so keep the country together because of some kids who may be confused? To keep them in a structure that will fail them? let them be in limbo for a period, some unpleasant consequences will definitely be felt from a break up, but we cannot stop it simply because of that.
I dare say you would reconsider your statements if your kids happened to be one of those confused.
No.Not just because of the lives of some of these 'confused' kids (which is definitely a compelling reason - unless I'm missing something here

), but because your plan is not even guaranteed to work. There is too much complexity involved when you consider how long it will take to stabilize the new nation. It is still a risk and I'm sure you're unsure when the risk of terminationg so many innocent lives will outweigh the unknown rewards. The bloodshed would be too much to ponder. You can argue that in an ideal situation there will be no bloodshed, but this is not an ideal situation, and as is always the case in issues like these, there is bloodshed.
democracy can lead to separation - people deciding they DON'T want to be together
How can the people decide they don't' want to be together when they don't even have a voice? That's why I brought up the idea of a better government. Yes, democracy can lead to separation but the point is, separation does not automatically lead to om.
Of course it will be tough, painful and all that, but does that mean we subject an entire generation to suffering because we don't want a few people to be uncomfortable?
It's as if you're putting a price on human life. How few is a few? Keep in mind we that we have invested almost 50 years of 'independence' into this country. Over those 50 years, there has been too much interaction, too much inter-marriage, too much invested to simply cast away a certain generation of people as being "too few". I don't think that is sufficient reason IMO.
Afterall, people are getting killed now anyways. If the present union is unworkable, a so called 'better government' will not solve it.
Then the question is why are people getting killed. And, yes a better government can solve it; "better government" is, in this sense, perspective. A great government IMO should listen to the voice of the people, and if the people apply common sense they can easily find a solution to this nightmare. Failure of the government to look deeply into it and address it severely is a very valid reason as per why it's still going on, IMO.
If the killings are as a result of tribalism, then breaking away will only make it worse, especially when you consider that Nigeria has so many dozen ethnicities. What makes you think more conflict would not breakout as a result of hateful tensions amongst the new mini-sects?
Besides, this is all speculative. How can we be sure that it will work? The consequences could most likely be as devastating as the horrors in recent Somalia. Or even the eritrea-ethiopia split.
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As an aside, I just decided to go over the thread and saw that this idea was anulled on the first page.
This whole thing is silly and will only result in a discussion ad infinitum over an insurmountable agenda.