Having Kids Straight After The Wedding, Is It A Must?

It often follows that once a man and woman are married, babies are expected to start dropping. 1 year passes without kids and family members start using style 2 ask when the baby is coming. 2 years and your mother-in-law demands to know if you are barren. 3 years and people are looking for pastor to deliver you. 4 years, aaaah I wont go there. But honestly what do you think about this tendency in the Nigerian society for family members to be in your business? I dont plan to have kids right away after marriage, maybe wait 2-3 yrs, tell me will I survive?

@poster
Its your marriage not your parents' nor yourv in-laws'
Waiting a little while longer before bearing kids is for both of you to decide.
Have a good reason , in agreement with your spouse and stick to it come hell or high water.
People get married for different reasons, so why did u get married?, answer the question and stick to it in your heart.

I have a friend who is married but mentioned to me that he would have loved to wait a little longer before having kids, because he wants to enjoy the 100% attention from his wife, !
So pal bottomline what do you want?

lol. Yes, our people are always like that.

You and your husband just have to explain to them that you are just taking your time, but I don't think
this would keep them from asking. 

Yeah would definitely want to enjoy time alone with my husband and settle into married life first. Also finances must be sorted out before babies start coming. Is just that why can't people mind their own business and face their own marriages? And why is it the norm for people to have kids straight after marriage?

Well, procreation is a divine order form God,  Multiply, fill the Earth. The idea is that to procreate, you have to get married so as to avoid fornication. So why shd you then get married and decide not to have kids yet. Then why rush into the marriage?? why not wait till you are ready to have kids. You might have a very good reason for wanting to wait, but then you are breaking the order, and thats definitely difficult to explain.

Preferably before.  To make sure I don't have to change their names and my name just incase I choose not to get married.   Don't have to be married to have kids.  Not really related in this day and age!

That was old school.  Not in vogue anymore.

No

Thank your stars you're too far away from prying eyes of extended family. You and your husband can sit down and plan your family the way you want it without interference.

theoretically its not a must and no one can tell the couples what to do,but in reality its not that easy to discountenance parents,friend's concerns and questions,especially nigerian family

Personally I don't understand people who have kids immediately after the wedding. It's like DONT YOU WANNA ENJOY YOURSELF AND BREATHE? But hey that's their own business.

Before you have to run after rugrats and screaming your head off and gain stupid weight and all that nonsense. I think waiting a year or two amkes alot more sense.

if the whole family crap is the fear, then don't marry someone from an ignorant family. Simple

its not a must to have kids after the marriage as long as u and your husband have agreed on when u want kids why not enjoy each other b4kids atart droppin and all that seems to e in your mind and thanks to the Nigerian mentality your in-laws n vn your own mom will most certainly disturb u when dey dnt c kids after a year or two so be prepared n just do wat u v in mind. 'cos wen d kids start droppin they wnt vn remember u waited some years.

Its totally up 2u.