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D-reloaded (f)
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Wow! What if she really loves you, but she's not ready? to marry that is.
What if she needs more time?
you're just going to throw the love away like overused tissue paper just becuz of "time"?
I swear, am learning more about you each day
Do you understand why he said that? |
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Agbon21
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abi oooooooooo  I do enjoy my husband, he's good, couldn't ask for anything better  he has me saying glory Halleluia but sex is just one aspect of marriage and it's not as though married people are chopping for breakfast lunch and dinner. people hype it so much Sometimes you just want to sleep,lol |
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merge (f)
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@ Tonim
If the women can wait until she like 25 year old.
It should not be a problem for him to wait more than 2 years if he love her.
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debosky (m)
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If its a man that 'needs more time' it is wahala because he will dump you, meanwhile the chick is waiting for a 'made' man to show up so she can dump your ass like hot potato
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Agbon21
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Wow! What if she really loves you, but she's not ready? to marry that is.
What if she needs more time?
you're just going to throw the love away like overused tissue paper just becuz of "time"?
I swear, am learning more about you each day
Hey relax a bit Cadet. I think he's just saying in seriousness that courtship should not really be a long process. Not that he will kick her to the curb. If you too both know what you want, why not? If not then you take it from there |
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Cadet (f)
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Do you understand why he said that?
No, that's why I want to know and welcome back jare |
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sheniqua
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why would a girl date a man for more than 2 years with no commitment for the future when her biological clock ticks away
after 2 years people should move on if there's nothing coming out of it.
before you end up starting one of those threads on nairaland
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Cadet (f)
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why would a girl date a man for more than 2 years with no commitment for the future when her biological clock ticks away
after 2 years people should move on if there's nothing coming out of it.
Maybe becuz she needs more timenot everyone is ready for marriage at some point |
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D-reloaded (f)
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@ Tonim
If the women can wait unit she like 25 year old.
It should not be a problem for him to wait more than 2 years old if he love her.
The thing is they both have to be on the same page. A supposed "good girl" can't agree to date a manwhore then suddenly wonder why he's sleeping with other women outside when he's not getting any from his relationship. There are alot of signs that show the kind that can truly deal and those that are lying through their teeth with their fake "I understand and I support you" bullshit |
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Agbon21
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why would a girl date a man for more than 2 years with no commitment for the future when her biological clock ticks away
after 2 years people should move on if there's nothing coming out of it.
Exactly. You can tell you are married (In a good way oooo)  |
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4 Him (m)
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Wow! What if she really loves you, but she's not ready? to marry that is.
What if she needs more time?
you're just going to throw the love away like overused tissue paper just becuz of "time"?
I swear, am learning more about you each day
Chill, there's a difference between "honey i'm not ready yet, give me 1 or 2 more years" and the directionless dating we see around us these days. If she needs more time and i'm convinced she's the one for me no doubt i will be more than willing to let her take her time. If both are old enough, mature enough and ready to get married then get it over with rather than waiting forever. |
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Tonim (f)
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@ Tonim
If the women can wait until she like 25 year old.
It should not be a problem for him to wait more than 2 years old if he love her.
You are right, age does play a big factor. But, the older we are, the less tolerant we tend to be. If a couple is within "marriage age", then I think 2 years is a good benchmark like 4Him said |
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merge (f)
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@ D-reloaded
True
I think if he really love the women then it should not be a problem.
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The Sly
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If its a man that 'needs more time' it is wahala because he will dump you, meanwhile the chick is waiting for a 'made' man to show up so she can dump your ass like hot potato
 Very true. |
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sheniqua
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Maybe becuz she needs more timenot everyone is ready for marriage at some point
no ma! a man that wants to marry you knows it a few days/weeks after meeting you.Those that delay the proposal into months are just being cautious not to be seen as rushing. They made up their minds a while back and if after 1 year he hasn't made his intentions known,my sister move on with your life. Let the men correct me if I'm wrong with this assertion. |
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Cadet (f)
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Chill, there's a difference between "honey i'm not ready yet, give me 1 or 2 more years" and the directionless dating we see around us these days. If she needs more time and i'm convinced she's the one for me no doubt i will be more than willing to let her take her time.
If both are old enough, mature enough and ready to get married then get it over with rather than waiting forever.
If you say so |
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4 Him (m)
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no ma!
a man that wants to marry you knows it a few days/weeks after meeting you.
Those that delay the proposal into months are just being cautious not to be seen as rushing.
They made up their minds a while back and if after 1 year he hasn't made his intentions known,my sister move on with your life.
Let the men correct me if I'm wrong with this assertion.
Gbam! Need i say more. You must have studied a course on "men: understanding their nature". Right from the first discussion you have with a woman you pretty much know what you want her for - marriage, platonic sex or not worth my time. We simply take a while to express it so you don't use your wonderful "let me think about it" excuse. If your boyfriend shies away from talking about the future with you (some inverterate liars can decieve you with this though) or always avoids the subject anytime you bring it up then pack your bags. He's with you while scoping other chics on the side. |
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Cadet (f)
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no ma!
a man that wants to marry you knows it a few days/weeks after meeting you.
Those that delay the proposal into months are just being cautious not to be seen as rushing.
They made up their minds a while back and if after 1 year he hasn't made his intentions known,my sister move on with your life.
Let the men correct me if I'm wrong with this assertion.
Everything is not always the way it seemssometimes it takes "time" to reveal what's truly underneath |
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sheniqua
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likewise any girl that says
let me think about it
let's be friends first
I'm not sure
give me time
I'm not yet ready
is only saying, let me hang on until someone better comes along.
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merge (f)
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@ 4HIM
It that really true. My mom says that too.
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Tonim (f)
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likewise any girl that says
let me think about it
let's be friends first
I'm not sure
give me time
I'm not yet ready
is only saying,l et me hang on until someone better comes along.
True, but sometimes we are still trying to find ourselves and are not necessarily stringing men along deliberately. |
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D-reloaded (f)
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True, but sometimes we are still trying to find ourselves and are not necessarily stringing
men along.
lol I agree. |
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merge (f)
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@ sheniqua
I disagree sometimes the woman may not be ready or wants to get to know the guy better.
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Cadet (f)
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True, but sometimes we are still trying to find ourselves and are not necessarily stringing
men along.
Thank you and sometimes, someone better is just around the cornerso I guess nwando is right, on some point |
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4 Him (m)
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likewise any girl that says
let me think about it
let's be friends first
I'm not sure
give me time
I'm not yet ready
is only saying, let me hang on until someone better comes along.
not always true. Pretty much every girl has used one of those lines before, its not always because they are not into you. |
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sheniqua
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Gbam! Need i say more. You must have studied a course on "men: understanding their nature". Right from the first discussion you have with a woman you pretty much know what you want her for - marriage, platonic sex or not worth my time. We simply take a while to express it so you don't use your wonderful "let me think about it" excuse. If your boyfriend shies away from talking about the future with you (some inverterate liars can decieve you with this though) or always avoids the subject anytime you bring it up then pack your bags. He's with you while scoping other chics on the side. I have a Phd in manology. |
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sheniqua
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maybe not all,I generalized.
I meant to say most.
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Agbon21
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no ma!
a man that wants to marry you knows it a few days/weeks after meeting you.
Those that delay the proposal into months are just being cautious not to be seen as rushing.
They made up their minds a while back and if after 1 year he hasn't made his intentions known,my sister move on with your life.
Let the men correct me if I'm wrong with this assertion.
na true. When a man is ready, he knows what he wants and when he finds it he knows  |
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merge (f)
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It is weird for a guy to propose marriage to a woman he barely knows a few days or weeks.
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sheniqua
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na true. When a man is ready, he knows what he wants
Thanks for confirming this,I'm speaking from experience. I had my fairshare of marriage proposals and all of them came within a few months of dating. Even awusa suitors sef |
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Cadet (f)
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na true. When a man is ready, he knows what he wants
Then why do we have all this divorce rates? Becuz they know they wanted her when they were dating. Sometimes, men dnt know what they want |
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sheniqua
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It is weird for a guy to propose marriage to a woman he barely knows.
true that's why they wait a while but they already made their minds up way before. |
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