Ladies Who Hold On To Their Father's Surname In Marriage

_{"shakes head"} africans sha. make una dey there dey complain about names. the world is advancing and moving forward, women are being recognized as human beings in the society with voices and opinions, and some of you would rather be stuck in the dark ages. i feel sorry for you. anyway, its only a handful of people that still object to their wife keeping her last name, those that have a complex and think the wife is property that should be stamped! hiss!
i'm keeping my last name, it is very precious to me. most of my siblings are girls, so it's even more important that we keep the name alive! if i had my way, my future kids would bear my maiden name plus their father's name too!  oh, wait, i'll just name one child with my maiden name. yes, that's it!

I would keep mine

Correction, Hilary Rodhman Clinton, she Rodman is her Fathers Name and she uses it toghter ith her surname, People just prefer to use the short version but check her profile you will see her full names

well, first off, I'm a muslim and according to my religion, I shouldn't be changing my name after marriage. We do not believe that marrying a man means you should give up your identity and doing so can cause confusion regarding lineage/family tree. There is no such thing as ownership of the woman; yeah, the Qur'an says "Men are maintainers and protectors of women,,," but no where does it say one owns the other. The woman bears her father's last name to indicate her line of descent not as a sign of her father's ownership and since her line of descent doesn't change after marriage, why should she change it?

And all those saying people who aren't ready to change their names are not ready for marriage sound very immature. So the name is a deciding factor in marriage now, abi? If you found the perfect wife BUT she decides not to take your name you won't marry her? I mean no offense but it sounds very silly and puerile to me.

And to the guy (RichyBlack) who said I'm not Nigerian because of this, get this straight: I'm Nigerian, yoruba to be precise. And it certainly aint nigerian culture to change your name after marriage; I know Nigerian culture too! Its something that came with colonisation. Are you going to tell me that in the olden days, when Labake gets married to Aremu Babatunde people start calling her Labake Babatunde? No! She would still be called Labake or Iyawo until she gets her own kid and becomes Iya Asake or whatever. And yeah, Nigerian men WANT to marry me,,,afterall, they DO think I'D be a very good wife. So please don't jump to silly conclusions based on one minor detail,,,at least not ALL Nigerian men are narrow-minded.

But my reasons for refusing to take on someone else's name have nothing to do with culture; its more of a religious and common-sense thing.

Dawid: I don't need to take my husband's name for people to know I'm married. Won't he be introduced to them? And if it matters so much to strangers, why don't they follow me home to check the marriage contract? That's the problem with Nigeria; people want to know what doesn't concern them in any way at all! So yeah, if they see me and my husband, let them come up to me and ask for proof of marriage since my name will obviously be different to his!

Pretty much i'D advice you to stick to issues where you can at least make some sense. Nigeria is not the only nation where married women pick up their husband's name after marriage . . . like Kobe said . . . Nigerians did not invent the term "maiden name".

If you don't want to take up ur husband's name then don't, no one is forcing you. Your mother took up ur father's name . . . ask her if she did it because of strangers as proof of marriage.

This topic and the replies are just ridiculously silly.

Sorry to say but this is a purely stupid question. Women have been bearing their husband's surnames for how many years now . . . hundreds or thousands of years?
It is not a legislation that women MUST bear their husband's names . . . there are thousands of women who keep their maiden names and their husbands are just fine. What is the point of ur whinning really?


You're the one who really doesnt know what she's saying . . . notice that you did not use Hillary Rodham when you refered to her. Hillary is using her husband's name . . . if that was a sign of Bill's ownership over her i doubt she'D be running for president.


O Lord! Is there a legislation that forces you to take up ur husband's name? Who forces wives to drop their maiden names? Ask your mother . . . was she forced to take up ur father's name? Get with which program? your idiocy?
Can you engage ur brain when next you reply please?

did u mistake your juvenile entries initially as "civil conversation" for mature minds? Think again.


for the simple reason that i don't suffer empty heads who think they should come here and rubbish whatever others say. I always say . . . if you bring VALID points ii will gladly accept and will humbly acknowledge it. Until then don't come ranting and raving if you actually know less than you are letting on.


Everyone who knows me is aware i am grown up. Let me also add that taking air heads like you down a peg or two is not the exclusive preserve of kids.


there is a clear difference between "different views" and downright silly comments. While i take extra time to digest the former, i do not suffer the latter.


Childish comments because they expose you for what you truly are - brainless. Next time don't just come here exhibiting verbal diarrhoea . . . people who actually have some brain cells are reading and may have a thing or two to say about it.
Have a good day.

@ Dawi

carry your wahala go. haba the girl just dey talk her mind.
And what's the fuss about a name? It's just a name and nothing  more!