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gabrywyl (f)
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Hey all. I'm a Malaysian and I am dating a Nigerian guy for a few months now and I am still a virgin. When we first met, I made him promise that we will not have sex untill the day I am ready. To tell you the truth, everytime I see him, I seriously feel like having sex with him as he looks so yummy all the time but I am actually afraid of a few things which is:-
1) That I might be having sex for the wrong reasons?
2) He might not want me anymore. Well, I heard that many guys will leave the girl after getting laid I guess?
3) I heard that Nigerian men have a Big D***. Is that true? If that is, OH MY GOD,
4) I want it to be the perfect time and moment and it hasn't been.
I don't know but at times I can feel his frustration and I don't know what to do. Any advise?
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saucekid (m)
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its best to follow ur convictions so u don't have anyone to blame
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crazykid (m)
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If you feel uncomfortable whenever you think of having sex with him, then don’t do it; you can remain friends until you make up your mind whether he’s the right guy for you or not.
There's no point dn't something you would regret in the future.
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Ibime (m)
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1) That I might be having sex for the wrong reasons?
2) He might not want me anymore. Well, I heard that many guys will leave the girl after getting laid I guess?
3) I heard that Nigerian men have a Big D***. Is that true? If that is, OH MY GOD,
(1.) Do you need a reason to have sex? If you think he is yummy, that is reason enough. (2.) Depends on how long he been chasing. If the dude been toasting for 6 months, trust he wont leave. (3.) This is very correct. |
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gabrywyl (f)
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Thats true in a way but I will never blame him for anything. I love him so much to even care.
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gabrywyl (f)
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He did ask once in awhile and we have dated for like 8 months now and I would usually say sorry because of the not right moment and not the right time. He does make alot of effort to make it the right moment and right time by putting candles all over, new scented bed sheets, music, wine, all these stuff and I honestly feel bad. He told me that he has now already been turned to a Virgin hisself. Heheh!
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jennykadry (f)
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Make do wt kisses and smoocjing for now,until u r mentally ready to have sex wt him,because i guess u r mentally confused now,so take ur time and make sure weneva u do it,u r doing it because of u r ready for it,and not because of d BIG D**k, or because he's yummy(as if na ice cream him be)
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akpeteshi (m)
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to avoid regret, eliminate the cause. We are in a modern day and age and the social stance in any relationship has sex playing a major role in it's success and failure, If you want to have sex with him which is obvious then go ahead but there is no guarantee your fears such as him leaving is not going to manifest. As for not being the right time you are the owner of your own garden and you are the one to choose when you want someone coming in and eating your apple. Just make sure you are really ready but also consider the reality that he can also go out and look somewhere else to get that satisfaction.
But then again what do I know, I am drunk all the time.
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saucekid (m)
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*singin. . . .do me,do me,do me,do me. . . . .
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HR.hotness (f)
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Some virgin, how do u know what big dicks are for? Look sweetie, sex is a personal decison, if u still have doubts then you're obviously not ready if you're trying to tie him down by not giving in to sex then a future of unheathy relationships awaits u u seem have gotten it all wrong  |
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akpeteshi (m)
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@HRHotness,
I still dey wait make you show me loff oh!
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saucekid (m)
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do me i do you
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frank 3.16 (m)
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look, girly enjoy your self, it might be more painful for you after waiting for the right time and still everything does not work out.
first rule: never go into a relationship with the believe that its going to work out perfectly.
therfore all these your strategies have got nothing to do with whether he is going to leave you later or not.
enjoy him now that he looks yummy to you
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timmfikk (m)
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@ akpeteshi
I am sure if you continue this way you will need all the ladies in the world to show you loff,
@HR.hotness
Dear Ma'm please you don't need to be stingy to a guy like akpeteshi with your good gift from God, it seems this guy really likes you and want to know you more, this is a good thing on nairaland i guess. Its not so bad if things are working fine from here, whites do meet on match.com or american singles.
Well young Malaysian woman i think you need to put your heart together and take the right decision, remember there are some ladies out there like you who are really searching for what you have, but if you are so careless i hope you won't loose this guy, the guy also must have been to calm and cool if its me i would've introduced you to another lady who you will never know i am having any relationship with. but i just want you to know that its your world and let me quote one of my guy who said you owns your garden and its only you who will know when your apple is well developed and could give it to anyone to eat.
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big father (m)
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Follow your mind !
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makavele (m)
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u made a promise, so why try to break it when it's not yet time ::
anyway, d decisioni is urs , do something u won't hav to regret in d future
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subzeeero (m)
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All your excuses for not having sex with him are unreasonable if u ask me. This is because:
1. You don't need any reason for having sex with your boyfriend.
2. Why will he leave you after he stuck with u for 8 months while you deprive him of his desires.
3. Are you afraid of Big D***? I don't think so, because Asians love it and most of them are attracted to us (Nigerian guys)
just because of it.
4. Your recent posting suggests that he has made plenty of perfect moments, so you are just shying away because of
other factors.
Overall i must sympathise with this guy because he's been out of it for soooo long.
But i think you shouldn't give him untill he has married you because we all know that when you are in a different country, you tend to have relationships that you will discard after leaving it. Your guy is just taking you for a ride and one day he will call you with an international number saying he's sorry.
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saucekid (m)
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uhm. . .
grammar too full here oooo
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gabrywyl (f)
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Ur, Ok guys and girls. Had noted the advise and thank you so much for giving your advise here.I think I should just talk to him and ask him about it like I always do on every other matters. I think some of you are right, he has indeed waited too long and I can see from his face although he tried so hard not showing it. Besides, even if he leaves me, theres nothing I can do about it after all, he is the first guy in 25 years I have ever fall for and had never fall for any other guys before. If we decide to do it, I might start drinking alot so that I wont really feel it or something, And regarding the comment about Big D***. I don't think you are right about that. I am not attached to my boyfriend just because of the size of his D***. I'm attracted to him because of who he is and of what he is. I don't care if he has a D*** as small as my pinky finger. So what? I would prefer to choose a partner where I could share good memories of a lifetime instead of choosing someone with a Big D***. The reason why I ask its because I think that for first timers, a Big D*** would be a shock for sure.Thats all,
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gabrywyl (f)
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Hey saucekid,
What is wrong with you with the do me do me thang? Ewww,
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Coded200 (m)
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@gabrywyl
Ooh sauceKid is just showing some tough love, i think you got it pretty well concluded at the end of the day.
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gabrywyl (f)
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I had talked to my boyfriend and he told me that he respects me and will never force me but at the same time, he feels very lonely at times and if I want to do it, he promise me that he will not hurt me. I actually and honestly don't know what he means, Does he mean that he is lonely and thats why he needs sex or because I am not there to support him? And he said he wont hurt me in the sense that he wont leave me or the sex part to make it less painful?
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Coded200 (m)
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Am beginning to suspect you Ooh  , are you sure you don't want to just have this sex once and for all and stop all this back and forth fuss.If you want to be a virgin till marriage then wait even if your boyfriend is Brad Pitt inrespective of what he says, i mean if i were the same guy and you keep asking me i would say i wont hurt you too(both during the sex part and also after), and stop torturing this guy with the sex issue it seems his okay with you keeping it till after the aisle walk since he's been tagging along for like 8 months which a pretty good sign of commitment going by today's market standard. Warning  -If you ask for opinions again,i'D have to categorize you as one of those stereotypes that are still virgins becuase they didnt get the opportunity,you should know your onions on this issue by now(if you notice there werent much female contribution to your solvable predicament). |
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Vuitton (m)
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@ gabrly poster.
Honey i advice u not to dull ur self. Are u really a virgin? Show ur boy ur stuff, abi gold de inside? If ur boy is yummy like u said, then its a matter of time before another 'virgin' go screw am.
Understand.
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gabrywyl (f)
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If I'm not a virgin, why do you think I worry so much about this?
Oh yeah, Thanks Coded, I just realize that there arent much female's advise in here.
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fynne boy
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brothers u need to help me out here.therez this pretty gurl in my neigbhorhood i am crazy about who talks to no one and i was even getting scared of her.recently i found a way to get to her and we became close friends.But the day i made my intentions known to her she became mad saying i did all i did to "buy" her.i apologised for that and we are still friends but she has sworn she cnt date,with no reason at all.she always vists me at my place of work.i find i am glued to her because i call her say 4 times everyday.wot should i do,do i give up or just let things the way they are or give her some space to sort herself out.please help me am going nuts,
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HR.hotness (f)
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@ akpeteshi
I am sure if you continue this way you will need all the ladies in the world to show you loff,
@HR.hotness
Dear Ma'm please you don't need to be stingy to a guy like akpeteshi with your good gift from God, it seems this guy really likes you and want to know you more, this is a good thing on nairaland i guess. Its not so bad if things are working fine from here, whites do meet on match.com or american singles.
@ akpeteshi I don't do love, if u want a piece of me, u can send in ur application like everyone else  @ timmfikk I'm in search of a love slave, not a relationship, besides this is a discussion forum not a dating site anyone in search of love should join a dating site |
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subzeeero (m)
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Bla, Bla, Bla,
I think this story is too good to be true.
Man no be wood, how can he remain faithful in this relationship?
The asians i know are too horny to remain virgins for 25 years.
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buzyDiva (f)
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@poster,
Girl, don't listen to the people here . . do u
have sex wheneva u think u're ready and u're sure that u're ready to do soas long as he's not pressurizing u to have sex with him. Whether u give it up now or later . . u still going to give it up anyways.
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sista-jay (f)
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My sista, you should be having plenty of sex with this man instead of teasing him with the waiting game. Do you know how HARD it is for a man to hold it within?
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gabrywyl (f)
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Hey sista jay, Thanks for the advise and no, I don't know how hard it is because I assume that they could do theirself and they will be fine by it. I think?
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gabrywyl (f)
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Subzeero, OH MY GOD, You did not just SAY THAT!!! Not everyone can be Horny dude, Maybe its just you. And how can you know if all Asians are like that? Stop making false statements if its not true.
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