Where was the husband all these while his family has been disturbing the poor wife

? ?If I were in her shoes I'd sit the husband down and give him the option of either telling his family his condition with his own mouth and warn them NEVER to disturb me again or allow me tell them myself.
I think the man is grossly at fault, he should have in his own way quieten his family members before it got to this stage. If care is not taken, this same family will stand against the 'daughter' in future when the man passes on.
The man should be MAN enough to handle the situation, there's nothing new under the sun. If not for love am sure the woman would have packed out since. If not that I don't support divorce/separation, and if not for some undertakings involved in adoption (e.g that both parties must be involved) I'd just suggest that she leaves the man with his family. She could be lucky elsewhere.