Over 30 Women, Who's To Blame?

Our Nigerian society looks at women over 30 and are not yet married as getting expired. Although it's a wrong notion about expiry dates and most women in that age range has been fighting that stereotype supposedly from men but do we really need to blame men for that stereotype?

If our mothers, grandmothers and aunts  are the ones that always tell our brothers who wants to marry an over 30 woman to look elsewhere for something younger and more 'fruitful', why blame the men for that stereotype?.  Most of us women here will even do the same to our siblings who come home with women in that age range but you can hardly hear that our fathers,grandfathers,uncles etc discouraged their sons,nephews and grandsons from marrying a woman of their choice.

After reading the premise to this argument, do you still believe that men should be blamed for stereotyping women over 30 or should we cormfortably blame the stereotype on us and leave men the hell  alone?

It's not a stereotype, its a fact. Women over 30 are somewhere around their expiry date. Some people don't mind almost expired goods but then there are those who have a preference for such goods especially when they come in nice packaging.

On the other hand, you can't blame mothers and sisters for looking at women over 30 with a rather suspicious eye, they know what they were doing before they turned 30, why would anyone want their son or sibling to handle goods that have been "tested" by other men. It's like the difference between getting a brand new car and a used one, the only time you ever prefer a used car over a new one is when it's a classic and trust me, not that many Nigerian women over 30 are classics, 

i also read it somewhere that a lady embarking on child bearing after the age of 30 is more or less endengering her life and also she is nearer to menopauce,im not justifying these who can/can't marry any lady in her therties but just stating some of the health risks,also a lot of ladies who are unmarried (not all mind)at a point in their life made a conscious decision to sacrifice family life for their careers and also some were too picky and spawned the  many advances of the guys that came at them,its an awful way to describe it but its true nonetheless that a womans age is the like the law of diminishing returns, same as the man as well but mostly the women

1 am over thirty, single and seriously searching. Busta, Easybaby and all please link me up with any suitable single babe in Nigeria. For serious relationship/marriage. Thanks

 
Unbelievable!
 

Nothing is unbelievable , basically two reasons exist why most Nigerian women over 30 are unmarried and I take them from a poster who listed four reasons here:

1) Being Too Picky - Nigerian women set the rules of the game and Nigerian men only play to their tune. They first start off in their youth with being too picky and  wanting the best. They want the most handsome, richest bloke on the corner with lots of attention to spare. Unfortunately they forget to factor in math, there are more women in Nigeria than there are men, the translation being that not every woman will end up getting married. Apart from the fact that guys are lesser than women, there are also very few rich and handsome guys. So these rich and handsome guys also want the best for themselves so they gather a string of concubines , playing them around and eventually marry the best of the lot.

So what happens is that the remainder of these picky women who don't get married then, keep being picky waiting for the next Dangote or Femi Otedola to knock on their doors, unfortunately for them, some of them are not as hot as they imagine themselves to be and a couple more have the overt tendency to be really saucy in addition to their picky issues because they believe themselves to be on top of their game and God's own definition of beauty. The end result is that most toasters overlook them and go for less picky ones and when it dawns upon these women that darkness is upon them, they become desperate and end up marrying way beneath their class or not getting married at all.



2) Being Too Ugly - What more can I say? Ugliness defines itself. Why board molue when free air conditioned buses are on the road?

well it could start from their _{sweet 16th period}, thereby destroying their God given body before they get to the age of marriage.

thats most of them 

There's the marriage regime and the mistress regime, one has passed the other is available, why complain?

i agree with no.1 but i disagree with number 2.  withholding sex would just make men runaway and push them towards to prostitutes.   since when did marriage become a lifetime yoke. definitely not in this millennium.   your idea would only lead to bitter marriages and lots of trophy wives. women want sex just as men so withholding it is stupid

how does it affect the career women?

What if we ban prostitution in Nigeria(although it's already illegal) and enforce it with a ten year improsonment for defaulters? Will that push men to marry more or become gay?

What is good for the geese should also be good for the gander. If she's good enough to be a mistress, that means, expired men should also be good enough as gigolos.

@Tngtech:- Which 'regime' are you talking about? You never know, I might even look younger than.

@Easybaby:- I grab o. I am very well paid. I am also well positioned in the company I work for. Many be you will get to know more when/if we chat online. My yahoo id is hixxx1.

@Busta:- Many thanks for your kind response.

@All:- Am still single and searching o. Abeg make una help me o.