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ernal (m)
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wrong tunes, what makes u think the next person wont be the real Devil,u people don't get it,its the 20 08 folks no guy wants to be tied down when there isnt anything feasible at the end of the tunnel.Girl friend try and be enterprenur and keep your guy,he will want u at all cost when u better yourself,its not about finding the right person,its about being the right person, nothing bad if girl bring roller coaster also.plsssssssssssssssssssss
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adconline (m)
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I don't know why some women are much fixated on marriage. Guys are practical and some women are emotionally ladened when involved with someone they love. Guys don't get married to grant a woman's wish, guys don't get married because of emotions; guys don't get married in order to belong. Guys look beyond emotions, that guy is thinking, if I promise her and don’t t make it big in life, will she still marry me? Will she respect me? Guys are more nervous about their future than marriage. Guys get married because they think that are financially, emotionally, physiologically matured.
If his parents borrowed money to see him through the university, last thing he does not want to mention to his parents is "marriage" SO CHILL OUT and drink some cool aid. Its going to get tougher before it gets good. Your boyfriend “ got 99 problems marriage aint one” Guys don’t really like it when women bother them with marriage issues , they might think that you are so desperate.
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picaro
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so? if you don't love him anymore, leave him. you really should make him KNOW you have options. better ones. leave that punk! thats advice right there!
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olrotimi (m)
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so is that what makes you cry? oh poor you.get on with your life
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ernal (m)
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adconline ,well said.
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websmillio (m)
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 4 Years? he was just passing time with you. It is pain on your side - But leave him. He found someone outside where you can't see. You are young, can find a new path. Never look back. Go forward. 
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Sonye (f)
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my dear, its not the number of years that matter. its how well. if he does not make you happy, then what are you waiting for? miracle? i have a friend that dated this guy for 9 years. she felt it will be him all the way. the thing was that she was thinking it herself. meanwhile the guy was looking for someone he could be with to better his status in the UK. only for the guy to call her and told her he was getting married saying "you know how life is nah!" my dear, use your head  |
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ayando (m)
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i think he feels you are making him conscious of what he fears most :-Xsome men are too afraid to wake up to the fact that they have a duty to perform.Anyway i think you should give him space so that he can think while you stay away from any form of relationship, goodluck and cheers,
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spoilt (f)
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Right now that student boyfriend seems like your everything. He's actually doing you a favor. Let a few years roll by and you'll probably thank the heavens that you left your options open. I kid you not.
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angeleses
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have u foked him enough? please fok him very well before he dumps yah-
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uspry1 (f)
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LOL, you cry over a guy whom you dated for 4 years. Is he your FIRST BF?
You sound like tightly clingy to him that make him feel uncomfortable!
Good luck dreaming of him as your future husband THAT WILL NOT GOING HAPPEN!!!
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amaikama (m)
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Bymya! i believe he loves you. he just want to show you his man ego for a change and see how you hold on. All what he could be doing right now is testing your character towards him, how patient you are with him even when he makes you cry. I could be wrong but have a heart to heart talk with him why he is making you to feel as if you are nothing to him even when you bring up marriage issue with him.
Best of luck
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Redeemed
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Please my dear just pack your belongings and leave him alone, he does not love you and don't count any cost because if you don't take that action now because you want to avoid heartbreak, he will definetely break your heart,just take that step. God will give you someone that will cherish you.
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loissarah
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Dear, i would advice you to pray towards it. I'm facing the same problem now and suitors are coming. jst seek the face pf God in prayers if truly you love this person in question, but if he is not the will of God for you, you jst have to back off and believe God for the best. Thoe, its not easy, but believe it will work out for good.
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ArseQPR (m)
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The truth is that girls are more matured than guys of the same age. So when both are 25 and about to graduate, the girl is thinking of marriage while the guy wants to get a job and leave his parents house. The thing is, girls want marriage and guys want independence. You guys need to talk about you relationship. The guy should give the girl assurance about his love for her because at this stage in a girl's life, she wants to be loved and assured and if the guy could not give it the irl would leave.
You have to balance your options as a girl because leaving him would mean wasting 4 years of your life and at the same time if you think you are not getting what you want from him, well its going to be his loss. The thing is guys are always miserable when their girls leave them after years of a relationship.
You need to talk to him and let him see things from your view from the thins you guys planned and if you sense to changes, well you decide,
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NParade
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Girl you are better start dreaming about sm.bdy else before it is too late after all he was not made for you so u have to move on with your life baby u will find sm.1 u love more than him self u be girl na u know every so take care and plz dnt try to force your self on him cus u will regret the whole setup later 1 love  |
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moyinmc
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I think its normal 4 someone who is yet to know 'where the head wishes to follow the neck' to be jittery of marriage commitment.
To this guy the future is still CLOUDY & unpromising.
For now less talk about MARRIAGE much talk about how to better your career . Discuss with him how you two will be able to pull trough life after sch. when no more pocket money from dad & Uncles,
You need to build in him the confidence that 2morrow will be great then he will picture you beside him in the paradise of that 2morrow!
Shikenah!!
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Bblak (f)
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What's the essence of being with a man that will be more interested in your sadness and tearslike you rightly said than your hapiness.Please,this guy isn't into you. just give him space and move on with your life.shit happens abeg
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na2day? (m)
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Please,this guy ain't into you.
is that english or what? american wannabe. sister, it is not by force, all these forming wey una dey do for here, una go wound oooo. be real and be your self.  |
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lightest (m)
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baby, take this serious so that you won't nd up in the trash. take your time, study your guy and stop sex for now. never discuss marriage again because the guy is a guy and he knows what he wants. he will never allow you to push him because he his using his head to make calculation while you are using your head to talk marriage. afterall, what will you be eating after marriage. se naaa sex you go dey shop? baby, there are more things for a guy in life than rushing to get married. the guy might love you so dearly. this happened to me and my girl ran away even though i loved her so much. guess what she married the wrong guy and she is blaming herself now. for real take your time and use your head to make calculations. cheers
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ELIJAHLOVE
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i really hope u told us every thing that transpired between u two that would have led to "making u cry", i ve been in this kind of relationship. If i may let u know my mind, i will tell him that guy LOVES u and still does. If u want to know, stop pestering him with the issue of marriage just be the best u can be, i mean Be THE BEST u can be, be more committed, caring, faithful and all-it will amaze u to see his response, he will be more than anxious to settle down with u at the slightest oppourtuinity.
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welli (f)
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keep on crying.smtimes it is needed.smtimes our vision only get clearer when our eyes has been washed by tears
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zarazara
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But he is right sha! you do have a choice and so does he. You have a choice to date other people if you choose. You have a choice not to marry him if he ends up proposing. If he's reminding you about your choice, I think he's secretly letting you that he has a choice too and your eagerness to get married may be causing him palpitation hence the reason we're talking about choices/why he's indirectly reminding you of your choice. Take it easy on the brother oh!
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fashizzle (m)
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keep on crying.smtimes it is needed.smtimes our vision only get clearer when our eyes has been washed by tears
You call this advice? |
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adconline (m)
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stop crying if you are going to pay for the traditional and white weddings. tell the guy that you and your family will pay for everything, and you will see his reaction.
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Kemjisuper (m)
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Funny, my girlfriend recently started saying the same thing to me - I hurt her a lot?, I'm inconsiderate? I don't even know how.   To the best of my knowledge, I don't cheat or neglect her, visit her every weekend and stuff. I'm suspecting she's been listening to some foolish comments and suggestions from false friends. Anyways, if she persists, I'll handle it in the way I know best! Cheers |
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welli (f)
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@ fashizzle.what do u see it as?read beyound the letters and u will see sense in it
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naijababi
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hes being very childish!! i guess u show him too much love that is why. just give him space 4 a while and start checkin 4 oda options wivout even stressing bout him ( i knw its hard) an dif hes really serious he'll come back for you and if hes not u move on with your life. let him knw your not desperate habba that is ridiculous after 4 years!!! but that kinds of reminds me of my ex. he said things like that to me just to hurt me funny enough we dated 4 about 4 years aswell but i left and moved on to higher levels and he came trying to trick me bck to his life but i moved on and imv ery happy now. please do the same. theres someone out there that will love and cherish you!!
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cixluv (f)
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 that's cruel
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Radiant (f)
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. . . . .it never ends in this land  He hasn't said he won't marry you. He just said it's your choice. . ouch! To me that's a crazy answer and a sign on the wall but like he said, it's your choicelol All this desperation for marriage is becomin really boring. |
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