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shilees (f)
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For sometime now have not goten a Job and my boyfriend seems to b disturbed more than I do, is not that am sitting @ home doing nothing, am also fasting and praying for a job,and also learning some stuffs. He says all sort when he comes around. Funny enough is not that I ask him for money o. The latest he said was "Go get a job because u are becoming a concern to me and u knw I can't stick with that for too long".Our relationship is more than a year now abeg help me because I don't want to loose him.
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chisimdi (f)
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For sometime now have not goten a Job and my boyfriend seems to b disturbed more than I do, is not that am sitting @ home doing nothing, am also fasting and praying for a job,and also learning some stuffs. He says all sort when he comes around. Funny enough is not that I ask him for money o. The latest he said was "Go get a job because u are becoming a concern to me and u knw I can't stick with that for too long".Our relationship is more than a year now abeg help me because I don't want to loose him.
@ shilees,dumb d LOSER and get yourself a HERO because i think u deserve beta. |
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shilees (f)
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I don't av the heart to dump him besides I love him and believe He love me too but his attitude lately is something else. how can I keep him from leaving
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saucekid (m)
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@ poster
wake up and smell the coffee. . . . you don't have the heart to dump him abi?
once he dumps you,you'll come back here to cry
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Akinagirl (f)
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Dump his sawry ass, hes not worth your time, love or trouble.
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saucekid (m)
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right on girl
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simoen (f)
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girl he doesnt deserve u not at all. . . .please let him go abeg
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Sisikill
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Wait a sec. . . She should dump him? He does not deserve her? He's a loser? Jeebus! Are you serious? What if it was the other way around and it was the guy who didn't have a job, what then will you say? Dump him, He does not deserve her, He's a loserabi? *Shaking my head*@ Poster Have you been actively looking for a Jobapart from the fasting and praying I mean? Well if you are, sit him down and explain what you've been doing, tell him that it's not like you love not having a job but it's just taking longer expected. You can even make him feel like your hero ( Feed the Me Tarzan, You Jane mentality all guys have  by saying he should also help you keep an eye out for a job and if he's still all "get a job now" THEN go ahead and dump him. If you haven't started looking for a job. . . Start ASAP. |
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frank 3.16 (m)
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love love love, is suffering and smiling love?
you will be surprised at how some men treat their ladies who don't have a job.
take a brief survey and you will find out that what you guys are doing is not love
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Siena (m)
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Translates into:
1) Your boyfriend's looking for a reason to leave you.
2) Your boyfriend want's to push YOU to dump HIM, so HE doesn't have to make the decision.
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stalker (f)
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Translates into:
1) Your boyfriend's looking for a reason to leave you.
2) Your boyfriend want's to push YOU to dump HIM, so HE doesn't have to make the decision.
Totally agree with u |
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shilees (f)
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like I said earlier am seriously hunting for job i buy guardian every week with the liitle money am able to squeeze out of ma sister and all i get when he calls is "ow far anything yet"
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Siena (m)
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like I said earlier am seriously hunting for job i buy guardian every week with the liitle money am able to squeeze out of ma sister and all i get when he calls is "ow far anything yet"
Blimey. And this IS your boyfriend?  He's actually talking DOWN to you, treating you like a naughty child. He's not acting like your boyfriend, more like a father to a recalcitrant child.  Are you sure you really want to be with this guy? From all you say, you're making the effort, and I believe you love him. But, do you honestly feel he loves you?His attitude is a "put-you-down" one, and not healthy at all. He's demoralising you, whether he knows what he's doing, is another matter. I take it he was born with a job, and never had to look for one? You're running the risk of becoming down-trodden, and I feel you deserve better. Don't let him treat you like a doormat. |
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D-reloaded (f)
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1) Your boyfriend's looking for a reason to leave you. This is usually what it really translates to. Maybe im insane but don't most bfs who have jobs help their women by helping them send out their resumes too or t5elling friends to help them be on the lookout instead of making bloody threats? That aside I hope you arent just relying on "fasting and prayer" |
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shilees (f)
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I understand his concern but i just don't knw what i'll do, apart from the job thing he's a cool guy, to dump him?  i can't do that he's a honest young guy but am begining to feel bad about this job thing.we talk everyday and, i just can't let go |
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D-reloaded (f)
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well im not exactly syaing dump him. . . .yet
Just make it clear to him that you don't appreciate his behavior and that it's not helping out the situation. Also suggest that he takes your resume to places for you so you two can both be looking for your behalf
Have you check the job sectiopn here on Nairaland actually? Not sure how reliable they are but it wouldnt hurt to try.
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welli (f)
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@ poster if u aren't being a liability to him,den i see no reason why he should cry more dan d bereft.as hard as it is to understand:i think he is looking for a reason to let u slide out of his life.the ball is now in your court.
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NaJa HaJe (f)
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I understand his concern but i just don't knw what i'll do, apart from the job thing he's a cool guy, to dump him? i can't do that he's a honest young guy but am begining to feel bad about this job thing.we talk everyday and, i just can't let go If you don't want to dump him then take a break from the relationship till you can get a J-O-B Probably that will solve your problem. 1) He's stiil in your life 2) You get a job 3) You make him happy by not making him associating himself with a 'loser like you' By the way he's not the only man in the world. . . . . . there are plenty honest men out there that won't think to be there for you when you need it. Then again he may just be treating you this way because its the only way he knows to push you to look harder |
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ztyle (m)
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@poster i guess you are a marture lady, so u can differentiate between right and wrong, i don't advice u dump him according to some precious posters, one in relationship its not a small thing don't allow "JOB" to make u lose your wonderful relationship, u know what kindly go through your thread and pick out the good point from it . . . . .this is Nairaland we care's about you. |
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cixluv (f)
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@ all the ladies if it is easy 4 girl to dump a guy, then ladies will have to do the chyking, while guys do the listening. anyway, @ poster, reassure him that u will get a job and what he has to do for you is to encourage u (not blame u etc) and also pray for you. make it a heart -to-heart talk with him. i'm pretty sure him will understand u. have a nice day.  hi welli |
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ztyle (m)
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Kai, this boi talk sense today?
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cixluv (f)
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@zstyle
na wa for you.
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PurestBoy (m)
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Kai, this boi talk sense today?
True talk, o jare |
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saucekid (m)
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*boyfriend i love you weluwelu, i no go leave you weluwelu, even if you leave me weluwelu, i go still dey love you weluwelu*
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simoen (f)
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*boyfriend i love you weluwelu, i no go leave you weluwelu, even if you leave me weluwelu, i go still dey love you weluwelu*
pirated. . .   |
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OMO IBO (m)
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i took my time i went through your responses and it appears only siskill managed to turn the table. we all know what your responses would be if the tables were turned. i can only imagine what u guys would say if this guy was jobless.
by the way, im not in support of the guys' deeds
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chisimdi (f)
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i took my time i went through your responses and it appears only siskill managed to turn the table. we all know what your responses would be if the tables were turned. i can only imagine what u guys would say if this guy was jobless.
by the way, im not in support of the guys' deeds
@omo ibo, since you're nt in support,y dn't u mk your point rather dan running around d topic. |
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OMO IBO (m)
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@omo ibo, since you're nt in support,y dn't u mk your point rather dan running around d topic.
my points made already. u responded to my point |
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dutchmillionaire (m)
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@ Poster.I believe u just finished your service.and if that is so,u'vnt stayed for this job hunting for long.therefore any guy who cherishes you would only help you search for a job with you,buying the guardian himself,giving u the latest job advert in town and encouraging you to hold on too.I did not say he does not cherish you,but i feel this guy is looking for a reason to dump you.
I will advise you to monitor your friend's recent movements if you don't mind. Moreover,you have to let him know that God is the one that provides a job and not the other way round.
good luck and have faith in God
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HR.hotness (f)
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Thats a new and interesting take,,, i like at the risk of sounding anti-religion, fasting and praying wont get u a job,, u need to hit the pavement girl hav u tried starting a small business venture? how about offering your services for on the job training? If he thinks u're not doing enough, then u probably aren't, as to his breaking up with u? quit frankly any guy that cannot accept u for who you're, who issues ultimatums, isnt worth your tears, don't bend over backwards for any man, they arent worth it. get a job but get it for yourself, make yourself a better person and a guy who'll appreciate your individuality will come along |
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