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Skidoc (m)
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Prenup agreement is essentially an agreement between a couple of greedy, selfish and distrustful folks. Husband-to-be is thinking; " I'll soon kick you out. You can't have all of what you are marrying me for. I'll only cut you a share. the rest is MINE! MINE! MINE!" Wife-to-be is thinking " I'll soon leave you. Let's sign it so I can get the sweet cut. Because if we don't sign it, chances are that I might not get anything from what I'm marrying you for". Hehe, Wife already has her eyes set on the sweet sweet cut from Day 1 of the marriage. Lucky woman! If I were her, I would lay off work and sit down enjoying myself and counting down to the day I will get my prenup dues.  Without the prenup, she probably won't get anything apart from child support, but now with the prenup she is a rich woman. How many wives of rich men in Nigeria have even divorced and got half of the husband's property? No way! They leave with nothing. So I don't think this whole thing applies to Nigeria jo! |
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chinani (f)
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If my fiancee is unwilling to sign the prenup, it means she is planning to divorce me and take half of my possessions. A gold-digger will never sign a prenuptial agreement, but someone that loves me won't mind!
@ SeunI actually think the opposite. I think that a man who really loved & trusted me would not ask me about a Prewhatever. Yes I understand that people change. That's why marriage can be risky. But to me, the risk is an emotional one. When you're heart breaks I will not think of my pocket book, that's the sort of person I am, so I guess I'm speaking for myself b/c I don't know how other people will/would feel. Lastly, life insurance is purchased b/c we will all die. No one buys insurance and says "Good now I can live forever!" I guess this issue is all about being comfortable & confident in your marriage. But a PreNup would not make me either. |
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just me (m)
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i am a new member & i m really feelin this site. i was with with american version of this kind of site but i tell y'all nairaland rocks
its only a fool who won't get a prenup
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Seun (m)
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When you're heart breaks I will not think of my pocket book Well, I am a businessman. I think about my pocketbook all the time. I'd rather be heart-broken and rich than be heart-broken and poor. Let us learn to subject the emotion of "love" to reason. Let's use our big brains! |
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sage (m)
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In the Nigerian system, a man can wake up anyday and kick his wife out empty handed because of one reason or the other.
In the west, she will get, your house, u cars, half your bank accounts, kids and the man would be kicked into the streets.
I think anybody that wants a prenupt should get one.
ONE THING IN LIFE IS CONSTANT--- CHANGE
People that say its for wealthy people, i don't know, but if u don't have any money i don't think ul be thinking prenupts, but again change.
u cannot compare marriages now with that of Grandfathers. The world is a diffrent place now
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funloving (m)
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Seun,you used the internet in defending yourself but there is no correlation there.
Are you implying that the interent is now being used for conducting marriages ?.Most marriage still take place outside the internet.
Fact of the matter,prenups are simply an invitation to take marriages unseriously.
I think anybody who wants a prenup should just settle for a living-in-lover.You don't need no marriage.Just bring the girl home,shag her till both of your are fed up of the shagging and you both go your separate ways.
If you want kids,adopt some.Forget about marriage because you ain't ready for it if you are looking for some prenuptial agreement before getting married.
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Skidoc (m)
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@Seun, true, people change and couples grow apart. But is divorce the next solution to this? Shouldn’t they iron out their differences and make it work? Was it not you preaching against divorce in the other thread? (not sure if it was you)
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Scorpio (f)
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Prenups are not for everyone, so if u makin $100,000 a year n u tell me u want a prenup, u gon see d back of my hand!
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chinani (f)
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Lol! I feel you Scorpio. But what would you say to a millionaire? Just asking.
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Scorpio (f)
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He could think about it  ps: i meant a hundred thousand dollars in my earlier post o |
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gem87 (f)
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i'm sitting on d fence regarding this issue
i mean it depends on a lot of issues!
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kellorah (f)
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@topic, it's really important for celebs when they get married or else, kai! esp; when they marry non-celebs or not-so-famous celebs
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Ryley (m)
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Prenups always seem to create the impression that you guys intend to divorce in the future. With the kinds of marriages we have today, you can’t blame either party. If I get married outside Nigeria and I am wealthy, I will consider getting one…, and….um…, i’m keeping the kids if anything goes wrong.  |
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Radiant (f)
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Psalm 146:3 3 Do not put your trust in princes,
Nor in a son of man, in whom there is no help.Therefore, I'll go for a prenup. 
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adconline (m)
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I know of someone who did it. He told me that he heard it from Donald Trump. ladies what do you think?
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jagunlabi (m)
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Well,if you do,you will gain admission to the kingdom of heaven. Sorry,just trying to make this thread a religious one.  I know of someone who did it. He told me that he heard it from Donald Trump. ladies what do you think?
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gem87 (f)
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it sure kills d romance
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adconline (m)
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have you ever tried romance without money?
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spoilt (f)
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i am all for pre-nups.men and women should be wise even while in love. These days even men marry women for money too. more and more men are gettin a lot of money after divorce (kevin federline who was brittany's husband, ryan phillipe who was reese witherspoon's husband, eric benet who was halle berry's husband etc etc) and not just celebrities , even ordinary folk. i consider my hard- earned saved cash to be for my children. all my investments are to make life easier for them. i would sign a pre-nup if need be to protect that stash from any man incase we decide to call it quits.there's no way their dad will leave us and take my money along too. i'll fight to the death. not that i hope for my marriage to end.  |
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davidylan (m)
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Story story! make una marry first! |
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spoilt (f)
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@ davidylan didnt i tell you i wasn't looking? |
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Seun (m)
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Story story! make una marry first! Actually, pre-nuptial agreements come before marriage. So you can't "marry first", see?  |
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4 Play (m)
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Actually, pre-nuptial agreements come before marriage. So you can't "marry first", see? That would entail a post-nuptial .If you bring that to court,the judge might laugh in your face |
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spoilt (f)
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seun thank you for telling davidylan oh!
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davidylan (m)
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Actually, pre-nuptial agreements come before marriage. So you can't "marry first", see? That is merely playing musical chairs with English language. You do a pre-nup with marriage as the intended end point. All those endorsing pre-nups at the moment (the women especially) should wait until they are about to get married. Then ask your traditional parents to send a lawyer to your fiance's house to sign a pre-nup! |
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spoilt (f)
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All those endorsing pre-nups at the moment (the women especially) should wait until they are about to get married. Then ask your traditional parents to send a lawyer to your fiance's house to sign a pre-nup! @ davidylan which one concern your parents in your pre-nup?  do people still ask permission from parents to do anything?  |
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davidylan (m)
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my dear in Nigerian culture, our parents still play a big role in marriage. Well unless we have become more American than the Americans themselves.
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spoilt (f)
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@davidylan
if you don't want a prenup good luck to you! your choice. and if you want to involve your parents in your financial matters, then better luck to you.
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davidylan (m)
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Thanks dear, i'm going to need all the luck i can get.
In the old days, our parents did not require pre-nups, they worked their socks off to keep their marriages. This "adopted" idea of marriage that is begining to seep into our mentality is ridiculous.
Everyone is now trying so hard to adopt the western mentality which is totally alien to our culture as Nigerians and Africans. Yes pre-nups help individuals protect their interests in marriage but it is nothing but a recipe for disaster with both individuals knowing they have the option of walking out of the relationship at any point in time without any repercurssions.
As for involving parents in my marriage. You make it sound like it is childish. Dear, have you ever attended a traditional wedding where the parents where not involved? Please let me know when u fiind one.
It is good to live in America, but it is good not to forget those things that define us as Nigerians. Sometimes not everything western is good! If pre-nups were wonderful more Americans would be getting married.
My twopence. Everyone is entitled to their oppinions.
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spoilt (f)
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As for involving parents in my marriage. You make it sound like it is childish. Dear, have you ever attended a traditional wedding where the parents where not involved? Please let me know when u fiind one. @davidylan no one said anything about not involving them in the traditional wedding. sure they'll help in the planning. but why should they have to know how much im worth to the last penny or how much my husband is worth? or if im having an agreement with my husband as to our financial matters? anyway im sure most traditional parents would just looooooooove their sons to sign prenups! the name may sound offensive but then we can always find another traditional name to call it. so it doesnt seem so outrageous. and it doesnt seem like something strange adopted from the west! they would just love it so that the little wife doesnt walk away with their son's wealth! i know manyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy naija parents that would wish we had that in our country. |
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davidylan (m)
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@davidylan no one said anything about not involving them in the traditional wedding. sure they'll help in the planning. but why should they have to know how much im worth to the last penny or how much my husband is worth? or if im having an agreement with my husband as to our financial matters?That would be going over board. They don't have to know that far, mine definitely wont. Most Nigerian parents of rich sons do not need a pre-nup, in the Nigerian society the woman only gets how much the man gives her in the event of a divorce. You think Kola Abiola's wife would dare go to the Ikeja High court to fight for half of his property just by virtue of being his wife? |
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