How to Deal With a Wife That Nags a Lot

I have a nagging wife, and many of your arguments and perceptions are incorrect.  I'm by no means perfect, however my wife began her nagging about 1 year after we got married.  I would do many things which I thought were good and appreciated, only to find out they were not done to her UNSPOKEN expectations.  Ok, so I changed the way I did it to meet her expectations,   Yes, you guessed it, her expectations changed, and the nagging continued,   What message did I receive from this?  It doesn't matter what I do, good, bad, better, best, even surprises, she nags,    So, to remain sane, I ignore her and go on about my business,    And yes, the nagging continues, but I don't hear it.  I just laugh (internally) at her lunacy and rants,

There are 3 things a woman really needs

1. A loving compassionate respectful man

2. Peace of mind

3. Financial stabiliy

When men understand and work with us on these it would be easier to reach a common ground with us (women). Personally, I don't fancy annoying men who cause women to nag no matter how handsome and or smart he is.

lol, nwaka

My dear its in the nature of women to keep talking and men to do the listening, sometimes just compromise so that they can be peace.

you just have to live with it, its not enough reason for mischieve just try and understand her.

A woman nags when a woman (under marries) I mean when alot of family responsibilities are left for her alone to carry and deal with so don't look for how to deal with a wife that nags rather you should be looking for how to deal with what causes those nagging so I make sense to you. Men do nag too

Nagging wife,,,,,
  Hit the ignore button and go into silent mode. Na she go tire

@RIst84sale,


            I used the word "nag" because that is what the poster used so that I can convey my opinion

Preamble: Married 10 years and she has been nagging less than a year from when we got married.

I have tried everything from tuning off, with the occasional nod, to nagging match (I must confess I was not of a match, it actually left me worse), to the most recent leaving the house for some hours. In fact I think the most recent (3 weeks and counting) is the most effective, but leaving was not easy as she barred the door with her person in order to prevent me from leaving till I heard her very last word. But I was not having it,  I actually had to "break bottle" for my wife before she left the door post.

So I think the combination of breaking bottle (i did not use it) and leaving the house for a while is effective but like I said its 3 weeks (a record in 9+ years) and am counting.

BTW, as for the bible verse "It is better to live on the roof top of your house, " That is so true as I have converted our attic into 3 rooms and moved my home/office there.

Patience.

Wifes do nag to take control of her husband. Even though husband does all that she needs she will find the smallest mistakes and start nagging. At an extreme stage of nagging , if the husband responds negatively to her nagging , then she will start a new chapter with that negative action.

So only option for husband who are stuck with monogamy & nagging wife is to follow Christianity :

Judges 16:16 (New International Version)
With such nagging she prodded him day after day until he was tired to death.

Proverbs 21:9 ESV / 9 helpful votes
It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.

Proverbs 21:19 ESV / 7 helpful votes
It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.

OR Do a crime and get a place in jail.


Man prefers jail to wife's nagging

A man sentenced to nine months house arrest begged a judge to jail him instead because he couldn't stand his wife's nagging.
Algerian Ahmed Salhi, 24, was sentenced to a nine month curfew at home with his Italian wife in Ferrara, northern Italy.
But he went back to court after a week and begged the judge to jail him because he could not bear her nagging.
Salhi was sentenced to nine months house arrest after breaching immigration regulations.
But he turned up at his local courtroom and begged to be taken into custody because he said he could no longer stand living with her, and would rather be behind bars, Corriere della Sera reported.
He said: "I need some peace." A local court agreed to the Salhi's request and he has been jailed for the rest of his sentence.
http://www.ananova.com/news/story/sm_1569804.html?menu=


But for me, neither I have the previlage to live in a corner of house nor can I escape to a desert. And i dont like to be in a jail.

Oh Jesus, why havent you given more options? I think you lack experience. You should have married atleast once.

Now ladies and Gent,

This is the conclusion of the matter.
Once I has a neighbour who shows so much love, affection and care on the wife; opened two cosmetics shops for her, bought her a car, enough food items at home plus monthly upkeep cash but she keeps disapproving his efforts nagging and comparing him with me. I mean me,  because the man was so nagged that he confessed this to me. Sometimes i saw him shed slight tears that almost makes me sober. Frankly some loving men can be too soft in heart.

This woman's attitude was begining to influence other women in the compound that most of the men became annoyingly afraid

Solution

Collectively, we adviced the man to rent an apartment juct opposite our compound which he did. Further advice was that he should keep deaf ears and retire to the apartment the moment the wife starts serious nagging which he also complies. On the first day he retired to the new apartment due to a nagging wife, the wife became more furious and came complaining to me. Of course i advised her to go settle amicably with her husband. On reaching  there and knocking for the door to be opened, what she got was a continous splash of olive oil all over her body and blood of Jesus !!!!!!!! from the husband who after spraying about 2 big bottles of the olive oil quickly closed the door.

My friends, the next day the wife surrendered and till day she has never nagged but has learnt to believe that Rome was not built in a day and staying single is not always the best for women.

My advice is that ladies should be patient with men, feed them very well and above all appreciate their little effort and respect them with all sense of humility.

Confession

My wife is almost controlling me but she doesnt know. This is because all her demand comes after i have rested enough, with a smile and written on a small sheet of paper. Secondly, since 7 years of marriage, she serves my food, greets me with a slight traditional bending of her knees while attaching "Sir" to every call and answer. My daughter has learnt this mode of greeting and appreciation and it trips me so much that i always has the strenght to show her more luv 24/7.

But meeeen if cash no dey. e dey worry oh

Just a bit of the yoruba style that has been sustaining their growth everywhere 
Never under estimate your/your partners culture. It can cost you your life/happiness. Do you think your boss in the office is truly happy the 20th century way you greet/appreciate him? Hii Mr boss whatz up. Politiks is very important in all aspect of life to survive unless you are luckier than OBJ or born with a platinum spoon in your mouth.

Men love that Oga, Sir, My Lord stuff.

Thursday, September 4, 2008


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The latest victim of ransom-thirsty gunmen is the daughter of a staff of Agip Oil Company (NAOC) in the Rivers State capital.

She was kidnapped by unknown armed men who forced their way into her No 7 Odoka Close, Off Ada George Road residence. No group has claimed responsibility for the incident as at press time.
Confirming the abduction, the spokesman for the military Joint Task Force (JTF), Lt. Col. Sagir Musa, said security agents have been put on the alert to hunt down the gunmen and rescue the girl.
He confirmed that, “contact has not been made and no ransom demanded.” Col. Musa appealed to members of the public to assist the police and other security agencies with, ‘credible information’ that could help secure the girl’s release and apprehend the culprits.

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According to investigations, the battle was triggered by attempts of militants to invade military formations in the state and frustrate the visit of the new Chief of Defence Staff, Air Marshall Paul Dike and the Senate Committee on Defence.

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The soldiers on duty responded and they battle for about four hours before the militants decided to leave.

No causality has been confirmed as of the time of filling this report but sources in the area said some militants were being treated for bullet wounds.
The Commander of the 73 Battalion in Bayelsa, Lt. Col. Chris Musa, who confirmed the story said the shooting lasted till the early hours of this morning.

“We were not surprised as intelligence report available showed they might come. But we were also ready for them. They are only trying to create a sense of insecurity for those visiting to shy away,” he added.



 

or u run away, nagging is the easiest way to kill a man, never heard of a man that can stand it.

Some tips for how to deal with a nagging wife.

1. Don't Get Married.


2. If you are married - get divorced.


(see number 1)

3. Say yes to everything.


"Don't leave your plates there!"
"Yes, dear"
"are you going to finally get that picture put up?"
"Yes, dear"
"we shouldn't have bought that picture should we?"
"yes dear"
"What would you do without me to tell you what to do."
"yes, dear"
"Why do I have to tell you to do everything?"
"yes, dear"


Just say yes. Saying yes, is the path of least resistance. However, be careful, some answers may actually require a no. For variety, you could throw in a "I completely agree" or "yes, your right". The important thing is you agree with the wife, never directly oppose her. For example, suppose she asks you to cut the lawn, but you don't want to. Just say yes. When she later asks you why you haven't done it, see: number 4, number 6 or number 2

4. Say sorry to everything.


"Why haven't you done x,y,z"
"sorry, dear"


You don't have to actually feel sorry, the important thing is to sound suitably apologetic and pathetic. This does not mean you are losing your dignity, far from it; think of it as very cleverly deflecting all the angst being directed into your corner. Through humility, you are creating harmony where there is frustration. A noble ideal, which will surely have its reward in due course.

5. Lavish Praise.

What a marvelous job you do in cleaning the house! I'm so lucky to have a wife who is so good at cleaning. What you are subtly saying is; why ask me to do it, when you do a much better job.


"Why can't you clean up those dishes,"

"but, you do a much better job than me, dear."


6. Do things so badly you will never be asked again.

Does your wife nag you to go and do the shopping? Well, why not go; but conveniently forget her list? Instead of buying sensible things, come back with intriguing selections of "gourmet" food, and 20 Ready meals (on special offer, with no need for washing up or cooking) If you do something sufficiently badly, you will not be asked again. This point is for the brave; it may require alot or reference to point number 4 (profuse apologies)

7. Presents.

Buy flowers to throw her off guard. You'll probably forget anniversaries and birthdays, so just buy in advance on some random day. "But, I can celebrate your birthday anyday."

@ Topic,

Just quietly listen. . . .