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Tonim (f)
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Even awusa suitors sef
Really ? A Gambari man ? lol. |
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sheniqua
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Then why do we have all this divorce rates?
Becuz they know they wanted her when they were dating.
Sometimes, men dnt know what they want
that is a different subject altogether. I think churches should mandate premarital counseling for couples I believe there are many that'll actually say I don't before saying I do or at least they are prepared about the challenges of marriage before getting into it. |
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sheniqua
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Really ? A Gambari man ? lol.
fine man o lanky like Obama he wasn't Hausa, just a northerner |
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Cadet (f)
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that is a different subject altogether.
I think churches should mandate premarital counseling for couples
I believe there are many that'll actually say I don't before saying I do
or at least they are prepared about the challenges of marriage before getting into it.
In another owrd, they rushed into the marriage without fully knowing who they were dealing with. |
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Cadet (f)
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fine man o
lanky like Obama
gross I once thought the man was hot now his black lips is a turnoff |
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sheniqua
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In another owrd, they rushed into the marriage without fully knowing who they were dealing with.
Not at all They went into marriage not understanding the challenges of marriage The mates are not usually the problem If so why do people go on to divorce a second and a third time? You would have thought they would have perfected the art of choosing after the first failed marriage |
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Tonim (f)
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he wasn't Hausa, just a northerner
ok, thanks for the correction. My grandma calls all northern men "Gambari" so I guess I was taking after her  |
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sheniqua
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OSANOBUA!!!!!!!
It's past my bed time.
Oga is away on a trip and here I am
goodnight friends
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Cadet (f)
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ok, thanks for the correction. My grandma calls all northern men "Gambari" so I guess I was taking after her That's what my mom call s them toohehehe OSANOBUA!!!!!!!
It's past my bed time.
Oga is away on a trip and here I am
goodnight friends
Odabo |
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sheniqua
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gross
I once thought the man was hot
now his black lips is a turnoff
Forget his lips. He's still good looking |
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Cadet (f)
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Forget his lips.
He's still good looking
What is good looking when you're afraid to kiss his lips? |
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Agbon21
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Then why do we have all this divorce rates?
Becuz they know they wanted her when they were dating.
Sometimes, men dnt know what they want
In AMERICA or NAIJA my dear? Even if, as a CHRISTIAN you should not do this. It happens but stop focusing on the negative. Do what you can to NOT be the stat instead of beating the nail on the head too hard about it |
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D-reloaded (f)
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may the Lord save us from osisi's obama obsession
and I gree his lips are ridiculous.
For a biracial, his features arent that great
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The Sly
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gross
I once thought the man was hot
now his black lips is a turnoff Well at least Obasanjo is a cute guy to you. . . . :This girl sha! |
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4 Him (m)
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In AMERICA or NAIJA my dear? Even if, as a CHRISTIAN you should not do this. It happens but stop focusing on the negative. Do what you can to NOT be the stat instead of beating the nail on the head too hard about it
I guess i'm tired of making this point all the time. We have become experts at quoting negative statistics that we forget that there are millions out there in wonderful marriages. |
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Cadet (f)
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Well at least Obasanjo is a cute guy to you. . . . :This girl sha! oh my gosh, like let it go!! I never said OBJ was cute! haba! |
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merge (f)
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I guess i'm tired of making this point all the time. We have become experts at quoting negative statistics that we forget that there are millions out there in wonderful marriages.
I agree |
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Cadet (f)
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Oya, everybody, go to sleep.
esp. you!
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bawomolo (m)
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I mean Nigerian men that leave a good women because she wants to remain a virgin until marriage. maybe because the man has hormonal urges, at least the man is nice enough to leave. some would keep the woman and cheat on the side. is that better for u?? |
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GRIMM (m)
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>:(hey, who says we think with our d**k? its a normal phenomenon 2 want 2 have sex wit a gorgeous lady. n not everyone last 5mins |
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jay bee (m)
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And what is everything? Romance, Marriage
Sex between a boyfriend&girlfriend is a choice thing and if either party is not ready to give i sincerely don't see why the other should be bitter about.
I have heard of a story whereby d man couldn't even "jimmy" to wake up and hid this alarming situation for years from the fiance (fiance thought he was being holy and playing by the rules of no sex before marriage). They divorced not long after getting hitched as most women (especially naija') would want kids of their own someday. So why not test drive something you plan to spend the rest of your life with.
A good question might be how long is long enough to wait. Peeps please don't forget that there are many temptations out der for the dudes (we've just been blessed with abundant sunshine for the past few days and on ma way to work this morning, you should have seen what this girl was wearing on a monday morning. Probably worse than any prostitute will even wear during daylight).
On another note, What if all we want all along is just sex but obviously afraid to ask because of the things that will definitely come out of ya mouth ("who do u think i am", "do u think i am a prostitute", "enough courses") and decided to play along hoping that you will one day change your mind and relax on d embargo.
And for God's sake if you remain to be a virgin before you get married doesn't make you a good girl. Good girl encompasses things greater than sex so i for one will not marry a virgin because of the notion or general belief that they are most likely to be good girls.
An advice for girls seeking dudes that will be comfortable with waiting is for them too look deep in their respective churches (maybe the pastor or sumtin). Information about sex is all over the place and just wanting teens that will be able to hold that long is somewhat unrealistic but then nothing is impossible.
I wouldn't even date a virgin because all they mostly think about is just marriage (nothing wrong with this if you ask me)
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merge (f)
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And what is everything? Romance, Marriage
Sex between a boyfriend&girlfriend is a choice thing and if either party is not ready to give i sincerely don't see why the other should be bitter about.
I have heard of a story whereby d man couldn't even "jimmy" to wake up and hid this alarming situation for years from the fiance (fiance thought he was being holy and playing by the rules of no sex before marriage). They divorced not long after getting hitched as most women (especially naija') would want kids of their own someday. So why not test drive something you plan to spend the rest of your life with.
A good question might be how long is long enough to wait. Peeps please don't forget that there are many temptations out der for the dudes (we've just been blessed with abundant sunshine for the past few days and on ma way to work this morning, you should have seen what this girl was wearing on a monday morning. Probably worse than any prostitute will even wear during daylight).
On another note, What if all we want all along is just sex but obviously afraid to ask because of the things that will definitely come out of ya mouth ("who do u think i am", "do u think i am a prostitute", "enough courses") and decided to play along hoping that you will one day change your mind and relax on d embargo.
And for God's sake if you remain to be a virgin before you get married doesn't make you a good girl. Good girl encompasses things greater than sex so i for one will not marry a virgin because of the notion or general belief that they are most likely to be good girls.
An advice for girls seeking dudes that will be comfortable with waiting is for them too look deep in their respective churches (maybe the pastor or sumtin). Information about sex is all over the place and just wanting teens that will be able to hold that long is somewhat unrealistic but then nothing is impossible.
I wouldn't even date a virgin because all they mostly think about is just marriage (nothing wrong with this if you ask me)
I was just talking about good women. I did not say being a virgin automatically make a woman good. If the man love her he will wait and be with her no matter. There no excuse. If he waits too long that I can understand but most can't even wait year. Keep passing up good woman for sex is not wise. It not easy to find good woman anyways Not all virgins think about just marriage. There is so many things to do beside sex in a relationship. |
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stillwater (f)
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I have heard of a story whereby d man couldn't even "jimmy" to wake up and hid this alarming situation for years from the fiance (fiance thought he was being holy and playing by the rules of no sex before marriage). They divorced not long after getting hitched as most women (especially naija') would want kids of their own someday. So why not test drive something you plan to spend the rest of your life with. Test drive? What if you end up test driving hundreds of men/women? |
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merge (f)
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Test drive? What if you end up test driving hundreds of men/women?
I agree  Nothing good comes easy. If you want to marry a good woman, then you have to pay the price too. Many complain "Where is the good woman oo" But when she is right there they leave her just because she wants to remain a virgin until marriage" |
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jennykadry (f)
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@topic
the fact is,men lack self and sexual control,hence they believe sex is d basic foundation of every relationship
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Seun (m)
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Sex is the basic foundation of every relationship. That's why it's always a man and a woman. Duh.
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merge (f)
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@topic
the fact is,men lack self and sexual control,hence they believe sex is d basic foundation of every relationship
The bible says pre-martial sex is not good for man or woman. So they should be able to wait more than 1 year. Men are accountable too. |
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merge (f)
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Sex is the basic foundation of every relationship. That's why it's always a man and a woman. Duh.
Sex is not the basic foundation of a relationship. If it was why did the bible say not to have pre-martial sex. |
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jay bee (m)
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@Stillwater
Their is a fine line with everything in life. Putting a number on test driving as i call it will be unrealistic.
Yes you can meet, marry the woman of your dreams without doing any of it
@merge
Offcourse i know der are absolutely bunch of other things peeps can do rather than have sex. What you to abstrain from is making it an issue. If you meet a man that will always ask or try to sleep with you even after making it clear you will rather wait until you get married or sumtin, then i'D advise that girl to move on as he ain't any good for you (not because he his a bad person or whatsoever but he might make you regret sumtinthat act for the rest of your life)
Life is a risk, sex is a rick, all our actions in life are nothing but risk.
What makes you think he will stay after sleeping with you on the wedding night (after longing for years).
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merge (f)
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@Stillwater
Their is a fine line with everything in life. Putting a number on test driving as i call it will be unrealistic.
Yes you can meet, marry the woman of your dreams without doing any of it
@merge
Offcourse i know der are absolutely bunch of other things peeps can do rather than have sex. What you to abstrain from is making it an issue. If you meet a man that will always ask or try to sleep with you even after making it clear you will rather wait until you get married or sumtin, then i'D advise that girl to move on as he ain't any good for you (not because he his a bad person or whatsoever but he might make you regret sumtinthat act for the rest of your life)
Life is a risk, sex is a rick, all our actions in life are nothing but risk.
What makes you think he will stay after sleeping with you on the wedding night (after longing for years).
Did I say he will stay with her? Nope That is a discussion for another thread |
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Seun (m)
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Sex is not the basic foundation of a relationship. If it was why did the bible say not have pre-marital sex. That's because the bible wants you to have only one type of relationship: engagement leading to marriage leading to sex leading to Christian babies. |
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merge (f)
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That's because the bible wants you to have only one type of relationship: engagement leading to marriage.
sex is not the foundation of a relationship. That idea is for the ignorant  |
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