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quadrant4
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I just wonder how relationship with a Doctor will look like with calls for duties on a regular basis. Many who married them are either not happy or do not enjoy a wholesome and quality time with them. In your opinion can you marry a Doctor?
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Latoya (f)
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YES !!! i will marry a medical Doc, i don't see why not  Talking about no time, thats what communication is about, afterall before you said i do you knew what you were getting yourself into. So talk about it and make decisions. You could decide he takes a day off for just you and him, or live with the fact that he is adoctor and enjoy the big bucks ! |
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lucabrasi (m)
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hmmn, my ex girlfriend s a brand new doctor and i can tell you even then that its not easy at all,the attention and time will always be an issue so you have to be prepared for that, also are you a jelouse person and can you handle your wife/girlfriend being in the midst of male doctors most of the time in the night,at odd times and not have your mind going riot?also you ll need to do all these for at least 15years till she is specialised fully in her chosen field, so it might sound cool that you're going out with a doctor but u really need to have a talk with her and understand what itentails, its a calling not a normal job
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babycool (f)
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@ poster
The question you are asking has nothing to do with the profession, even a lawyer, an engineer or a secretary could be that busy!!! What matters is the patience and understanding both parties can apply,it all boils down to their level of maturity.
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lucabrasi (m)
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like i said ,its really important for you to have a proper talk with your doctor boyfriend/girlfriend, can you handle him/her being called away on xmas eve or xmas day?what if you r at a get together where you're all having fun and he/she is called away? these are some of my experiences and i know for sure that your girlfriend/boyfriend's profession is not like the run of the mill accounttant,architect with a normal 9-5, im sure other medical professionals on this site will post and you will see if their views are contrary to mine or not, if u don't prepare yourself and u think because u love him/her and u understand each other it ll be cool,thn u have another think coming trust me
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jennykadry (f)
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im actually married to one,and its no big deal
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Tattooboy (m)
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@jenny how u doing today? @topic so u can't marry me because am a medical doctor my shawty will never pass me by. . . |
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Busta (f)
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@topic,
don't know bout the marriage but I know that they make pretty good money 
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jennykadry (f)
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@jenny how u doing today? @topic so u can't marry me because am a medical doctor my shawty will never pass me by. roflmao,im cool today sha?and u? @topic, don't know bout the marriage but I know that they make pretty good money ole ni e but u can say that again   |
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Busta (f)
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@tattooboi
na true now
@jenny,
tell me say na lie
besides, howz the marriage working out for ya? |
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jennykadry (f)
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@jenny, tell me say na lie besides, howz the marriage working out for ya?sweet my sister,very sweet,its no big deal i get all d attentions i want so im not complaining |
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tngtech (m)
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there's nothing wrong in marrying a Medical Doctor.
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banni
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With the exception of a very few feilds most doctors are very very busy till the day they drop dead.
Even if you pick a government job unless you are bringing in loads of money to suppliment ,then the woman will have to do outside clinic to make up.
It is even worse if she goes into private practise because that means she will be forever working to keep the clinic up.
Can you deal with this?
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D-reloaded (f)
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No but I wouldnt.
Dated one for a few months, the whole madness of his job annoyed me.
The ones in residency are the worst. Only VERY VERY patient people can deal with that shit.
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banni
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No but I wouldnt.
Dated one for a few months, the whole madness of his job annoyed me.
The ones in residency are the worst. Only VERY VERY patient people can deal with that shit.
You are talking US residency and thats totally different.The ones in Nigeria in a program actually don't have that much hassle trust me. US its a set period and you need to get signed off yearly so if you are lazy then you are finished.In Nigeria its totally book work which you write when you are ready unless you get kicked for been there way too long. Thus you see many taking it easy in government hospitals. But what make Nigerian doctors busy is the fact they tend to run around doing government work + running a clinic on the side. Try dating the ones in UK.They tend to be stuck in middle of program for ages due to the system there but then work less hours but the pay is still pretty good if nah money you want |
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4 Him (m)
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Its not bad, depends however on what area he/she specialises in. If its surgery then be ready for a lifetime of boredom and loneliness.
On the flip side i think males have a better capacity to cope with female doctors as wives.
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lucabrasi (m)
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thank you o,as if i dnt know what i was saying before,
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banni
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Its not bad, depends however on what area he/she specialises in. If its surgery then be ready for a lifetime of boredom and loneliness.
On the flip side i think males have a better capacity to cope with female doctors as wives.
I agree on this.In Nigeria the women tend mostly to go for the less time consuming fields to focus on the family. The men on other hand pick more time consuming fields and try to keep up with their friends cars and lifestyle thus work much more. Remember the current pay for medical doctors in the government hospitals are like naira 140-230k or there about ,which by Nigerian standards is very good pay. If you work in a good private setting in say Abuja you can make 1m naira (my uncle has such a job) a month. So he has plenty of free time as the work is very undemanding and has money too. |
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4 Him (m)
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For a medical doctor female, the most feasible option is private practice, that way she has more time for her family. Like Banni said, its best to steer clear of male doctors who specialise in Ob/Gyn (especially if they are consultants as they are in very high demand).
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D-reloaded (f)
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You are talking US residency and thats totally different.The ones in Nigeria in a program actually don't have that much hassle trust me.
US its a set period and you need to get signed off yearly so if you are lazy then you are finished.In Nigeria its totally book work which you write when you are ready unless you get kicked for been there way too long.
Thus you see many taking it easy in government hospitals.
But what make Nigerian doctors busy is the fact they tend to run around doing government work + running a clinic on the side.
Try dating the ones in UK.They tend to be stuck in middle of program for ages due to the system there but then work less hours but the pay is still pretty good if nah money you want
Actually it was in Nigeria that we met Imagine leaving night parties at quarter to midnight because of work calls and shit when midnight is when such parties start sef. Shit was rdiculous, it was mostly calls and texting and seeing each other once or twice a week, at most three times. meh. and i don't know why people keep screaming they make money. what money? the ones in The States are too busy paying back thousands of dollars in loans, barely have time to buy new clothes (the scrubs are heavensent to them). the ones that make decent money are those with private practice after so many years and SURGEONS and to be a surgeon that's another 5-10 years of school. Abegi why go through all that just to hear "Iyawo Doctor" when you can get better money and more attention being with an investment banker, engineer, lawyer, hedge fund executive, pharmacist, etc |
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SexxyNaija (f)
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Doctor, Lawyer, Music Star, Business person that travels, any high profile job requires sacrifice by the people in the relationship.  |
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acidrop (f)
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no its not who said it was?
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stillwater (f)
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Nothing wrong. You just have to partner with someone that understands the situation and doesn't mind being alone!!
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4 Him (m)
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Doctor, Lawyer, Music Star, Business person that travels, any high profile job requires sacrifice by the people in the relationship. i like this answer. Many of those who have said no to marrying doctors are those who put their own personal satisfaction above that of their partners. Relationships are not about "satisfy ME first". |
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savanaha
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and i don't know why people keep screaming they make money. what money? the ones in The States are too busy paying back thousands of dollars in loans, barely have time to buy new clothes (the scrubs are heavensent to them). the ones that make decent money are those with private practice after so many years and SURGEONS and to be a surgeon that's another 5-10 years of school. Abegi
why go through all that just to hear "Iyawo Doctor" when you can get better money and more attention being with an investment banker, engineer, lawyer, hedge fund executive, pharmacist, etc
@ topic Nothing is wrong with it if you don't mind them fully doing their job. It is hard to have a family, that's why medical research, pharmacology, optometry or dentistry are other options in the medical field that are not as time constraint as doctor. However attimes Nigerian parents don't see it that way. |
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D-reloaded (f)
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Do most of the parents care? As long as they get to be called "Iya Doctor" or their daughters are called "Iyawo Doctor", it doesnt matter to them if the person is working like a cheap dog or the spouse is miserable.
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savanaha
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Do most of the parents care? As long as they get to be called Iya Doctor" or their daughters are called "Iyawo Doctor", it doesnt matter to them if the person is working like a cheap dog or the spouse is miserable.
Since medical research does not have the prefix doctor it matters to them. If you tell them their is life outside of doctor they will say people will always need doctor. As if those doctors don't need research sef or people don't need someone to look at their teeth. One of the main reason the life expectancy is so low in many African countries is because their are not many dentists around, an argument I have brought up and was quickly shut down. Too bad in the end I might do want I really want. |
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stillwater (f)
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This might sound wicked but I always pray let that dogmatic attitude die with their generation. It's better you do what you really want to do, otherwise you can only sit back and regret ever listening to them all because you do not want to be disrespectful.
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savanaha
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This might sound wicked but I always pray let that dogmatic attitude die with their generation. It's better you do what you really want to do, otherwise you can only sit back and regret ever listening to them all because you do not want to be disrespectful.
This attitude and many other. Very true, I watched a British comedy about a Nigerian mother who came to her maybe 10 yr old daughters school to yell at them because they were not teaching things to be a medical doctor. <![CDATA[<a href="http://www.youtube.com/v/s86HnJbp2qs&hl=en" target="_blank">http://www.youtube.com/v/s86HnJbp2qs&hl=en</a>]]> |
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rokiatu (f)
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every thing is fair in love |
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tpia
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@lucabrasi also are you a jelouse person and can you handle your wife/girlfriend being in the midst of male doctors most of the time in the night,at odd times and not have your mind going riot? Most times its a strictly professional relationship and not what you're thinking here. Remember- your doctor girlfriend also went to school for six or more years with her male colleagues. |
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