My Precious American Life In Florida

Having grown up on a street called FADEYI-ALADURA, off OBAFEMI AWOLOWO WAY, IKEJA, LAGOS, in a house owned by the Okoruwas,  as a tenant with my blood brother who once called me his slave, and having grown up with the Okoruwas' girls, bunch of the most beautiful young Nigerian women of that age, who had transformed the rest of my life to having such a bizzare phobia for black women. My phobia for them was one of the the bedrocks of my exodus to America for further studies during one of those indefinite UNILAG shutdowns in the days of the camouflaged millitary bureaucratic leaders of the EARLY 90s. I had since lived in Florida, became an American citizen through sponsors from the first University I had attended in Florida, and a single parent to two beautiful girls, one a 9 years old from my first American woman-friend, a black American woman and a college classmate who currently practices law in New York; on a one night stand at the time. And the other, a 3 1/2 years old daughter, from a marriage to a white American woman, also a classmate in medical school at the time when I was a post graduate student of Economics. My marriage did not work due to her infidelity, and she finally divorced herself after she found out that her second born child does not look like her husband at all. She didn't even bother to come back home from the maternity ward. But, I loved her, and would have taking her back and even raise her son as mine because he was born into my life during marriage. But marriage rarely works in a society where a woman feels and thinks she had to live against the biblical ordinances. The family law in Florida makes a husband legally responsible for the welfare of any child born by a wife during the periods of a marriage, and except proven beyound reasonable doubt that the said child was not a biological offspring of the father, this law hold for a lifetime of the child. The son born by my ex-wife was not mine, hence I had to fight for the culprit to be brought to book during the divorce proceedings. The child support laws grants the custodial parent financial supports from the non-custodial  parent. I do not belief in a woman who had gone through a natural psychological and physiological breakthrough over a period of childbirth to be subjected to CHILD-SUPPORTS. Hence, I had refused all financial supports granted to be paid per month by my black baby-mother, and my white baby-mother. I just want them to babysit my children when needs be.

My problem is the facts that I have not been able to keep a relationship with any woman afterwards. Relationship became worthless to me. I don't hate women, black or white. But, it would not be a judgment on my part to feel and think all American women are as highly and doggishly infidel as the ones attracted to me. I have never dated a Nigerian woman, I have only been intimated with American women, both blacks and whites. And the Nigerian men who went back to Nigeria to marry and import their wife to America claimed they would not have married a Nigerian woman if they had a second chance. The Nigerian woman arrives in America, and wants to get Americanized overnight. She becomes a worst torn in your flesh, and attempts to cut off the fingers that feeds her and inculcates her into a better living opportunities.

I am a single parent, and have full custody of my two American children from two American women, one black, and the other a white woman. My situation is rare in the American society due to the concepts of CHILD-SUPPORT. I came to America with my believes that the Almighty God will not put me through anything I cannot bear. I am currently working with the State of Florida, an Usher at my church, and a church leader. I have American women approaching me almost every Sunday services, but I am not only scare of them but afraid of getting myself en captivated into their sexual exuberance a third time. I have always wished to have a home with a loving wife and bunch of loving children. I am scared of loving and able to receive and give love to and from any  American or otherwise. DOES ANYONE HAVE A SOLUTION TO MY PROBLEM? Should I lay back and let the woman find me, or come to Nigeria to find a woman to live in Florida with me?? Please do not make fun of my situations. I would appreciate you don't respond at all instead of making irrational comments,, , "TOUCH NOT MY ANOINTED" SAYS THE LORD!!!

from your post im guessing you have kind of lost touch with your nigerian roots and nigerians in florida,ill advice you to frequent nigerian scenes and try and meet more nigerians a good way to do that is frequent nigerian churches like reddemed and others there,some might have had a bad experience with import and export mail order wife but its because they had the wrong criteria while choosing,a prostitute can very well be a better wife than a virgin and thats what most people don't realise, ill advice you to visit nigeria with your children more often,hang out with your friends and family and take your time to meet diffrent nigerian girls, there are a lot of women looking for husbands and they r a lot in nigeria who have a career and don't need any financial help from you, the trick is in the age,go for a nigerian woman in her mid to late 30 s upwards because they are more matured and will accomodate your children and also know the value of having a good man, don't forget to make them realise hw important your children are to u so there wont be any conflicts later, there are a lot of good nigerian women out there so go out n u ll find 'em

   wow!  never knew such things happen in church! rivalry and conflicts ?  nile olorun?  na wah oh !

methinks @ lucabrasi has said it all  but what is your phobia about black women?

since when did nigerian girls bare names like sheniqua. na wa

"  " na today ?  e don teyyyyyyyyyyy!
  who? 

Please get over yourself.
You are already damaged goods.
Let's pray someone agrees to manage you

iseeeeeeeeeee!!!

 

  welcome back 

Madam! you really can't blame the dude!  no one knows his real past experience/s thus his skewed thoughts/opinions about black( 9 j a women)

i would advice you to find a nigerian girl who is already in the US, instead of going back home because every girl in naija wants to come to america, so learn from other guys mistakes,

He is unable to keep a woman.
He ought to be by himself and raise those kids

"  "   _{abeg nor kill me!} i still dey wait oh ! wetin be his phobia sef?

na na na,ive only gat jenny and my igbo name that is all,never been banned

but i fear oga admin will still ban me wt d way im going this days