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Sisieko (f)
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Ive been with my boyfriend or fiance since i was around 14-15 and im about to be 20, People say that we should marry already and i want to wait until im about 23-24, Is there any sense in waiting even thought it seems like we are already married?
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merge (f)
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Marry at the time you and your finance want.  You both have to agree together. |
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OsunAmazon
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Will it not be better for you to focus on your studies and career than early marriage? I bet you, by the time you get married and start shitting children, that Boo will disappear from your eyes and reality will set in. Don't hang on your boo expecting him to bring home all the needed bacon, you are young and have the whole life in front of you. Get whatever you can now before it's too late. Love can always wait.
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OMO IBO (m)
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20? isnt that too young? o girl, make u face your bukuru.
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jennykadry (f)
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if he wants to marry u,then go ahead,its not as if you're so young,some girls get married at d age of 18 or 19,so its no big deal,since both of u r like hussy and wifey ,y don't u guys try and legalise it by getting married,i think its better that way *i was also a victim*
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ifyalways (f)
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@Poster,nothing stops you from being married and pursuing your life goals eg education.Both can be managed well at same time.it has worked for most people.
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Busta (f)
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@20yrs?
Why the rush?
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diva_naija
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 Suga go right ahead ain't nohtin wrong wit that as long as u love each other. . . jus wheels of civilaisation changin d world n pushin women to marry late thez dayz  me. . . i'ma get me hitched sooooon
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D-reloaded (f)
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you're still young. 20? Why the rush?
It's one thing if you too started late then I would kind of understand what others are saying but you didnt.
Ignore them jare.
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tngtech (m)
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@poster
how old is your boyfriend?
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yimiton (f)
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@ Poster,
This discision is a big one and it depends on you and your boyfriend not what 'everybody' things.
This is because, everybody does not really exist when when you're in trouble, the only person you get to see is nobody.
You'll have to sit yourself down and think very well. YOu were practically a child when you started this relationship, it's time to ask yourself if this is actually what you want. Being like you're married and actually being married are two very different things. Once you're married, you can never walk away, it's a life commitement.
At this age, you might still be too young to fully realize what you want in a man or in a marriage, I'll advice you wait another two years and if you still feel strongly enough for him to be his wife, then go ahead.
Meanwhile, you must never make the mistake of feeling like you've dated him for so long and you're mandated to marry him. Neighter should you get yourself so stuck to him that you'll never know what other people are like.
Get some fresh air, experience being friends with other people *Make sure sex is not involved in all these experimentations* get to experience life a little and in about two years time, you'll be ready to make your choice.
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Uby40 (m)
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@ poster, don't u think it would be a great idea if u set a new marital record in your family?
follow your heart sister.
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TolaniLuv
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Don't mind them ooo DREW BARRY MOORE was married around 17 and Beyonce younger sister also got married around 17-18 year old. Now that you're 20 you can do whatever you want you're now independent woman.
Just send me an invitation . I will come chop rise, e-mail me ooooo
mo gbo mo ya
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Busta (f)
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Don't mind them ooo DREW BARRY MOORE was married around 17 and Beyonce younger sister also got married around 17-18 year old. Now that you're 20 you can do whatever you want you're now independent woman.
Just send me an invitation . I will come chop rise, e-mail me ooooo
mo gbo mo ya
hehehe, of course, u go go chop rise  |
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D-reloaded (f)
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Totally agree with yimitron.
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yimiton (f)
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Don't mind them ooo DREW BARRY MOORE was married around 17 and Beyonce younger sister also got married around 17-18 year old. Now that you're 20 you can do whatever you want you're now independent woman.
Just send me an invitation . I will come chop rise, e-mail me ooooo
mo gbo mo ya
And today Drew has broken up with her husband even after about 3 kids. Solonje is not example for any young woman to follow neighter is any Hollywood star. These people can decide to marry because *Oh my gosh, he's so cute* and break up tomorrow because *We needed time off* I'm sure the poster doesn't want to be a divorcee after 3 years of marriage. @ poster, take your time, there's no need to rush. Remember you have all your life time to be a woman but only a very short while to be a girl. Relax and enjoy those few years. |
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iceblue (f)
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don't discourage the girl abeg, it actually works for some couples. don't biff her. just because her own morning is earlier than most doesnt mean it's wrong. there's things she can enjoy from marrying young e.g. i think it's cute when a woman and her daughter look like they've got only ten years apart. her skin recovers better after pregnancy. it's also cool to carry your grandkids while you're still on your feet, and not admire them from your sick bed or wheel chair (or coffin), don't you think? plus she's the type who'll probably celebrate 75th year anniversary. it's a privilege reserved for the few who marry young. @ poster search your heart for the answer. if your heart and your parents have nothing against the man - go ahead. me too i wan chop rise rice |
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Busta (f)
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And today Drew has broken up with her husband even after about 3 kids. Solonje is not example for any young woman to follow neighter is any Hollywood star. These people can decide to marry because *Oh my gosh, he's so cute* and break up tomorrow because *We needed time off* I'm sure the poster doesn't want to be a divorcee after 3 years of marriage.
@ poster, take your time, there's no need to rush. Remember you have all your life time to be a woman but only a very short while to be a girl. Relax and enjoy those few years.
 Where your sources abeg??? Drew Barrymore had 3 kids?? |
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vivaladiva (f)
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u have been with a GUY SINCE You WERE 14YRS MAN THATS DEEP
I DONT ENVY You
GIRL You NEED TO SEE THE WORLD , EXPAND UR HORIZON
SUCK A FEW DCIKS
BREAK A FEW HEARTS
GET UR HEART BROKEN
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jennykadry (f)
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don't discourage the girl abeg, it actually works for some couples. don't biff her.
just because her own morning is earlier than most doesnt mean it's wrong. there's things she can enjoy from marrying young
e.g. i think it's cute when a woman and her daughter look like they've got only ten years apart. her skin recovers better after pregnancy.
it's also cool to carry your grandkids while you're still on your feet, and not admire them from your sick bed or wheel chair (or coffin), don't you think?
plus she's the type who'll probably celebrate 75th year anniversary. it's a privilege reserved for the few who marry young.
u can say that again sweetie |
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Roscodaddy (m)
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why you no marry at 20 morning star ko morning star ni,my dear don't even think about it yet,complete your education,have your own source of income,be somehow independent before u think about marriage,no mind all those old cargos wey dey say go ahead,by the way according to vulva see the world don't discourage the girl abeg, it actually works for some couples. don't biff her. just because her own morning is earlier than most doesnt mean it's wrong. there's things she can enjoy from marrying young e.g. i think it's cute when a woman and her daughter look like they've got only ten years apart. her skin recovers better after pregnancy. it's also cool to carry your grandkids while you're still on your feet, and not admire them from your sick bed or wheel chair (or coffin), don't you think? plus she's the type who'll probably celebrate 75th year anniversary. it's a privilege reserved for the few who marry young. @ poster search your heart for the answer. if your heart and your parents have nothing against the man - go ahead. me too i wan chop rise rice |
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4 Him (m)
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half the people saying "20 u're still young" would have married at 20 if they had gotten the opportunity.
What's wrong with marrying early? She's been with the guy 6 good years, its not as if she's just learning to get to know him. She has had chances to be with other men but chose to remain with one guy.
I don't buy these "experience life" bla bla bla. In an ideal world we all wish we had married our first loves . . . there's nothing to experience . . . once you meet the right person start a life together.
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welli (f)
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u can say that again sweetie |
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jennykadry (f)
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why you no marry at 20 morning star ko morning star ni,my dear don't even think about it yet,complete your education,have your own source of income,be somehow independent before u think about marriage,no mind all those old cargos wey dey say go ahead,by the way according to vulva see the world there is nothing like old cargos here,if shes matured enough,and loves d guy well enough,i don't see any crime in getting married if she wants to,what of people that get married at that age?r u telling me they made a mistake,must every girl finish school and start working before they get married?what of those that completed their education in their husbands house?my point is a girl must not be through wt school before getting married |
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jennykadry (f)
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jenny i had to pursue u here jst to remind u of 2moro.show yourself.7th page,29th post.hp u grab of course i know tomorrow is your birthday sweetie,i have it in mind,but which one is 7th page,29th post |
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jennykadry (f)
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half the people saying "20 u're still young" would have married at 20 if they had gotten the opportunity.
What's wrong with marrying early? She's been with the guy 6 good years, its not as if she's just learning to get to know him. She has had chances to be with other men but chose to remain with one guy.
I don't buy these "experience life" bla bla bla. In an ideal world we all wish we had married our first loves . . . there's nothing to experience . . . once you meet the right person start a life together. my point exactly,wats wrong if she marries at this age,if shes matured enough to handle d challenges in marriage ,then let her go ahead and marry d guy abeg |
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welli (f)
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@ jenny d 29th reply on d 7th page tells u what to do  good night |
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jennykadry (f)
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@welli ok dearie, sleep tight |
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Frando29 (m)
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oya, make everbody go sleep. school dey tomorrow
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jennykadry (f)
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@poster
if u think u can handle marriage well enough,i wish u all d best,don't mind d people that said after 2or 3 kids d man will leave u,its a big lie,i know of a girl that got married at d age of 18 ,she has 3 kids now and d husband still loves her like crace,if he is your husband , then go for him
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welli (f)
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JENNY .y u wan spoil my thread na wit that post?lol . , u berra post tomorrow.its 12. . want to go to bed good night
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Sisieko (f)
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LOlz u I'm not getting married tomorrow, And as in education wise I go one more semester to go and Ill be a RN Nurse, Money and stabity is not a problm and it never has, I just don't know as to get the title now or just wait,
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