Secrets You Should Never Tell Your Partner

Would you have preferred your girlfriend to keep her sexual past a secret or is it the fact she had more lovers than you that is upsetting you? Sexual jealousy is what most people go through when they hear about their partner's sexual past. Secrets can make or break a relationship and it will depend how emotionally strong you are. It's best not to keep secrets, secrets have a way of coming out.

Tell your partner nothing of which you are not asked.

If your partner has breached your confidentiality once, he or she will do it again.  If your partner has a loose tongue, you are better off confiding in the devil.

Study your partner for at least 6 months before you tell him or her personal things about yourself.  Start with little things and see if it can be kept confidential.

Unless it concerns your partner in one or another, you may have to tell.  If not please learn to control your impulsive tendencies of "confessing" everything out of joblessness. 

Choose wisely what you may choose to tell.

I personally will never discuss past relationships.  Not his or her business. Medical history, yes.

My family problems, (like brothers', sisters' problems, e.t.c.) no!

Things like these make my skin crawl. If you know you can't handle it why did you ask? You don't have the same regard for her ke? BS

all secrets will backfire.

 :-\about tellin him everiithing
so 1 day when u break up
his gana use that against you init
depends, things bout my family like sista, brother, mum or dad
hell 2 the no never not even when u carried away doing whatever
sfe da rest typing 4 people that will ague bak like no mans business init
, lol

Everyone needs to keep some secrets, it helps mainatain our individuality. . . . .  if your partner truely loves you they'd understand u had a past as did they and will trust you as you are now, the past should not even matter and any guy who makes a big deal about a girls past is only displaying his lack of self confidence and quite frankly is a whimp!

Only tell what is rlevent, when its relevant, when asked and if u are positive they can handle it
there are somethings in my past I would never mention unless it is important to the relationship
randomly confessing is a no no, u are just looking for trouble.

something like ex lovers i would say yes if you are serious with this person .
Reason is you plan to make this guy or girl your final stop and its best to come clean to avoid any future mishaps.
Lets face it over the years you 2 will be partners there is a chance a jealous ex lover will try to cause trouble and if you came clean then it makes life much easier.
Here is an example that actually did happen .Day of some big wedding reception some drunk guy comes over to groom and starts saying how they dated so so years and what her best sex position was and what sounds she makes and when.And this was accurate ,so the groom went into a frenzy and a fight there.The wedding reception was halted as the groom's people were outraged .
Turned out she did indeed invite this guy and according to her ,the guy was her ex 4 years ago but has become a "friend" with her and actually advised her a lot.This part may also be very true .But because the groom never knew about the history and only knew him as a guy who occasionally phones her to chat,he was in serious doubt and it took ages to mend the problem.

Reception .The wedding already took place .It ended in family talk and the usual nigerian way to get sorted.

Things like abortion, too many ex lovers and other things that can be of great damage to you relationship must be buried deep down inside your heart.

Opening up to your partner can be very dangerous and can led to a break up.

I think people avoid things that potentially will be classified as a "secret". but if you do have "secrets" you should disclose them from the start because the longer you wait, the more pain it will cause.

I don't think most people know the meaning of a "secret"!  If I write them here, they are no longer secrets. 

Is this an "April Fool's" day topic or what?

@ poster

i have never hidden anything from him.  he knows everything about my past, present and we are planning the future together.  the Bible made it clear that they were both naked and not ashamed.  so far there is genuine love between the two of you, no matter how bad your past is, you should be able to tell your partner.  got no secret.  he knows it all and i know his too.   

I didnt know such secrets existed oh

then again it would be no secret 

just imagine that. what are those secret that people can handle why should you do things [secret] that you are not sure if you tell someone in future he or she can handle. play safe  people and act responsibly.
serious stuffs for serious minded people

If I can't tell such a secret to my partner then Nairaland with the most notorious gossip mongers and bussybodies will be the right place to say it out?