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TolaniLuv
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Please read and HELP!! I was in a short term relationship with a girl. Nothing serious just friend with benefit type of relationship. She honestly told me that she's seeing someone but we could be friend then I said fine, then after some weeks we start getting down . We've had sex without using CD'S Onces. But instantly took some things to get rid of it that night, then I stop seeing her. We talk on phone rarely and see each other maybe onces in a week. I stopped calling her when I hear people saying they saw her with a guy or something like that. Then she called me after 6-7 month told me that she's pregnant and that I am resposible for it LOL. I don't know what to think ,? Help, can this be possible . Is 7 month the best tyme for her to tell me that she is pregnant or she has tried many guys and finally want to put that on me,  Please help I am a student and working on my BSC degree and really can't stand this now. |
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big father (m)
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I will blame you for not having self control ! And as for the pregnancy; i think she is trying to play a fast one on you !
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info (m)
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Ever heard of DNA test? and if ur lucky to b d father, don't shy away from ur responsibility  |
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jamah (m)
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maaaaaan be wise oooo. shes trying to play a fast one. ahn aaahn!!! after 7 months of seeing. was that when she realized she had a bun in the oven? |
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jennykadry (f)
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@poster
na waooo,where has that word self control run tooo,how will congee hold a guy and he'll forget to use a condom when d babe aint d wife,same to women too
anyway oga poster i will advise u continue making love to her,so that she wont have complications during labour,doctors advise every man to continue doing the jigijigi until a little before d due date,so that is my advise for u
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D-reloaded (f)
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how far along is she now?
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TolaniLuv
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D-reloaded , This's very funny but it real. I think the preg is 8 month now. She didnt even tell me that she was pregnant , someone called me that they saw her and they think she's pregnant. few weeks later she called and asked me if I am at home I said no, and she said I should call her when I return back, then I redial her number and ask her myself that someone told me that she's pregnant and she said yes. and she said I am responsible, She didnt tell me anything till I asked her .
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spoilt (f)
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only DNA will say for sure.  It may be yours but of course she can't tell her man that.  |
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D-reloaded (f)
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You should have never asked her anything You said you quickly did stuff after the absence of condom situation what did you do? drink herbs? |
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TolaniLuv
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Spoilt, Really, I am not ready to father a child now. As a guy I don't expect her to tell me after 7 month. I stopped calling her when I hear what people say about her. We meet at church but I was told she rule the str8. I tout she was special, I stop seeing her for a while then at of the shadow she called . If you've a brother and this kind of of thing happen what will you do |
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TolaniLuv
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I bought her Mestrogen and Postenor Instantly. and also I told her to drink water with salt, all the pro I learnt from peeps.
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LadyT (f)
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You can't do anything apart from DNA
I suggest you start saving
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spoilt (f)
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@OP Hopefully my brother knows better than mess with another man's girl. hopefully if he does, he uses some kind of protection everytime. I am uable to give advice in situations like this. I find it easier to say "serves you right fool". Anyway i know this is a bad situation to be in. Do we even have DNA testing in Nigeria yet? You just can't tell without DNA afterall she might have been having sex with both of you at the same time. She has probably told the other guy the same thing too. Spoilt has no answers here. |
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spoilt (f)
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water and salt? how old are your peeps? seven? |
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D-reloaded (f)
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I bought her Mestrogen and Postenor Instantly. and also I told her to drink water with salt, all the pro I learnt from peeps.
don't know who told you shit about slat water. Pregnancy is different from toothache. as for the other two, they should have worked. Did you WATCH her take them? |
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spoilt (f)
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even if he did, there's something called failure rate.  |
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TolaniLuv
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Posted by: spoilt Insert Quote water and salt? how old are your peeps? seven? LOL, Well, that's Optional. She took Mestrogen and Postenor Instantly. Do I need to do d DNA test or just igorne her, She don't even call me that much, but keep saying I am responsible. Posted on: Today at 01:48:05 AMPosted by: spoilt Insert Quote @OP Hopefully my brother knows better than mess with another man's girl. hopefully if he does, he uses some kind of protection everytime. I am uable to give advice in situations like this. I find it easier to say "serves you right fool". Anyway i know this is a bad situation to be in. Do we even have DNA testing in Nigeria yet? You just can't tell without DNA afterall she might have been having sex with both of you at the same time. She has probably told the other guy the same thing too. Spoilt has Well, When was the last tyme you been to Nigeria. Because we have DNA system in nigerian ever since I can remember. You think it serves me right Spoilt, and I am not messing with another man's girl she told me that it cool. You think I should ve turn down the offer when she said Cool with her apart from her real boyfriend that she told me about I did some research and find out she's seeing another guy in her estate. , I don't trust her |
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spoilt (f)
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why oh why did you 'do' her? If theres DNA in Nigeria now, then your problem is going to be solved in about 2 months. Just take the baby when it's born to be tested. Then this thread will end. |
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TolaniLuv
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Well, She took the menstrogen in my present.
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TolaniLuv
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It's not that easy to take the baby, I wish you were in my shoes. Why I do her is because I do her before researching and I could just turn back the time. and Undo her, well I stop everything when I find out about her. I don't even have much time to know much about her before we start doing that shit, I can't stand being a father now, sucks. My future plan will be ruin wit this shit I can't get it off my head
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Gamine (f)
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Man!
Stop whining jo!
i tried to refrain from posting here,
What are you trying to get from Nairaland?
Go back to the Real world and sort yourself out!
Why didnt you think about the conseQ before getting into this rubbish
and you come here whining!
Puhleaaaase!!!!!
Han han, Myopic Puga!
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TolaniLuv
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Well, That will be great of you. You can baby sit for me as well right If you're a guy and a young gurl you barely know did this to you . What would you do |
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chisimdi (f)
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Well, That will be great of you. You can baby sit for me as well right If you're a guy and a young girl you barely know did this to you . What would you do I wuld hv love 2 baby sit for you but my hands r full,because i'm a 4 star general{3boys& my hubby},so u c no room 4 mur.All u hv 2 do is wait 4 d birth of d child den u go 4 paternity test. |
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TolaniLuv
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Man!
Stop whining jo!
i tried to refrain from posting here,
What are you trying to get from Nairaland?
Go back to the Real world and sort yourself out!
Why didnt you think about the conseQ before getting into this rubbish
and you come here whining!
Puhleaaaase!!!!!
Han han, Myopic Puga!
You think I am whining or seeking for peeps advice Do you know why people come here to seek for advice ???Because they are not perfect. You just did your own part now. I've seens some topics here that are not what saying in public. |
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TolaniLuv
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I wuld hv love 2 baby sit for you but my hands r full,because i'm a 4 star general{3boys& my hubby},so u c no room 4 mur.All u hv 2 do is wait 4 d birth of d child den u go 4 paternity test.
aight I can see why you can't baby sit for me then. But, If I have to do the DNA . She will have to call her boyfriend that she told me about with me that day and the other guy in her estate . We will go together and do it for 3 of us. then I will then think of facing my responsibilities. This's optional, I am not sure. |
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Gamine (f)
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i really wonder what you are seeking on this Land
Thats all.
You must face the conseQ of your actions
And I'm too glad, the baby is alive and not MURDERED!!!!!
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chisimdi (f)
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aight I can see why you can't baby sit for me then. But, If I have to do the DNA . She will have to call her boyfriend that she told me about with me that day and the other guy in her estate . We will go together and do it for 3 of us. then I will then think of facing my responsibilities. This's optional, I am not sure.
D oda guys r nt suppose 2 b ur problem,what u shuld b after is 4 you to find out if d unborn baby is urs when she puts 2 bed. |
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D-reloaded (f)
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dude, stop calling her.
if after the child is born and she still bothers you, tell her you'd like a paternity test and follow her
Simple.
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TolaniLuv
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dude, stop calling her.
if after the child is born and she still bothers you, tell her you'd like a paternity test and follow her
Simple.
We don't communicate much. I still wonder why she don't call me that much , she don't even disturb me with her parent but she keep telling people that I am responsible. I don't know if she's scared to call or talk to me, for 7 month now I have not talk with her in person. She told few of my pals that my nbr is not going through. While I recieve calls everyday, kind of weird |
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