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jamah (m)
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I wonder why people here are being sooooo worked up over simple matters, na wa o. Yes or No is the expected response, why the abusive epistles. Everyones got a choice. AS FAR AS IM CONCERNED, IM GOING TO MARRY AN ONYIBO AND IF YOU DONT LIKE IT, YOU CAN RUN INTO A KNIFE!!!
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drrionelli (m)
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Help me out here--"onyibo." What does that word mean?
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merge (f)
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I wonder why people here are being sooooo worked up over simple matters, na wa o. Yes or No is the expected response, why the abusive epistles. Everyones got a choice. AS FAR AS IM CONCERNED, IM GOING TO MARRY AN ONYIBO AND IF YOU DONT LIKE IT, YOU CAN RUN INTO A KNIFE!!!
Well that your life and marrying someone so you can play with their hair is pretty stupid. lol |
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tpia
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I wonder why people here are being sooooo worked up over simple matters, na wa o. Yes or No is the expected response, why the abusive epistles. Everyones got a choice. AS FAR AS IM CONCERNED, IM GOING TO MARRY AN ONYIBO AND IF YOU DONT LIKE IT, YOU CAN RUN INTO A KNIFE!!!
you just don't get what the real problem is here. Its your extremely egotistic viewpoint. For example, after you marry oyibo/japanese/Indian for the hair, when that hair starts falling out due to your stress, general inconsistency and self centeredness, what will you do? Find another one with hair?  if you have your children and their hair turns out exactly like your own, as if say them no get oyibo blood at all, what will you do? and by the way- what are you yourself bringing to the table in these marriages of yours. What have you got to offer in terms of personality and maturity.  For you, its hair. For others, its big behind. |
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ChiUgochi
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Re: Why Would You Want To Marry A White? « #46 on: May 09, 2008, 09:54 AM » Quote from: ChiUgochi on May 07, 2008, 12:14 PM Hm the answers here are now making me think hard. I'm half caste, my ma is an igbo woman, married to a white man who now lives in Uk. In Uk im seen as mixed race and noone questions that. Now i myself married an igbo, we came to live here in nigerian. I'm light skinned and so now im seen as a white woman. Only those select few nigerians who have had real contact with white people and seen life from a different perspective can see im not white, but mixed. So now i wonder are all these people who are nice to my face talking about me behind my back, because i stole away a good igbo man from a deserved nigerian woman? I'm lucky my husband doesnt subscribe to the view of alot of his friends in uk that believe they have to marry an igbo woman, so send their mothers to find one. I'm also lucky that his family are open minded and welcoming and don't believe that also. I know of his friend here in port harcourt who is an igbo with an igbo girlfriend whos parents refused to accept because she was not anambra igbo. So they broke up and he married someone else who even now he says doesnt understand him like the last girl and he wishes he was stronger to accept his families criticism. I wonder if this is why my husband is reluctant to take me to see his ex girlfriends family who he is close to. They were together 4 years before he left to UK and he told her not to wait for him. 4 years later he returned with me. So maybe now theyll see him as selling out. Nothing in this life is guaranteed.A friend of my husband married in january, both igbos from the same state surely that means long happy marriage right? Well its 4 months later and theyre talking divorce. Yet my mother and father celebrated 31yrs of marriage this year. If people open their minds and marry for the right reasons then love shall prevail, its not an issue of skin colour, religion or creed, its understanding and communication. What an exceedingly daft and conceited thing to say. You really are rather vapid you know. Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry and in what way is that conceited? I'm not saying i know everything and am smarter than them, im sure they know plenty more of what matters to them but im stating what ive seen when i see different ill inform you.  at vapid i like how people here feel they have the right to judge someones character on the basis of their posts, is this a forum or a jury everything everyone says here is jumped on as though you just insulted their mama.
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omoovie (f)
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I was about to reply to the question then I read the original poster's notes. Dude. You have self dislike issues if you are just marrying them because their hair is "silkier" and their skin is fairer. Check thyself before thou wrecks thyself. I personally am open to all races and creeds simply because I believe love transcends boundaries and I wouldn't want to limit myself if the person God has chosen for me happens to belong to another race. I've dated an oyibo, a latino and an Indian. They are all men just like everywhere else. I also am that way because I want to balance the equation. Naija men are marrying women from all over the planet yet they get super angry if their mother, sister, friend, cousin, niece, auntie so much as look at anybody from another race even if the person is acata, or from the islands or the blackest Indian person you've ever seen. That's inequality of the highest order and inequality makes my inner workings roil.
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tpia
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Naija men are marrying women from all over the planet yet they get super angry if their mother, sister, friend, cousin, niece, auntie so much as look at anybody from another race even if the person is acata, or from the islands or the blackest Indian person you've ever seen.
did you notice oohhhhh. |
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omoovie (f)
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did you notice oohhhhh. My dear sista I notice am oh! My first boyfriend bin be Oyinbo come and see roasting from the Naijas and the acatas that we were getting! A Naija guy that I truly respected started treating me like I was dirty or something. I ended it because I was young and couldn't handle all the pressure. I started thinking maybe I was "betraying" my race by dating him. Thank God I'm older and smarter now! I've come to realize na me and ihn dey house no be them go live with am. My current na Indian. Man na Man na d culture or way of expression dey different. |
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Uche2nna (m)
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Re: Why Would You Want To Marry A White?
« #46 on: May 09, 2008, 09:54 AM »
Quote from: ChiUgochi on May 07, 2008, 12:14 PM
. I know of his friend here in port harcourt who is an igbo with an igbo girlfriend whos parents refused to accept because she was not anambra igbo. So they broke up and he married someone else who even now he says doesnt understand him like the last girl and he wishes he was stronger to accept his families criticism.
Some people's mentality never ceases to amaze me . See division : Anambra Igbo, Imo Igbo, Delta Igbo etc. Yeye people!!!!  |
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jamah (m)
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Some people's mentality never ceases to amaze me . See division : Anambra Igbo, Imo Igbo, Delta Igbo etc. Yeye people!!!! Na wetin na? |
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2Legit
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My dear sista I notice am oh! My first boyfriend bin be Oyinbo come and see roasting from the Naijas and the acatas that we were getting! A Naija guy that I truly respected started treating me like I was dirty or something. I ended it because I was young and couldn't handle all the pressure. I started thinking maybe I was "betraying" my race by dating him. Thank God I'm older and smarter now! I've come to realize na me and ihn dey house no be them go live with am. My current na Indian. Man na Man na d culture or way of expression dey different.
It's all well and good if you don't come back to find Nigeria guys after your foreigners dump your silly *rse |
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D-reloaded (f)
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and if the foreigner ends up marrying her and then end up with a happy life, what happens then?
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NubianQ (f)
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well there is nothing wrong with marrying a white person
if you click then go and marry, personally i love black men but nowadays am lookin to other colours ,
am a wanderer so i am open to anything
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omoovie (f)
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It's all well and good if you don't come back to find Nigeria guys after your foreigners dump your silly *rse
tpia! Merge! C them c them! Correct example of Naija boys hotbutton response to a Naija babe dating a foreigner! Whereas y'all are the first to be chasing babes from countries I haven't even heard of placing them higher than Naija chicks in some instances! Y'all are the ones that think fair with silky hair = beautiful regardless of objectivity. Such hypocrisy! Anyway sha, like I said, I'm open to all races and creeds. Whether I end up with a fellow Naija, a fellow African or a person that's blue-skinned, end of the day na me na im dey look each other face so fashe all haters! Peace! and if the foreigner ends up marrying her and then end up with a happy life, what happens then?
Abi oh D, please help me tell them. Happiness is not subjectively determined the partners origin or background. It's determined by love and mutual respect shared by the 2 people involved and if they are in-sync in wants, goals and needs. |
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2Legit
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If you marry a foriegner and you end up happy together, it's fine.
BUT if he dumps your a*se, don't bring your remnants to search for a Nigerian fall-guy who'll take your left-over body. When the nigerian boy sees through you, he'll dump you and then you'll cry foul
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tpia
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If you marry a foriegner and you end up happy together, it's fine.
BUT if he dumps your a*se, don't bring your remnants to search for a Nigerian fall-guy who'll take your left-over body. When the nigerian boy sees through you, he'll dump you and then you'll cry foul
abeg. Nigerian men no dey dump women? Na them dey even dump pass. am sure you're well aware of the fact that there are myriads of foreign women who engage in bashing naija males as a full time hobby. Based on their various experiences with their naija partners. Thank goodness for naija women who always have your backs and who keep on defending you guys no matter what. carry go jo. |
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T@meD0 (m)
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tpia! Merge! C them c them! Correct example of Naija boys hotbutton response to a Naija babe dating a foreigner! Whereas y'all are the first to be chasing babes from countries I haven't even heard of placing them higher than Naija chicks in some instances! Y'all are the ones that think fair with silky hair = beautiful regardless of objectivity. Such hypocrisy! Anyway sha, like I said, I'm open to all races and creeds. Whether I end up with a fellow Naija, a fellow African or a person that's blue-skinned, end of the day na me na im dey look each other face so fashe all haters! Peace!
Abi oh D, please help me tell them. Happiness is not subjectively determined the partners origin or background. It's determined by love and mutual respect shared by the 2 people involved and if they are in-sync in wants, goals and needs.
Omoovie my thoughtful naija sister, how you dey now? Abeg, on behalf of all rational thinking and considerate men, I take shame apologize for oga 2legit's remarks. Just pretend say those words no even comot from hin mouth at all at all. Abeg, ladies in the house, 2Legit just dey joke--hin skip hin medication yesterday when hin dey make those remarks. abeg. Nigerian men no dey dump women? Na them dey even dump pass. am sure you're well aware of the fact that there are myriads of foreign women who engage in bashing naija males as a full time hobby. Based on their various experiences with their naija partners. Thank goodness for naija women who always have your backs and who keep on defending you guys no matter what. carry go jo. If you marry a foriegner and you end up happy together, it's fine.
BUT if he dumps your a*se, don't bring your remnants to search for a Nigerian fall-guy who'll take your left-over body. When the nigerian boy sees through you, he'll dump you and then you'll cry foul
Chei! oga 2Legit, abeg just take a moment and read your remarks over again and tell me the reasoning behind them. To say this is a senseless remark would be an understatement o. Come my brother, abi your mata leave you for oyinbo na hin dey make you vex so? Abeg, take am sofry sofry o, it doesn't make you less of a man if you see oyinbo man wey dey date naija or any dudu babe for that matter o! Me o, weda na dudu, oyinbo, chinese, anybody sef as long as feelings and mutual respect for each other been dey, I say make una go on soun o jare. Na just baba ijebu opinion be that. Peace!
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merge (f)
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tpia! Merge! C them c them! Correct example of Naija boys hotbutton response to a Naija babe dating a foreigner! Whereas y'all are the first to be chasing babes from countries I haven't even heard of placing them higher than Naija chicks in some instances! Y'all are the ones that think fair with silky hair = beautiful regardless of objectivity. Such hypocrisy! Anyway sha, like I said, I'm open to all races and creeds. Whether I end up with a fellow Naija, a fellow African or a person that's blue-skinned, end of the day na me na im dey look each other face so fashe all haters! Peace!
Abi oh D, please help me tell them. Happiness is not subjectively determined the partners origin or background. It's determined by love and mutual respect shared by the 2 people involved and if they are in-sync in wants, goals and needs.
I do see them.  |
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bokoto
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Help me out here--"onyibo." What does that word mean? Surprised no-one picked up on this Q. It means White person/Whitey - a term that my DD found derogative to say the least after hearing it a million times a day whilst on holiday in Naija. The joke is for a mixed race child living in London she is dark enough to 'pass' as Black but is seen as White over there no distinction. Funny ol' world huh?! If I may stoke the fire some, at the essence of it, it all boils down to attraction and some people find that they are much more sexually attracted to a different race other than their own. Na wa o if unu cannot accept this. You no fi mek me change my mind @ OP, I pray to God your child has finer hair than mine because silky hair is not a given with mixed race children! |
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2Legit
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Come o tamedo.
I get wife for house and I get pikins them for house. I don marry my wife tay tay so no be matter of anything. I dey talk wetin dey my mind but I don forget say full moon dey affect you. Take am easy jare.
I no talk say make women no follow oyinbo. I say make them no bring remnant come meet naija boys. wetin vex you for that one?
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omoovie (f)
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2Legit you are still talking?! "Remnant?" If she has dated only Naija boys all her life does that make her more or less of a "remnant" too? Ludicrous! Look. I'm not even going to try and change your psyche because obviously it's deeply and irreversibly flawed. One more OP biased comment from u --- just one! Gimme a reason men, make my day! I've been sharpening my raz Warri madness just for you honey. If u no dey fear Waffi babe open your mouth again! My grill is stoked and ever ready to roast and lamblast errant wanderers! T@meD0, you be better person! Na you dey gi me hope 4 Naija guys even if the ones wey I don meet dey vex me seriously. Thank u jare! I get hope say better ones dey. |
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T@meD0 (m)
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Come o tamedo.
I get wife for house and I get pikins them for house. I don marry my wife tay tay so no be matter of anything. I dey talk wetin dey my mind but I don forget say full moon dey affect you. Take am easy jare.
I no talk say make women no follow oyinbo. I say make them no bring remnant come meet naija boys. wetin vex you for that one?
Me vex? If anyone dey vex, it would be you---all you have to do is go back and read your initial remarks. I would think as you get wife, you would know better but obviously I was wrong. So, if one of your pickin decide follow pesin wey no be naija guy or girl for that matter, you go tell am make he/she no bring remnant come meet naija boys? Haba! In this day and age of civilization na hin you still make that kin primitive way of thinking remarks. Abeg, make you open your eyes and try to look beyond your macho mentality o. Like I said before, the fact that a naija babe dey date someone other than naija guy or dudu for that matter doesn't make you less of a man o. By the way, I go report you to ya iyawo and tell her wetin you talk. I'm sure she'll be very happy to hear wetin you dey rant for hia. Peace! T@meD0, you be better person! Na you dey gi me hope 4 Naija guys even if the ones wey I don meet dey vex me seriously. Thank u jare! I get hope say better ones dey.
Omoovie my sista, abeg keep hope alive o. Some betta naija bobos still dey yanfu yanfu out there my sista. Oga 2Legit na let's just say an isolated case. Make you leave am with hin "I be ya oga" mentality o jare. By the way, I still full ground for farming for naija o if you hear any word on it o. Equipments boku wey pesin fit get from obodo oyinbo o. Naija go betta sha one day one day. Peace! |
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Leilah (f)
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Naija men should opt for their own and their own only. I'm happy to be married to a naija man but will it last forever? he will prolly look for one of his own at the end of the day, But they don't of course (especially when they need that little something) they will soon realise that foreigner is not for them
happy this, happy that my barney, some people say naija women are agressive and domineering there is no way thats true, they respect their husbands til death do them part and let them do as they please. Western/oyibo women don't allow that (with the exeption of a few). Thats not tosay it won work, these marriages between niaja men and white/western ladies was not legit fromthe begining. PERIOD.
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OrumbaS89 (f)
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Ouch Leliah! What happened?
I hope you're not going to put all of our boys under the blanket that you "husband/asshole" has you under. Your man is not a representative of Naija men.
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T@meD0 (m)
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Naija men should opt for their own and their own only. I'm happy to be married to a naija man but will it last forever? he will prolly look for one of his own at the end of the day, But they don't of course (especially when they need that little something) they will soon realise that foreigner is not for them
happy this, happy that my barney, some people say naija women are agressive and domineering there is no way thats true, they respect their husbands til death do them part and let them do as they please. Western/oyibo women don't allow that (with the exeption of a few). Thats not tosay it won work, these marriages between niaja men and white/western ladies was not legit fromthe begining. PERIOD.
Leilah, you come konfus me pata pata o. Are you saying that you're doubtful of your marriage to your naija husband? How long have you two been married if I may poke nose? Sounds to me like una marriage don get k-leg o but I digress. And when you said naija men "need that little something" exactly what were you referring to? And your last remark seem a little contradictory to me. Not legit from the beginning? How is that and what do you mean? I sense some marital issues between you and ya naija man here o. You seem to be advocating against inter-racial relationship while you are in one (hypocrisy maybe?). I don't get it! Peace! |
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omoovie (f)
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Me vex? If anyone dey vex, it would be you---all you have to do is go back and read your initial remarks. I would think as you get wife, you would know better but obviously I was wrong. So, if one of your pickin decide follow pesin wey no be naija guy or girl for that matter, you go tell am make he/she no bring remnant come meet naija boys? Haba! In this day and age of civilization na hin you still make that kin primitive way of thinking remarks. Abeg, make you open your eyes and try to look beyond your macho mentality o. Like I said before, the fact that a naija babe dey date someone other than naija guy or dudu for that matter doesn't make you less of a man o. By the way, I go report you to ya iyawo and tell her wetin you talk. I'm sure she'll be very happy to hear wetin you dey rant for hia. Peace! Left this guy jo. E no understand say times don change.Omoovie my sista, abeg keep hope alive o. Some betta naija bobos still dey yanfu yanfu out there my sista. Oga 2Legit na let's just say an isolated case. Make you leave am with hin "I be ya oga" mentality o jare. By the way, I still full ground for farming for naija o if you hear any word on it o. Equipments boku wey pesin fit get from obodo oyinbo o. Naija go betta sha one day one day. Peace!
I get hope for Naija guys honestly and I think every naija babe get too. B/w us we fit lamblast una but truly na we dey defend una 4 outside weda we dey d same page or not. No worry any phim wey I hear of opps to begin organic farming in Naija I go share with you. Country get opps na 4 man to see am. I dey with u jare. We go better Naija small small
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T@meD0 (m)
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I get hope for Naija guys honestly and I think every naija babe get too. B/w us we fit lamblast una but truly na we dey defend una 4 outside weda we dey d same page or not. No worry any phim wey I hear of opps to begin organic farming in Naija I go share with you. Country get opps na 4 man to see am. I dey with u jare. We go better Naija small small
Fellas, I hate to say this but na true o! Anyway sha my sista, make you take am easy and no forget holla me if you hear any word on ise agbe o jare. By the way, wey oga poster sef wey wan marry oyinbo because of hair and so on. Now, that na separate issue but I see say u don already address am sef. Good luck to oga poster. Peace! |
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2Legit
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Me vex? If anyone dey vex, it would be you---all you have to do is go back and read your initial remarks. I would think as you get wife, you would know better but obviously I was wrong. So, if one of your pickin decide follow pesin wey no be naija guy or girl for that matter, you go tell am make he/she no bring remnant come meet naija boys? Haba! In this day and age of civilization na hin you still make that kin primitive way of thinking remarks. Abeg, make you open your eyes and try to look beyond your macho mentality o. Like I said before, the fact that a naija babe dey date someone other than naija guy or dudu for that matter doesn't make you less of a man o. By the way, I go report you to ya iyawo and tell her wetin you talk. I'm sure she'll be very happy to hear wetin you dey rant for hia. Peace! [ Forget that one. None of my pikin go marry oyinbo woman. I dey sure of that one. Dem be better christians and them see as oyinbo women dey scatter life anyhow. My iyawo no pray make any of our pikin them marry oyinbo o |
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2Legit
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Left this guy jo. E no understand say times don change. If time change to madness, I no go follow una mad |
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$$Rhino
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Nothing like black sistas, however, if i ever consider to marry a white lady, it will be only because, i wont have to marry her entire family, wont have to carry all the problems in her family on my head and forget to take care of the wife and the kids, and i think it is hight time the family stop putting pressure on the husband of their kids.
Secondly, could marry a white lady, because she wont hide her emotion, if she feels like making u feel like a king, she would and wont pretend when she has fallen out of love with you
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T@meD0 (m)
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Forget that one. None of my pikin go marry oyinbo woman. I dey sure of that one. Dem be better christians and them see as oyinbo women dey scatter life anyhow.
My iyawo no pray make any of our pikin them marry oyinbo o
 You've just convinced me how primitive and feeble-minded you are. What a pity! Poor kids! Na you go run their lives for them? Nna, this na racism in disguise incase you don't know and I think it would be very hypocritical of you if you complain of oyinbo racism. You're equally as guilty as the racist ones my brother. And by the way, where did christianity and "oyinbo women dey scatter life anyhow" come from? I don't get the rationale behind that---maybe you can explain it better to me cause I can't see the correlation. Na wa o! Peace! |
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