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savanaha
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Based on?  This is dumb really . . . majority of the pedophile rings are based in the US and Europe. With the exception of the northerners in Nigeria (by virtue of culture and religion), pedophilia is looked down upon in the south. I think Europe and America are the few countries willing to take criminal actions on pedophiles. How many young girls are molested and abused in even Nigeria by older men and no one says anything even when they eventually find out. Isn't one of SOuth Africa's big problem is that disgusting men with Aids molest young gilrs because they think virgins take away aids? All they end up doing is taking away virginity for the unwanted gift of AIDS. |
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D-reloaded (f)
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I think Europe and America are the few countries willing to take criminal actions on pedophiles. Exactly. I didnt even say that to bash Nigeria/Africa. Just stating how things were/still are(in some places) |
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4 Him (m)
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I think Europe and America are the few countries willing to take criminal actions on pedophiles. How many young girls are molested and abused in even Nigeria by older men and no one says anything even when they eventually find out. that is very different from blanket stereotypes like "pedophilia is common to Nigeria/Africa". The fact that Europe and America are willing to take criminal actions is testament to the fact that pedophilia knows no colors or regions. I wonder why some are worried because the girl is 14 . . . would it have been more acceptable if the boy was 15 too? I thot we all had freedom of choice? Anyway . . . |
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Trendiest (f)
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D guy's only 25,why d rush now, when u no b Akata or hausa, chill now, and u'r only 20, madam,marriage na huge huge big step,
u think u'r in Love now and it'l b fine, huh, don't let anyone tell u lies oo, Marriage no b easy thing
My boyfriend's 29 and am 23, he's soooooooooooooooooo ready 4 d big "M", not like am nt but thinkin about all the things that comes wit it,I think i'l chill 4 a little longer,
so girl,my own 2cents, it no easy n why rush,as long as u hav each other,that is all that matters,
don't forget 2 ask ur parents ooooooo
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savanaha
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that is very different from blanket stereotypes like "pedophilia is common to Nigeria/Africa". The fact that Europe and America are willing to take criminal actions is testament to the fact that pedophilia knows no colors or regions.
I wonder why some are worried because the girl is 14 . . . would it have been more acceptable if the boy was 15 too?
I thot we all had freedom of choice? Anyway . . .
The truth is that pedophilia is more common in Africa because there is no forceful law against it. I think the worry is that a 19 yr old okorobia should find himself someone he can whisper sweet nothings to who is old enough to understand and not just follow. That is why he would be an adult. I understand why he did it though because some Nigerian men love submission and someone his age will not as willingly submit as a 14yr tata. |
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D-reloaded (f)
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There you go. Savanah knows what's up
anyway back on topic. Since the OP already said she'll be done very soon with her RN program then I wish her the best.
although I would say work abit so you two can have joint income for when you settle down. If you intend on living in NY, you shoul;D know how expensive it is, so I say gather enough money both of you then go from there
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sheniqua
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Honestly i don't think d age should be an issue here,like i said they might not have indulged in sex,i guess they are just too close and that is y she said they both live or act like married couples,if age na issue what of our mothers that got married at age 13 or 14 to men that r 28 or 30?age no be issue ,the issue here is can d little girl handle marriage at this age?if she can then let her get down it
My mom married after she graduated college so she was a full grown adult. The era of marrying at 13 was probably in my grandmothers time. |
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jennykadry (f)
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i doubt that,they r so many mothers who got married at that age,and it was nt during the time of our grand mothers
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sheniqua
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The truth is that pedophilia is more common in Africa because there is no forceful law against it. I think the worry is that a 19 yr old okorobia should find himself someone he can whisper sweet nothings to who is old enough to understand and not just follow. That is why he would be an adult. I understand why he did it though because some Nigerian men love submission and someone his age will not as willingly submit as a 14yr tata.
My brother you get am like reloaded said can you imagine a sophomore at NYU dating a girl at Springside middle school Isn't there something wrong with this picture? |
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talk2sulta (m)
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D-reloaded wats up?
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D-reloaded (f)
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Hi  She lives in NY and is just about to finish school, osisi. Personally I don't suggest marriage yet, that's just me. If she lives down south like NC, GA, TN, blah blah, fine since standard of living isnt sky high. Like I said I think she should work abit, make some money so it wont be like they get married and all the burden and respobnsibilities of bills and stuff will only be placed on the husband |
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sheniqua
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Hi She lives in NY and is just about to finish school, osisi. Personally I don't suggest marriage yet, that's just me. If she lives down south like NC, GA, TN, blah blah, fine since standard of living isnt sky high. Like I said I think she should work abit, make some money so it wont be like they get married and all the burden and respobnsibilities of bills and stuff will only be placed on the husband I read that part. She can do whatever she wants she already became a wife at 14 abi which one is my own  |
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sheniqua
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reloaded have you uploaded those pictures again
see as males just dey hi you up and down
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sheniqua
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Ok I see you have the above shoulder one
good!
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D-reloaded (f)
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Lmao osisi you have been drinking eh?  |
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sheniqua
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fanta  |
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Sisieko (f)
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@ sheniquwa
Whoa Whoa Whoa just because we were DATING since i was 14 doesnt mean that I'm stupid, Not that ay of it is your business but I didnt get intimate with him until I was of age!!! And before I did anything my parents were aware of it, They didnt even think of his age because He is well brought up and he has a good eucation, I'm pretty sure somebody in ur fam was married @ an early age, not that it matter, If u feel content enough to marry soeone than you should be able to do it, I never kep anything away from my parents and I never will, If u didnt have a partner when u were 14 thats ur business, To make things clear WE WERE DATING SINCE I WAS 14 NOT FUCKING!!!!!!,
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jennykadry (f)
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@sisieko
my question is,does d guy want to marry u?is he ready for marriage?
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LadyT (f)
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Whats the point in telling people its none of their buisness when you start this kind of topic.
I tire o!
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Sisieko (f)
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Yea he wants to marry me, he proposed to me last year!!! He says whenever I'm ready he has nothing to wait for, but i think Ill just wait till I'm about 24, the age seems right!! But I alrady have the title when people speak to us it alwas "hows ur wife" or " how is ur husband" and some of them ont even know thay we are engage, It because weve been together so long. a alot of peeople respect us,
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jennykadry (f)
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well its your life,and u alone know when its going to be convenient for u to get married,i wish u good luck
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sheniqua
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Whats the point in telling people its none of their buisness when you start this kind of topic.
I tire o!
you see am too? people start topics and when one says their piece suddenly it's not anyone's business. |
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sheniqua
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Yea he wants to marry me, he proposed to me last year!!! He says whenever I'm ready he has nothing to wait for, but i think Ill just wait till I'm about 24, the age seems right!! But I alrady have the title when people speak to us it alwas "hows your wife" or " how is your husband" and some of them ont even know thay we are engage, It because weve been together so long. a alot of peeople respect us,
Good for you what else can I sayjust 4 more years of "marital bliss" before officially tying the knot or shall I say untying and tying the knots since the knots have been tied since 14 Osanobua,I need to mind my business @ poster biko don't mind me o wishing you the very best. You sound very intelligent for a 20 year old. your parents did do a good job. phew!!
that wan't to hard to say sheniqua |
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Damoche10
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Most ladies would grab this oppurtunity you have here. Don't make anyone confuse you. Those ladies that would tell you anything contrary would grab it if it were them. You have to know that in any marriage, one there is tolerance between the two of you and there is love flowing around you the reamaining is small. Always pray to God that you husband or husband to be should get a better Job to give your house the aura it needs. Go girl, 'THE WORLD IS YOURS!!!!!!!!!!!
Note:People go to school while they are married or haven't you seen a man at 70 still in school? Obasanjo is still a student while the present EFCC chairman who happens to be a woman was married and had babies before she graduated from the university. So?
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jockybabe (f)
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I AGREE WITH YIMITON.
PSTER "THINK RIGHT OH,I AV A FRIEND that HAS DSAME STORY AS YOURS BUT WHEN IT WAS TIME FOR MARRIAGE,SHE TRIED BUTT SHE COULDNT ALL SHE DID WAS TO BREAK UP(,SHE STARTED DATING D DUDE AFTER HER SECONDARY SCHOOL).because MARRIAGE IS FOR EVER
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omoovie (f)
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Ol girl if y'all feel you are ready go ahead. I think 20 is too young too but y'all have been together for 5 - 6 years already. Start saving towards the wedding! I want asuebi!
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Wait oh! Wait oh! How old is he now? 29? and Nigerian? Honey. Run. Fast.
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Sisieko (f)
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No hes 25, hes Nigerian!! But americanized just like me, we still adap to the culture though,
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okenwa (m)
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@ all
marriage is from the heart. . .
Jesus once said 'once a man look at a lady lostfully,he has committed adultery'
the point am trying to make is that . . . there are actions going on in our hearts which are legitimate before God.
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omoovie (f)
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No hes 25, hes Nigerian!! But americanized just like me, we still adap to the culture though,
Oh, Ok. Then y'all don't have qualms now. Just remember regardless of whomever is in the relationship and wherever they come from COMMUNICATION is very important. I'm waiting for my asuebi. |
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t00 cUTE (f)
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The question is what do u want 4 urslf, remember thats what important.  |
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