Romance And Social Class

it's only black people that looks at class. the quuen of England married someone less than her, imagine a queen marrying a prince and not a king and she is the head of many countries today.
Margaret Thatcher was a prime minister for so many years. If that was any of my sistas am sure you would have got rid of the man self becouse you are no longer compatable. Same applies to men.

LOOK AT THE TRUE MEANING OF LOVE AND STOP THE CRAP. YOU LOVE SOMEONE BECAUSE YOU WANT TO BE WITH THEM NOT BECAUSE OF THEIR BLOODY SOCIAL CLASS. NO WONDER THERE ARE SO MANY ROBBERS TODAY.

CLASS THIS ,CLASS THAT, ALL IS VANITY. HAPPINESS IS MOST IMPORTANT.

That's a faulted argument. White people practice the social class system very well. I hope you know that it's not only money that defines a social class. Did you even check why most noble white families will rather die than allow their son marry a jew, hispanic or black?
 
 

I second that opinion----BOOBIES---OH YES!!!!  .

More so, I do note from my personal account that ladies from low socioeconomic strata in comparison to the ones from higher social class are usually much more simple and humble. The same measure extends to men as well.

T hese kind of threads easily gets me confused. Many posts here about social strata seem to make one huge assumption : That everything is cast in stone, and that is where I beg to differ.

If social class for u means how noble u are as in the case of Kings or Queens then that is permanent. Once a blue blood always a blue blood. On the same hand if it is race , then again it is permanent. If You are a hispanic, black or white nothing changes that. You are always going to be that way.

But most of the posts here aint based on that. The basis is finance. Now tell me how is that permanent. You might be rich today but You can't really say of 2morrow. Life has a funny way of humbling people. Woe betide u as a man who got a wife based on what she percieved as social security and all of a sudden that "security is gone" Thats when the full meaning of WOEman would dawn on you 

And we men have to just let go of our ego. Assuming that You have to be earning more than your wife is sheer ignorance to say the least. Even if u get married to a woman who earns less than you, what assuarance do u have that the status quo would remain the same after 10 years. Well, maybe if u married a lazy wife then u would be assured of that but no man would willingly marry a lazy woman your wife might be lucky in her job and earn promotions more than You. So watchu u going to do? Divorce her 

to the laies --what if the man too is rich, i mean he's okay can afford a car,a house ,a well- balanced 3 meal /day diet and yet does not have the kind of money the opposite sex had, will you ladies marry, ?

Like she knows the difference.

Not really, some white folks claim they are not racists but classify themselves as the upper echelon that will rather not mic up their genes with someone whom they consider to be of lower class. These families will do anything from stopping their sons/daughters from marrying a black but if the black spouse is super rich/celebrity, they'll allow it. Are they necessarily racists or obsessed with  the class culture?

If we understand that this so-called "class" as defined by most posters here is dynamic, then why are we going to be making marriage decisions based on it. I believe marriage should be based on something more stable than our so called "class".

Sunday, April 27, 2008 

See what happens when you marry outside your class

By Chinyere Fred-Adegbulugbe


Love, they say, is blind. However, many people have argued that, though love could be blind, marriage, a product of so many love relationships, is an eye opener. Most times, when people want to marry “outside,” they are surprised that people around dissuade them from taking the decision. Love, they say, should be above class, culture and religion. And if the two people getting married are already sharing the same religion, what else could possibly be an obstacle? Certainly, not class, they usually reason.



 


 

 But really class does matter. More often than not, an individual‘s class is usually defined by a number of factors. Normally, this refers to someone‘s economic or social level. It could also be both. It is therefore given that people within different classes must have some major differences that may not be easily wished away.

That was what happened to Nnamdi. According to him, during his youth service, he met this very lovely girl at the place of his primary assignment. “She was so beautiful that almost every man in the corps’ members’ lodge were after her. In the end, the lady, who just finished a five years’ course in a commercial school in the town, agreed to date him. And because he was very sincere, before his service came to an end, he proposed marriage to her. Of course, her parents, who were petty traders in the village, couldn‘t believe their good luck; they promptly gave their consent.

However, Nnamdi‘s parents‘ reaction was something else. “My mother cried and cried, while my father told me, with very cold eyes, that he was greatly disappointed in me.

“Though the marriage did take place and Linda managed to get into a university and had a degree in English afterwards, the marriage, he confessed, wasn‘t what he had dreamt. Even after his parents had come to terms with the fact that he was married and that there was nothing anyone could do about it, Linda couldn‘t just fit in.

“Anytime my friends come around, she would withdraw to her shell and many of them thought she was being unfriendly. However, she was battling with timidity. Even after passing through the university, her childhood and where she came from refused to leave her. I could hardly go with her for parties and other social events because she would sure spoil my day. Not that I didn‘t see these things before, but I thought that, with love and patience from me, she would change,” he says.

But he was wrong. She didn‘t. And that was when the crack started in their union. He started keeping late nights and hardly invited his friends home anymore. Then the devil came in person of a female colleague that came from another branch.

”Angela and I had to work together and before long we became friends. Of course, the relationship was quite platonic at the beginning, but as we interacted, we discovered we had a lot in common and many things I couldn‘t discuss with my wife, I discussed freely with Linda,” he recollects.

Of course, he not only had an affair with her, after two years, he had bad news for his wife. He wanted another wife. His family, once again was devastated. He was bringing shame to the family by having a second wife. But his mind was made up. He married Angela, but he couldn‘t divorce Linda because he was sorry for her.

Today, he is a husband of two wives, something he never imagined could happen to him.

Certainly, there are marriages like this, where things went differently, but it usually takes a lot of hard work. Marriage experts would tell you that if have to marry below your class, you must be prepared to sacrifice a lot of things. And if you dare marry above your class you should also be ready to work hard towards fitting in. Invariably, people who go into such marriages should also be ready to work really hard at making the union successful.


http://odili.net/news/source/2008/apr/27/414.html

Being a complete asshole has nothing to do with social class.  There are complete assholes in every class.

Topbooty! you are one hundred percent correct.`at least it coming from a lady point of view now.  go on and ask some of your sister why are they acting like that ? 

"it's only black people that looks at class. the quuen of England married someone less than her, imagine a queen marrying a prince and not a king and she is the head of many countries today.
Margaret Thatcher was a prime minister for so many years. If that was any of my sistas am sure you would have got rid of the man self becouse you are no longer compatable. Same applies to men.

LOOK AT THE TRUE MEANING OF LOVE AND STOP THE CRAP. YOU LOVE SOMEONE BECAUSE YOU WANT TO BE WITH THEM NOT BECAUSE OF THEIR BLOODY SOCIAL CLASS. NO WONDER THERE ARE SO MANY ROBBERS TODAY.

CLASS THIS ,CLASS THAT, ALL IS VANITY. HAPPINESS IS MOST IMPORTANT."

I second to that my brother.