i know you are igbo.
May kelly (f)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #27 on: April 22, 2008, 04:44 PM »

Quote from: romeo on April 20, 2008, 04:46 PM
At what age did your family members got married? i know you are igbo.

How dare you. Who told you am ibo. do not ever mention that again, you hear me Huh Huh Huh so be warned!
romeo (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Cultur
« #28 on: April 22, 2008, 04:56 PM »

Quote from: May kelly on April 22, 2008, 04:44 PM
How dare you. Who told you am ibo. do not ever mention that again, you hear me Huh Huh Huh so be warned!

You're a dumb idiot!! why are you so interested in igbo men and their age? ewu!!
Mortiple (m)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #29 on: April 22, 2008, 05:19 PM »

"Igbo Men Marry Late At  Age Bracket (45,50,60)" , and so what?  Whose business? Ours (I mean Ndigbo) of course!  So, @poster, how does this concern you?  See trouble see me o!  You are a hired mourner, that cries more than the bereaved.

Quote from: May kelly on April 22, 2008, 04:44 PM
How dare you. Who told you am ibo. do not ever mention that again, you hear me Huh Huh Huh so be warned!

You so hate Igbos yet you made a 'conclusive' research on their lifestyle.  I take it to mean that you don't know what to do with your time.  Please get busy!


naija_diva (f)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #30 on: April 22, 2008, 05:26 PM »

@topic

well the men i see marrying at that ages are usually on their 2nd and 3rd wife.
nwandolina (f)
Re: Why Do Igbo Men Marry Late At Age Bracket (45,50,60), Or Is It Their Culture
« #31 on: April 22, 2008, 11:04 PM »

Quote from: naija_diva on April 22, 2008, 05:26 PM
@topic

well the men i see marrying at that ages are usually on their 2nd and 3rd wife.

no according to May kelly who's Igbo
Her dad got married at 60 and her suitors are 60 Grin
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