He Wants His Child After Telling Me To Go For An Abortion

He rejected the child right when you told him you were pregnant right now you’ve nursed the child single handedly he wants it back. . .

Look at the manner he came and approached you to ask for the child; he wants it because of some title in his village not even because he loves you or he wants to marry you. And he even went as far as threatening you with the police if you don’t give up the child.

Here’s the ideal; if you have a boyfriend, then that would be much easier just tell him that he isn’t the father of that child that it belongs to your boyfriend after all he rejected it when you give it to him; so you’ve finally found the father and that he ought to be ashamed of himself; suppose you aborted it, would he have the guts to confront you and ask for any baby?

He has no right to bother you about any child; if he keeps on bothering you, then get the police involved in the matter.

A classic example of an irresponsible man.
However, lets cut him some slack. . . . . He couldn't handle the heat of dealing with a child born out of wedlock.
Although, he handled the whole situation in a cruel way but u must learn to forgive.
At the end of the day, he is still the father of the child.
If he doesn't find his daughter. . . . be rest assured his daughter will find him one day.

@ D-reloaded,

Of course, he couldn't deal with it then due to so many reasons known to him.
First all, maybe he wasn't financially stable enough to take care of the girl in question. . . .Nigerian men tend to abandon their responsibilities once the issue of funds come into play. . . . .some men fail to pay school fees, some don't even send their kids to school and reh reh reh.
However, that was yesterday.

This is today. Our man is now bouyant enough to take care of his child.
Who knows. . . .A fortune teller somewhere might have told him to go find his kid somewhere or else death becomes him. This is AFRICA. . . .Things tend to get messy when such a serious issue is in play.  At the end of the day, u cannot deny a man his child whether he claimed it when the kid was born or not. If he goes to court, he will take the custody of the child!!!!!

He only wants the child because his wife has not given him a child and he wants to keep his title what kind of man is that?

Forget what happen in the past what he has come back with is just a slap in the face!

@ Crazykid,

For whatever reasons, he is still the father of the child.
I know it's normal for the woman in question to feel hurt and aggrieved but HE IS STILL THE FATHER OF THE CHILD.
Chieftaincy title is secondary. . . . . No responsible man walks about without caring for the child he has got somewhere.

Trust me, when the kid grows up too. . . . He would find his dad one day even if he is a tramp.
People should learn to put emotions aside and deal with issues appropriately.
The father was irresponsible but lets give him the chance to correct all his wrongs.

Blimey. . . . .Why are we forgetting the fact that this happened in Nigeria.
A man can still go back and claim his child if he takes him 1000 years to realise the baby is his. . . .

Granted, he acted like a twit when the baby was conceived. . . . .No one knows his financial status then.
I don't blame him for running away. . . .He couldn't even take care of himself then let alone cater for 2 more heads.
Besides. . . . The 2 of em were irresponsible for having unprotected sex so why should the man shoulder the whole blame. . . .
Like i have said, all that happened yesterday. . . . .THIS IS TODAY.

Fortunately, the man is alive to correct all his wrongdoings.
He has now realised his mistakes and wants to give his kid the best he can and people are saying NO?
Would the child in question forgive her mother for denying her the right to see her dad?
She'd better have a good excuse now because the child might grow up to even hate her mother more than her dad.
Its a very sensitive situation. . . . Her best bet is to FORGIVE n FORGET.

My point exactly D-R.

LMAO "nollywood movies are doing your head in" D-R you better sharrap there

@ D-reloaded,

That village title gist does not hold water. . . . . Its a pigment of the chic's imagination.
The man wants his kid now simply because he is now ready to shoulder his responsiblities as the father.

@ Stillwater,

We don't know that, do we?

The man has tried all possible avenue to see his kid. . . . .The poster thwarted all his efforts. . . . .
I am quite sure the title thingy was the man's way of pressuring the girl to give up the kid. There cannot be anything like that.
Do u know any title given out to men that breeds kids . . . What are these titles called? Highest kid breeder?

Men can be cruel, i agree.
However, no responsible man will completely neglect his kid when he is financially stable to take care of her.
As at the time the baby was conceived, our man was a bit struggling then. . . .Now, he wants to take responsibility.
Will u guys give him a chance to let him take care of his baby girl?

so jackal all of his possible efforts to see his child was to threaten her to police. and what kind of MAN tells his baby's mother that he wants the child only for some damn title? He aught to be ashamed of himself, that useless idiot. And the fact that he wasn't fianacially stable, which is what you keep bringing up is no excuse to abandon his baby's mother and child. That is completely irritatingly irresponsible.

@ Akinagirl,

Take it easy. . . .

Granted, the man was grossly irresponsible like i keep saying but that hardly matters again.
He came back after 5 years to apologise and to take what is his. . . . .I don't see anything wrong with that.
The baby momma should forgive and forget. . . . .

Secondly, the man threatened to call the police because he is getting frustrated.
Why do people go to war? They go to war when dialogue fails and there's a deadlock.
Like the poster said, the man has been persistent, calling day and night with no breakthrough. . . .What do u expect?

Jackal there is something you are not getting
HE DIDNT APPOLIGISE!
He said I want my child back because of a title. WHAT AN ARROGANT USELESS PIG. So, if his wife could have kids, he wouldn't even be back there, looking for his kid! Stop making excuses for idiots.

exactly lady T

eldee do you say "bare" in real life LOL

You have a point but we can only jugde the story from what we have heard. 
Just because he is her biological father doesnt mean shit.  There are millions of children being bought up by OTHER men who are not their biological fathers.  I'm sure in time the child will know the father.  The kid has done very well without him so far.

I didn't say that the guy said, "i apologise." No, what i said was, when he came back for the child telling her about some dumb title was no apology, as jackal was saying. But anyways, If he is really sorry, then yes he can have another chance, but it has to be up to her to decide, as other posters mentioned, she needs her family and the courts to back her up in case this man does anything stupid.