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queenmimi (f)
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Hello All,
please i need honest answers from you all.
there is this guy that i av been chatting wt for some time now and whenever we chat,he never made his intention known.though really there's nothing we don't talk about,i feel free to talk and share ideas with him too.Recently he came home and so many things have happened all too soon.On meeting him for the first time,i met his whole family and some of his extended family too. well came to me as a shock because i would never imagine u meeting someone for the first time,u show yr family this person,i would have expected that u get to spend some time wt her before going ahead to show yr family to her.
well to cut the story short,he hasnt still made his intentions known and i don't know what to believe,if he wants a serious relationship or we still remain friends.
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jennykadry (f)
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i think he likes u and he thinks you're a wife material,that is y he has introduced u to his family,i guess hes just taking his time before he pops out d main question,but for him to introduce to his people then it means he has said so many nice things about u to them,and has infact discusses u wt them,his showing u to them is like he is trying to actually show d family who d girl he has been talking about is
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Busta (f)
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@Jenny,
that one na story oh.
@poster,
Maybe u shld go ahead and confront him . . really one of the many mistakes a lot of guys make.
I was in a situation like that 3 years back. . . there was this guy friend I had and we used to spend lots of time chatting on the internet and on the phone. He was in England and I was in Canada. The internet and phone chats was strictly platonic and he never crossed his part. Funny thing was he never made his intention clear that he liked me . . and he just went ahead to assume that we were already dating. He over to Canada to visit and came to house . . he tried to kiss me and I backed away, few minutes later, my boyfriend walked in and I introduced them . . he got upset and offended and left. I tried calling him several times and he won't pick up or return my calls. Then he called me one day and said I broke his heart . . how did I do that? u never approached me, u never asked me if I had a boyfriend . . u just went ahead to assume that I was your girlfriend. Why should I be blame for this?
It happened a while ago but we still friends till this day and he's gettin married in dec.
My point is . . guys have lots of ego . . they just go ahead to assume that they can have any girl they want, whenever and wherever they want one. So you go ahead and ask him "what exactly do u want from me". . .
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Busta (f)
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@jenny,
what question is he popping . . they ain't even dating yet.
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jennykadry (f)
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@jenny,
what question is he popping . . they ain't even dating yet it depends busta,some guys don't date girls before they propose,i was a victim there was nothing like dating,d question just came up,and we started dating in marriage |
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Busta (f)
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it depends busta,some guys don't date girls before they propose,i was a victim there was nothing like dating,d question just came up,and we started dating in marriage
Seriously?
hmm . . don't know if I can handle that oh . . really old fashioned.
then again . . worked out good for u. |
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jennykadry (f)
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Seriously?
hmm . . don't know if I can handle that oh . . really old fashioned.
then again . . worked out good for u. yea yea,it worked out good,he was actually scared of loosing me to some other guy,so d bobo no wan waste time na so him kidnap me   but it depends ,it works out well for somepeople and it does not work out well for some,its all about d person being your missing rib |
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tngtech (m)
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@poster
He introduced u to his family does not mean his intention is to marry you.
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hammers (m)
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@tngtech
No mind this babe,
Its clear that she is falling for this guy.
@poster.
Please ask him out incase he isnt the bold type.
Sure you must be having sleepless nights.
By the way, You no get boyfriend before
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Ezinwannem
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He might still be trying to get to know you beta but as they say "delay is dangerous", Him taking you to meet his family does not justify anything, Maybe datz da way he does his thing, Try and stick around a little bit and see what happens if not, if you see someone else that you're interested, go ahead As busta said, guys assume a lot and what you to assume as welll, that is 2 me that, they except you to smell through their nose and know wats on their mind  |
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queenmimi (f)
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@Hammers
it not news that i like him,because if i didnt like him,i would not be bothered about him not letting his intentions known to me
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queenmimi (f)
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yes he has to take his time to know me ,its expected,but i tell you,i spend most of my weekends with him and im getting to meet more of his family and i really don't know what to think.
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Busta (f)
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@queenmimi
when he's introducing u to his family . . what does he introduce u as??
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queenmimi (f)
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funny enough,he would mention my name first and then she is my friend
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saucekid (m)
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*she is just a friend to me*
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jennykadry (f)
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No mind this babe,
Its clear that she is falling for this guy. and shes not denying d fact that she loves d guy,shes only asking a question here @poster i bet u this guy is madly inlove wt u |
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saucekid (m)
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in love or lust?
there's a thin line ooooo
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Busta (f)
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@Queenmimi,
sit him down . . u're both grownups. . Ask him what his intentions are. Expecially the fact that he lives outside the country, don't go wasting your life thinking u've got a man, siting and growing grey hairs, waiting for him to propose.
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ztyle (m)
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. . . Busta in Red  |
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Busta (f)
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. . . Busta in Red sup hun? change is good |
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jennykadry (f)
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in love or lust?
there's a thin line ooooo in love  |
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saucekid (m)
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surprised?
@ jenny ok ooo
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ztyle (m)
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Busta Steel Yes Change is Good 
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onyeka_ng (f)
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funny enough,he would mention my name first and then she is my friend
You make me laugh dearie ,he introduces u as a FRIEND to his family members and u feel good about it,even tinking that he liks u enough 2 marry u? u must be kidding . hello! dudes in the house, can someone please enlighten this chic that things don't work that way plzzzzzzzzz, this is because i dnt want to see her posting another topic lik HE BROKE MY HEART |
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mamaput (f)
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some men are just very open with their family.
if he has intentions of getting married to you he will tell you before he goes back.
or he just sees you as a pally.
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queenmimi (f)
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Thanks all ,i would do as busta has said
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Oscar J (m)
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queenmimi see let me tell u something, if a guy does not want to have anything to do with you, you cannot even smell his immediate younger one talkless of his family and then go as far as extended family. all that happens is just going to start n end in his crib, shikena. I strongly believe he has spoken about u to his people and showing u to them is like him completing the game plan of his people accessing u if you're what they like n think is ok as a wife material. You will be surprised when he comes popping the big qtion not between u too alone but maybe within the garthering of the whole family+ extended ones. watchout!!! All dbest |
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saucekid (m)
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thank God say e go end here
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Tattooboy (m)
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@poster this women  , maybe the guy just want a frienship but if u're in love let him know before its too late . . . am out of here. . . |
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jennykadry (f)
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queenmimi
see let me tell u something, if a guy does not want to have anything to do with you, you cannot even smell his immediate younger one talkless of his family and then go as far as extended family. all that happens is just going to start n end in his crib, shikena.
I strongly believe he has spoken about u to his people and showing u to them is like him completing the game plan of his people accessing u if you're what they like n think is ok as a wife material. my point exactly |
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