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meyome (f)
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I lost my parent years back I was in my teens then we are 8 in my family and I am the 2nd child with the help of members of the families I struggled to acquire School Cert. After which I enrolled at a roadside typing school.
I got a job as a typist in one Engineering coy the M.D of the coy had interest in my case and stepped in to assist me further my education (part-time) while I still worked for him. After some years precisely my 2nd year in university one thing led to another and we started going out as at then he had 2 wives yet I could not resist him.
He made me a woman and what I am today. I got pregnant after my service year and I decided to have the baby though there was serious pressure from my family not to go ahead and even from his wives and families as well but we were unstoppable because we were determined.
But today I no longer feel comfortable having him around me as my …… whatever I have 2 children for him a boy and a girl I have a good job I can't remember the last time I asked him for anything because I am comfortable neither my family nor his gave their consent to the union I don’t know what to do. How do I go ahead I have guilt in my mind especially when I look at the whole situation. He still comes around once in a week to see the children and I.
He has now opened a new in branch in Lagos and he wants me to relocate to Lagos to manage the business for him (we live in Abuja) this I feel reluctant doing I work as an accountant in a reputable organisation ………. I have talked with him and he told me to decide on what I want. I desire to move ahead and detach myself from this bond but I don’t know how to go about it. Please help me out.
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nossycheek (f)
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Maybe you believed you were paying him for the good he did for you. If you are no longer comfortable in the adultery you entangled yourself in, why not call off the relationship and move ahead with your life?
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algood (f)
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first and fore most where u legally maried?
If No is your answer, i think u still have your life , u can call it a quit and move on with life,
if yes, i guess u have to start all this paper work if you are really not interested in the marriage anymore.
But the most important thing his this, biblically he his not your husband.
the first wife he has is the legitimate wife.
so its a hard situation, but your best bet is to quit if you no longer intersted than enduring
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coolier (f)
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After some years precisely my 2nd year in university one thing led to another and we started going out as at then he had 2 wives yet I could not resist him.
He made me a woman and what I am today. I got pregnant after my service year and I decided to have the baby though there was serious pressure from my family not to go ahead and even from his wives and families as well but we were unstoppable because we were determined.
To me I would say you knew what you wanted and went for it. I would also want to think it's been so far so good. So tell us what went wrong or what your husband has done to you to make you feel this way now. You can't just wake up one day and start feeling like this - there has to be more to it. |
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Radiant (f)
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There's somethin about married men that I'm yet to understand. Discuss the issue with him and see how u'll resolve it. I really don't know what to say to u after having 2 kids with him  Situations!!!  |
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Sweet T (m)
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@Poster
I have a sense that your not telling us the whole story here. You knew the man was married before you had babies for him and now your fed up? Deal with it sweetheart, you made your bed and now your sleeping in it !!! IT DRIVES ME TO THE WALL WHEN WOMEN ACTS LIKE THEY WERE BLINDFOLDED WHEN THEY GET INVOLVED WITH A MAN. THEY SEE THE BOLD SIGNS AND LETTERS ON THE WALL AND YET THEY JUMP ON HIS DI CK. LATER THEM GO START CRYING HOLYFIRE!!
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EKENEA (m)
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Hmmmmm, women,women, women, they all think same way.
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damatiti (f)
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He is not your husband whom you can give up your work for. Afterall, he is a cheat thats why he cheated on his wife with you and will do the same again and again with many others. You say you have a good job, don't give it up for him.
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TOYOSI20 (f)
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@ Post
Sorry to hear about all that u are going through all I can say is exercise
just a little more Patience, hopefully things will turn around for the better,
They say whatever is going to be good, sometimes starts off really bad.
Best wishes.
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spoilt (f)
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no, you sort yourself out. You walked in with eyes wide open. Goodluck.  |
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big_bumper (f)
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Why not find time to arrange a date/weekend break for the two of you, a kind of make or break holiday where you would be able to have a heart to heart with each other. And then from there you can make up your mind about whether you are really ready to walk from the union or stay to make things work.
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Akinagirl (f)
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I still just want to know why you are now unhappy? whats up?
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opokonwa (m)
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Stolen meat tastes good. Did I read you somewhere that both of you were determined? You're now having double-thoughts after years of adultery with your benefactor justified by your need to improve your standard of life. I'm glad that you still have a conscience. Too little too late. His and your children are littered before you. An indelible memorial to your past choices. But you can choose between continuing with your adulterous relationship and reconciling with God and nature by acting right for the first time in your life.If your children become victims of your past sins by suffering the same fate as the legitimate wives of this same man in their future respective marriages, don't become heart-broken 'cause it may happen right before your eyes. And you will have yourself to blame. A resounding legacy to your past choices. I wish you Good Luck. |
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