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iou111
Correcting Your Dad
« on: May 06, 2008, 12:56 AM »



what subtle and extremely polite strategy would u employ in correcting your dad's embarrassing habit (e.g table manners,  phone etiquette)

tRoOE (f)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #1 on: May 06, 2008, 01:28 AM »

Naija parents hate to be corrected Grin Grin
But as for me, i go to their bedroom gist then use style to state my mind, don't want to be up front so I don't sound rude towards them.

And sometimes I call my mom at night i, tell her what's bothering me that I don't like when she does it, and as a mother she listens to what i got to say and make some changes to it.
 
iou111
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #2 on: May 06, 2008, 01:50 AM »

Quote from: tRoOE on May 06, 2008, 01:28 AM
[size=12pt][font=Garamond][color=#990000]Naija parents hate to be corrected Grin Grin
But as for me, i go to their bedroom gist then use style to state my mind, don't want to be up front so I don't sound rude towards them.

thats gon be really difficult if u have a short tempered, opinionated parent. its such a dilemma for me because my dad has this habit and i just go arrggggh!
Scopium (m)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #3 on: May 06, 2008, 07:59 AM »

It depends on the magnitude of their misbehaviour. If it's something trivial l tell him right then politely but if it's something big l tell him later in private.
mamaput (f)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #4 on: May 06, 2008, 10:52 AM »

do not even try that.
because he will feel really bad anout it.
like you are too good for him now,
something he has done all his like?
you do not teach an old dog new trickes.
Seun (m)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #5 on: May 06, 2008, 11:05 AM »

Judgemental people.  Always "correcting", never accepting.  Even your daddy isn't good enough for you.
iou111
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #6 on: May 06, 2008, 01:02 PM »

Quote from: Seun on May 06, 2008, 11:05 AM
Judgemental people.  Always "correcting", never accepting.  Even your daddy isn't good enough for you.

no one said nething bout dad not been good enough! 
ifyalways (f)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #7 on: May 06, 2008, 01:44 PM »

Quote from: iou111 on May 06, 2008, 12:56 AM


what subtle and extremely polite strategy would u employ in correcting your dad's embarrassing habit (e.g table manners, phone etiquette)


if its just embarrassing habits like you said,to me it isnt embarassing,anyway i would accept them like that.who cares  Huh If its something important like alcoholism or a bad habit dangerous to their health,which they are addcited to,then i would talk with them in love. .jokinly sha.it seriously needs care and caution to do so .
lucabrasi (m)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #8 on: May 06, 2008, 02:25 PM »

im trying to picture correcting my dad,and i can't even see a picture materialising lol
just roll with it,your dad is your dad and he is who he is
tRoOE (f)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #9 on: May 06, 2008, 07:59 PM »

Quote
thats gon be really difficult if u have a short tempered, opinionated parent. its such a dilemma for me because my dad has this habit and i just go arrggggh!
Best thing is too just keep your mouth short, and get use to it

@lucabrasi
You will say it in a very indirect way Wink or jokily
lucabrasi (m)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #10 on: May 06, 2008, 09:08 PM »

lol jokingly ke,i can't o when my seniors by like 10 years sef can't, lol only the look is enough to silence you forever , onli GOD know where all these naija fathers train for these looks
stillwater (f)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #11 on: May 06, 2008, 09:22 PM »

It depends on the kind of communication you have with your dad. My dad shouts a lot on the phone and I'm like "geez daddy 'lower' your voice," sometimes he apologises, sometimes he ignores me but he never gets annoyed  Wink
tRoOE (f)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #12 on: May 07, 2008, 12:40 AM »

na wa ooooo i bet they put fear in you, poor thing Tongue
My dad does not have any look, the guy is just too cool to be a father, all he does his smile like a kid Kiss Kiss sweet father. momsi is the one with those look Grin, the look can kill Tongue
I believe no one is too old to be corrected when doing that it isn't right

lucabrasi (m)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #13 on: May 07, 2008, 03:58 AM »

lol,the look is somethn else even my elder sisters that are married still fear the look and now their husbands too flinch small at the look but they r ok with him tho, only GOD knows how ill have turned out if i had a cool dad like yours lol
true you're right correcting  a child has no age limit in africa/nigeria
tRoOE (f)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #14 on: May 07, 2008, 07:10 AM »

Eya pele am sure you had some serious betaing when you where young Tongue,If you had a father like me, you guys would have be best of friends. lol that is what they call him cool dad Cheesy Cheesy. I bet you can't look straight into your dad eyes when his speaking to you
Naija discipline is just different from any other country, i wonder where they got all that strictness from
acidrop (f)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #15 on: May 07, 2008, 07:21 AM »

if i had an oppotunity to correct my dad eh? ooooooooooo lord, its my time to shineeeeee, i will take advantage of it ooooooo. ,  . . ,  because that man is to dammn perfect. shiiiiit
lucabrasi (m)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #16 on: May 07, 2008, 01:59 PM »

Quote from: tRoOE on May 07, 2008, 07:10 AM
Eya pele am sure you had some serious betaing when you where young Tongue,If you had a father like me, you guys would have be best of friends. lol that is what they call him cool dad Cheesy Cheesy. I bet you can't look straight into your dad eyes when his speaking to you
Naija discipline is just different from any other country, i wonder where they got all that strictness from

yes i did o i wont even front lol didnt complain because i got my own back financially though,yes you're right, one of my dad's offices is realli massive so when u open the door you're looking at him from like far off and once he sees the white paper you're holding,means u v come for money and he ll focus the eyes on you,omo yor legs ll turn to jelly before you get to the desk lol, we were sitting down discussing politics and making fun of each other last year and i couldnt believe it lol
cashoggy (f)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #17 on: May 09, 2008, 03:13 PM »

@Poster (or posted Grin) my mind. My folks are quite old and Ive never had a problem correcting them of any bad social habit . Ive always been pondering over this topic, more especially for the sake of a pastor in one church I visit occasionally. The man holds a top managerial position in his place of work but he speaks some bad English sometimes on the pulpit. The wife's English is impeccable and his  two undergraduate kids are great. I always wonder why neither the wife nor the kids has been able to correct him. Sometimes I imagine what I would do if he's my dad. Or, does Seun think it's wrong to tell one's dad to pronounce some words well? I think its better a parent feels embarrassed before the child than before a whole church congregation. The man in question is well read o, just wonder why he has decided to stick to his own funny pronunciations when he hears every other person's way of pronuncuation (eg Twisday for Tuesday, childrens for children, just to mention a few).
bunmii (f)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #18 on: May 10, 2008, 07:54 AM »

you better leave him alone, if what he has being doing that needs correction was so bad i bet your mum or someone else  would have said something.
child want to correct dad especially about table manners hehehe don't try it.
bolorunfem (f)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #19 on: May 12, 2008, 01:55 PM »

I think it's the relationship that exists between them as well as the choice of words used  that will determine.  A child to his l dad can say  'Daddy-Daddy,  don't you know its old-fashioned to talk while eating? Or, 'daaady, your voice was so loud on the phone, you know passers-by could easily hear everything you said'. Or, Hmn, My Mummy, you know you used to tell us not to hiss, !
With adequate curtesy, bearing in mind that this old man or woman nurtured you from the womb, chances are the old folk(s) will take the cue.

was in Form  I heard my father (who read Standard  6 of those good old days) tell his
tRoOE (f)
Re: Correcting Your Dad
« #20 on: Yesterday at 01:31:36 AM »

@lucabrasi
Na wa for "most" Naija parents, how can they put so much fear on their kids
so if your legs are shaking like jelly fish, does your palm sweat too Grin Grin
If my dad was like that hmmmmm he will lose me Grin Grin, but am glad he isn't sha Kiss Kiss
 
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