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kunleajayi
This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« on: May 19, 2008, 04:14 PM »

There is this female friendof mine(Let me call her Doyin)  i used to have when i was in school. She was this quiet, easy going lady. She was in part 1 then while i was in part 3. I happened to have been taking her and her friend some computer courses tutorials, and we later got very close. I contemplated on dating her then, but i later gave up the idea due to some reasons.

We remained friends until i left school. We kept on communicating once in a while, but we later lost contact for almost a year. all that while we were in touch, i joked with her that when she was about to serve, she will be posted to Abuja.

About a month and a half ago, she called me and told me my predictions were true, and that she was posted to Abuja. I went to check her about twice in camp, but i never wanted our friendship to go beyond that level.

About three saturdays ago, i was with my girlfriend when this Doyin called. I didn't want to pick her call as i didn't want to disrespect my babygirl, but she kept on calling and calling until my girl said i shld just pick the phone and ask her what she wanted. Doyin told me she just came back from home and that i should come pick her up at the car park, something i told her i couldn't do at that point. She got upset and hung up the call on me. Later that night, my baby sent me a text asking me what this girl wanted from me, that she doesn't want any girl to cause any trouble and problems between us, etc, etc.

Anyway, last Monday i took the whole week off to go look for a better job(s) elsewhere as i want to leave the present establishment i work. i happened to call Doyin and asked hw she was faring. She told me a story that the other corper she was to stay with had paid their money amounting to like 130k to some dubious agents who now made away with the money, and she had nowhere to stay. I went to see her where she was(Gwarimpa), and she told me where she was at the moment, the woman told her to leave, and her friend said she cannot stay with her, so she didn't have anywhere to sleep that night. Since it was getting to 9pm, i decided she shld come spend the night in my place.

That's where my wahala started. She ended up spending the rest of the week with me. I didn't have the heart to chase her out as she didn't have a place to lay her head, and the way she was crying the first night, i couldn't help myself and i never knew when my mind just left me and i pulled her into my arms. One thing led to another and before i knew it, i started kissing and carressing this girl. She was wearing nothing under her shirt(she had changed and we were lying on the bed) and my hands slipped under her shirt and started rubbing her back and massaging her breasts. The bad part was that this girl did not even attempt to push me off!!! infact, she even crushed her body closer to mine. I finally came to my senses and stopped before it led to another thing.

ever since, any small thing, the girl will call me. Even when we finally found a place for her to rent, she will keep calling and ask me where i was, that she wanted to see me. It seems she's getting emotional, which is what i don't want. I don't want anything nor anyone to seperate me from my present baby as she and I have promised to love each other to the end. I didn't tell her that Doyin spent about 5 days in my house. People what can i do? How do i tell this girl off without hurting her feelings?
welli (f)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #1 on: May 19, 2008, 04:18 PM »

please anyone who reads d whole tori can summarize 4 mua
9ja boi (m)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #2 on: May 19, 2008, 04:30 PM »

Kunle,
I really think u shld be a reporter 4 HINTS magazine.
rubbish!
blackmann
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #3 on: May 19, 2008, 04:38 PM »

Quote from: welli on May 19, 2008, 04:18 PM
please anyone who reads d whole tori can summarize 4 mua


From what i read:-

- The guy had a friend way back in his school days(Doyin).
- The girl came into town posted to Abuja as a corper.
- She had an accomodation problem, and he came into the pix just as the person she was staying with chased her out(talk about coincidence).
- He took her to his flat where she ended up spending the whole week and he ended up smooching and "romancing" the girl, if that's the word.
- Now that she has gotten her place, she doesn't want to leave him.
- He desn't want anything to destroy his current relationship.

Does that help, welli dear?

@9jaboi, why am i not surprised myself? Let's see what other members of the house have to offer.
Xerxes. (m)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #4 on: May 19, 2008, 04:40 PM »

@ Nigeria boi,

Cut Kunle some slack. . . . . . . . .
He wants to know from NLers on what to do to his mysterious tenant after squeezing her boobs and kissing her. . . .
Kunle must have loads of self-control to have stopped.  Grin Grin Grin Grin
How people come online to spew this tosh must be the 8th wonder of the world. . . . .
dopat10 (f)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #5 on: May 19, 2008, 04:42 PM »

Gramma school graduate
Oscar J (m)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #6 on: May 19, 2008, 04:42 PM »

Quote
One thing led to another and before i knew it, i started kissing and carressing this girl. She was wearing nothing under her shirt(she had changed and we were lying on the bed) and my hands slipped under her shirt and started rubbing her back and massaging her breasts. The bad part was that this girl did not even attempt to push me off!!! infact, she even crushed her body closer to mine. I finally came to my senses and stopped before it led to another thing.


really ! n u want us to believe this story abi?  Huh

guy go take a shower.
D-reloaded (f)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #7 on: May 19, 2008, 04:44 PM »

You caused this for yourself jo

You already cheated on your girlfriend between. Why the hell would "Doyin" push you off? It's VERY obvious that she likes you so why are you surprised that she responded to your advances. Abegi

If you actually care about your current relationship(doubtful), you would tell this "doryin" person to leave you in peace and that you have a girlfriend and you don't have time to cater to her troubles/needs. Then from then on you should stop picking up her calls. Stop asking how she's faring. Yes it's polite and all but you can't do such things to someone that has feelings for you else they will interpret it into something else.

Stop calling her also

Ziggy_mama
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #8 on: May 19, 2008, 04:46 PM »

Goooooooooooooood story. Cheesy

Now clap 4 yourself.Pa pa papapa pa!


Oh 4 d record. . . . .   Cry pulez don't hurt this girl's fellin
welli (f)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #9 on: May 19, 2008, 04:56 PM »

@ blackmann.thnks alot.iz appreciate  Kiss  Grin



@ topic, do waeva u want jare.any little tin u guys run to nl 4 advise.
tboy1 (m)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #10 on: May 19, 2008, 05:02 PM »

Quote from: kunleajayi on May 19, 2008, 04:14 PM

One thing led to another and before i knew it, i started kissing and carressing this girl. She was wearing nothing under her shirt(she had changed and we were lying on the bed) and my hands slipped under her shirt and started rubbing her back and massaging her breasts. The bad part was that this girl did not even attempt to push me off!!! infact, she even crushed her body closer to mine. I finally came to my senses and stopped before it led to another thing.

hahahahahahahaha Grin Grin Grin homie, i had to laugh when i read this and to tell you the truth i don't believe you stopped because once a guy is in that stage all reasoning and focus will cease to exist and the only thing doing the thinking for you is 'little jon' down there Grin Grin Grin

The only advise i have for you is to be be a man and speak to the lady. Simply tell her that the relationship between you and her is causing problems between you and your girlfirend and she either reduce the communication between two of you or she stops calling USimple!!!
Xerxes. (m)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #11 on: May 19, 2008, 05:07 PM »

@ tboy1,

You must be very intelligent.

The devil that led him into slipping his hand under her shirt wouldn't have deserted him to push the ENVELOPE. Wink Cheesy
How are we even sure Mr. Kunle didn't eat the forbidden fruit already?
I don't trust this Kunle geezer at all.
frank 3.16 (m)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #12 on: May 19, 2008, 06:00 PM »

One thing led to another and before i knew it, i started kissing and carressing this girl. She was wearing nothing under her shirt(she had changed and we were lying on the bed) and my hands slipped under her shirt and started rubbing her back and massaging her breasts. The bad part was that this girl did not even attempt to push me off!!! infact, she even crushed her body closer to mine. I finally came to my senses and stopped before it led to another thing.

shit, what an incopmlete story, you better go and finish up what you started. coming to your senses at this point spoil the story for we listeners. i wonder how dissapointed she must have felt.
you ignited the fire withgout quenching it. you are evn more wicked than the devil himself.
oYaTo (m)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #13 on: May 20, 2008, 02:07 PM »

@poster  i gbadun u.r story o. . . made me feel like i was reading directly from a magperhaps "hints" like d otha dude said. . .

omo if u.r 'tori true, then na u take u.r own hand cause am. . . u've been leadin' d poor damsel on from the start. If u.d made u.rsef clear from the onset t'would have been a different storycallin' her and goin' to check on her? Huh that sends d wrong message dudedoubt if u really love that ur babe as u so claim.

u.r hand dey feel d girl boobs and u come stop?  Huh how u take stop? no disrespect, but mayb u.r d^ck's made of wood.  Grin Grin man no get that kin willpower well d majority sha

omo i hope say u.r 'tori true, or i'd just be wastin' my time. . . Grin
Busta (f)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #14 on: May 20, 2008, 02:17 PM »

@poster,

Advice:
Tell her upfront that u're sorry u led her on, and that u have a girlfriend that u're serious with.
SENATOR JD (m)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #15 on: May 20, 2008, 02:24 PM »

@busta true sis.
@poster just let her knw wht u did was wrong and that u didnt mean it(hoping u didnt after u don rub body) and that u have  a serious relationship ure in(if u aint lying) and u don't want to jeopardise it and then walk away neatly.because such s*** destroy well built rltps if not properly managed
mygee33 (m)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #16 on: May 20, 2008, 02:42 PM »

Call her back,
Tell her you made a mistake in the beginning,
Take her to your house again on a weekend,
Let one thing lead to another again Cheesy
And then, try checking if you left something INSIDE there, maybe she w3ants you to come collect it back Shocked Smiley Wink Cheesy
BELIEVE IT OR NOT,,  SHE LL LET YOU BE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don't say I said Lips sealed
onyeka_ng (f)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #17 on: May 20, 2008, 02:43 PM »

Quote from: Busta on May 20, 2008, 02:17 PM
@poster,

Advice:
Tell her upfront that u're sorry u led her on, and that u have a girlfriend that u're serious with.
GBAM
lysaa (f)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #18 on: May 20, 2008, 02:51 PM »

Quote from: Nigeria boi on May 19, 2008, 04:30 PM
Kunle,
I really think u shld be a reporter 4 HINTS magazine.
rubbish!

yes o. That story could buy u recharge card at least.
manchibabe
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #19 on: May 20, 2008, 03:07 PM »

@ [poster
u didnt no u were serious with ur gfriend before u started smooching nd kissing someone else abi,
this is ow u men find wahala
Templa (m)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #20 on: May 20, 2008, 07:02 PM »

@ poster

just tell her that u've gat a girl whom u love (even though u've already cheated on her  Embarrassed). let her understand that u r not capable of loving her as much as u love ur current girl. if she is not selfish, she will understand.
don't go about squeezin boobs like u don't know how to squeeze sachet water   Tongue.
if one tin leads to another and u start squeezing boobs again, i pray u come back to nairaland to report, then u go no say i dey  Angry for you.

stop playing wit that gals emotions period r u not a man. damn. Sad
qekzy (m)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #21 on: May 20, 2008, 07:53 PM »

maybe this guy thinks we are all share holders in yaba left, because obviously he's the chairman of the board of crase people.
like Nigeria boi said you need to talk to the editor of hints, i'm sure this story can get you some recharge card with which you can call this girl you have been dreaming of. nonsence

even if your pingolo was on vacation most men wont go that far and then stop. haba! since when did we men start doing the right thing? especially when kwokrikwo is at stake Grin
Abbygyal (f)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #22 on: May 20, 2008, 08:04 PM »

oh boy, was d temperature in the room that hot?. If u really love ur gurlfriend, that should be the first thing that should be in your mind na. You dey massage d gurl body and stuff, body no be wood na and i bet u knw that she wants you so u to wan take advantage.  Shocked
First of all, you played with her feelings,
Secondly your gurlfriend might still egt to knw (if u understand what i mean)
Thirdly, a guy doent reach that kind of stage and back off, except d switch in ur bain wasnt working well at that moment (no offence because it is normal).

The best thing for u to do (my opinion) is to sit her down and let her know what is going on.
saucekid (m)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #23 on: May 20, 2008, 08:11 PM »

chai
hot blood will land you in trouble
laudate
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #24 on: May 20, 2008, 08:14 PM »

this one na simple matter. Next time she calls, tell your girl to pick the phone & calmly let her know that she is the one in the driver's seat! Chikena! Grin

Ol' boy, I admire yah self-control sha o! I hope you were sincere when you said you backed off, before things got too intimate.

But next time, watch out for the warning signs. DON'T invite any chic who fancies you over to yah house. If she insists on dropping by, call the police! Grin
sheniqua
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #25 on: May 20, 2008, 08:22 PM »

hmm laudate long time Grin
tngtech (m)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #26 on: May 20, 2008, 08:38 PM »

i think you caused it after all.

You shouldn't av allowed her to stay in your house more than 2days.
@least you have girlfriends she can stay with.

You just have to bear the consequences.
sheniqua
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #27 on: May 20, 2008, 08:46 PM »

@ poster are you now a victim?
please stop sounding helpless
you ain't!
RampantT (f)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #28 on: May 20, 2008, 08:57 PM »

*sigh* Undecided
tboy1 (m)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #29 on: May 20, 2008, 11:07 PM »

mr poster - any update? Cheesy Cheesy
welli (f)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #30 on: May 20, 2008, 11:17 PM »

none at d momentsays mr poster Cheesy
Binary (m)
Re: This Girl Is Getting Emotionally Attached To Me
« #31 on: May 21, 2008, 03:13 AM »

@Kunle, u don't want to tell us the truth abi? ok carry on with the two. play the game and clean u mouth  Grin
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