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paulipopo
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One definition of a player (male that is) is one who seeks romantic or sexual satisfaction from several women at a time without having any intentions of commitment to any.
Now only just 4 weeks ago I was single that is I had never had a girlfriend till then. Suddenly I find myself in a love triangle with two girls whom I know really like me and want to have relationships with me. All this happened after a friend of mine who is good at picking up girls gave me some tips on how to get almost any girl I want. While I am yet to have a romantic experience I don’t want to believe I am taking after my friend whose lifestyle is not appealing to me.
Before now I have been faced with all sorts of stereotypical profiling of girls especially Lagos girls such as being too money conscious, manipulative, promiscuous and pretentious no thanks to my friends who had indoctrinated me with such axioms as
1. All the girls I see around me in Lagos are photocopies of Sharon stone and Cosy Orjiakor.
2. There is no true love all so called love is puppy love
They even have an anthem they sing among themselves about Lagos girls. I can’t tell you the many nasty things contained in that anthem but it really demeans Lagos girls.
My friends who now think I am a man are planning to host a party for me which they want to use in welcoming me to the players club? They have advised that I should spare no one that crosses my path as all Lagos girls are either after their interests or want to use me as a pawn in achieving their interests. They further advice that having landed two girls in my kitty (quoting one of my friends) the next step is to chop and clean mouth.
My first question is this. Am I really a player?
My elder sister was once a victim of a player and I know how painful it was on her. I wouldn’t want to hurt anybody
But how do I handle the situation with the two girls? Do I tell them to just be friends, avoid them or see reason with my friends?
I personally am not sure if I am in love with either of them but I am attracted to one of them more than the other.
I welcome advice, comments and criticism but please no insults.
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ibkaye (f)
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but you already know the definition of a player it seems and have even written a definition so you should be able to work out whether you are one or not  |
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paulipopo
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but you already know the definition of a player it seems and have even written a definition so you should be able to work out whether you are one or not Tongue
How has that helped me?
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morenike09 (f)
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If you are, you're one hell of a boring onedude, you got no game. Even SLY sef got more game than you. shior  |
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ibkaye (f)
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If you are, you're one hell of a boring onedude, you got no game. Even SLY sef got more game than you. shior roflmao nawa for you toyin  |
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paulipopo
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morenike09
I said no insults please. You are free to criticize my style but the shior thing is unacceptable to me. By the way sly and paulipopo are two different people.
You are definitely not paying attention. I want to get your opinion on whether or not I am a player? I haven't called myself a player. If you can't answer any of my questions then just sharapp and let others have their say.
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morenike09 (f)
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morenike09
I said no insults please. You are free to criticize my style but the shior thing is unacceptable to me. By the way sly and paulipopo are two different people so enough with the comparison. If you can't answer any of my questions then just sharapp and let others have their say.
I answered your question, you're just too much of a "playa" to deal with the truth. ciao |
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liftedone (f)
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PLAYA, PLAYA, PLAYA  No, I don't think you are a player or you wouldn't be asking this question. You need to actually define who you really are to yourself so that you don't succumb to the influence of your friends. And you may just need to change your friends if you don't want to be the way they are especially as you are not comfortable with their lifestyles. Have you asked any of the girls out? What are the qualities you want in a girl? Which of them meets those qualities? I know a lot of young ladies have their priorities mixed up these days but there are still very decent Lagos girls. Don't generalise. Also, remember say, "AIDS DEY OOOOOO" I rest. |
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Akinagirl (f)
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If you were a real player then you would not have to ask this question. And if you do not like your friends influence on you, then like the above poster said, get new friends. You are mature enough to have a mind of your own, do not let other peoples thinking influence you.
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iceblue (f)
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if u gotta ask, dude, u aint a playa! it is something you know you have within you and exude and flaunt, like nice boobs charisma just enjoy the party they want to throw. e be like say them get too much money for hand. |
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whitelexi (m)
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@Topic
Bros, u are not a playa, but u have just been introduced to the game.
What u do with the skills u are now acquiring will determine whether u are indeed a player or not.
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paulipopo
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Thank you all for your replies. I love you all. yea I am now convinced that I am not a player. God bless
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