Nigerians Marrying Nigerians Raised In The Us

in your imagination i suppose? There are no 2 captains on a plane, ship, presidential palace.

In primary school, we weren't thinking about who is the leader of the house.

Not submitting is a wife being shameful?

Not being submittive does not alway equal rudeness. just to let u know

You are surely joking, right?

No its not. In a culture where it is encouraged even punishable if not practiced maybe. Other wise no submitting is not a general thing.

You say its general as if practiced all over the world however its only practiced widely in Nigeria. I wonder if any female politician submits to their husband like a docile puppy.

while submitting to your husband,keep checking to make sure he doesnt have someone locked up in the basement oh.

sometimes the gragra don't question my authority attitude is a cover up for some crime he could be committing.

Thank you. The only way I will submit is if he will submit which will bring us back to do ooo. Which kind submission in a marriage where we are equals. That is rubbish or nonsense as my dad would say.

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submitting 2 your husband don't necesarily mean u wont have your own say. . . . .u are not imprisioned. . . . . u are looking at it form a slavery perspective. these female politicians if they don't submit to their husband its shamefull as well because they should be role models.
but he is the one that still authorized u to go out now, after enough begging, only God know how u take begg am oooooo. but u still submitted and he the authorized u. bt even that is too rude on a woman's side, no man should just say "no don't go out" they should say it in a respective way and give reasons y not. a suitable one

i will agree with uche, what is not true about that. remember he said in most cases not all cases in his illustration. but his definition of submissive is very correct it don't mean u are a slave, its like listening to a senior bro, or a father's perspective

wendy if your hubby really loves u, he will never submit u to a demand u can never meet. i mean that is humane. . . . . . what is the hardwork, cooking and raisning your children is hardowrk? u are kind of doing it for yourself. @ d end of the day the love grows stronger and the kids love their mom

Well I guess my problem of not being objectified into submission by my husband lies in me not wanting my children to segregate and have favorites. I want them to love us both the same. I guess that is what makes me different from women lobotomized into submission

You can see it as slavery but I bet You it is not. One cannot enslave oneself.

However, as long as You expect certain things to be initiated by man , like ask your hand in marriage (not the other way round), dowry payments and all that stuff, You have to also give him that room to lead during the course of the marriage. The idea of giving him a little bit of room and trusting that he would be there for You and take care of You and if it comes to that, even lay down his life to protect You and the kids is what is known as submissiveness. DONT GET IT TWISTED!!!!

As my mom puts it she was not bought. Both my parents I guess are forward thinkers because they don't believe in the dowry system. In the case of waiting for a marriage proposal. . . am shy until I want something and if I want something really bad I go for it believe, if I ever think a man is worth spending a life for then am asking. And am also one of those contemplating keeping or extending my last name especially since I want to get a doctorate degree.