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LAKANYE~ (m)
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COMPLAINING ABOUT HER COOKING IS JUST ONE LEG OUT THE DOOR. THE MAN DON GET WETING HE WANT, AND REALLY NOT INTERESTED IN MARRYING A FOREIGNER FOR A LIFETIME. THERE IS SOMETHING ABOUT KINSHIP IN IGBOLAND. YOUR PROBLEM NO LOOK LIKE COOKING AT ALL.
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gabrywyl (f)
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ehie, Oh My Goodness. . . . Are you sure about that? So if the woman is a bad cook or born not talented in cooking in Nigeria, that means she will never get married ever? My Goodness . . . Now thats bad aint it? I thought real love is about accepting the person of who she is and loving her no matter what? I'm a Malaysian and I think our culture is so far different I guess. Over here, a person's cooking is not whats important but loving to spend time with the other person for a lifetime is what matters most. Food is never the most important thing for us but enjoying each other's company is. My boyfriend is Nigerian and he does all the cooking all the time. Its not like I cannot cook, its just that we have agreed that I do all the preparation before cooking and he does the cooking and we both would clean up after that. I think only some Nigerian men would prefer their wifes to cook cause this guy of mine seems fine with it that I don't cook.   |
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Method-Man (m)
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ehie, Oh My Goodness. . . . Are you sure about that? So if the woman is a bad cook or born not talented in cooking in Nigeria, that means she will never get married ever? My Goodness . . . Now thats bad aint it? I thought real love is about accepting the person of who she is and loving her no matter what? I'm a Malaysian and I think our culture is so far different I guess. Over here, a person's cooking is not whats important but loving to spend time with the other person for a lifetime is what matters most. Food is never the most important thing for us but enjoying each other's company is. My boyfriend is Nigerian and he does all the cooking all the time. Its not like I cannot cook, its just that we have agreed that I do all the preparation before cooking and he does the cooking and we both would clean up after that. I think only some Nigerian men would prefer their wifes to cook cause this guy of mine seems fine with it that I don't cook. How many times are you going to rant on about being Malaysian?! How many times are you going to moan that your boyfriend is Nigerian?! For flying fu.ck sake cook if you can and if you can't watch!(or go to bed with an empty tummy!)  |
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marami
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Ogejoy,
Please what is ataieko and igeriejae?
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dewaledeyi (m)
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E don do haba, kilode.
One good woman tries to keep her home in order and all sorts of wicked people sending malicious, virus-like posts.
Leilah, please I beg you in the name of GOD to ignore all these rubbish posts.
Dont let any of these posts influence the way you look at your husband, ever.
Just keep up the good work and learn to know what to pick out of any conversation.
Dont ever allow any negative idea to sink.
GOD bless you. Women like you are just way too scarce.
One love
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Leilah (f)
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Well thank you all very much for this help it means so much to me, I have copied all this information. Note, I am not here for attention, I simply want to make my husband satisfied and stop wasting money and letting good food go to waste. Its not that my food sucks, I can cook allsorts of indian, european and arabic things just not the nigerian stuff. I am getting there though and now feel with a bit of time and patience I may be able to make some nigerian dishes somedays of the week. My husband doesn't complain but he doesn't eat the other things. It has always been this way so its not all of a sudden. For eg I made italian meatballs and pasta with salad (it was actually delish) last night. I went to bed and he had some, but this morning I saw all the meatballs in the bin and yesterday I asked him which one to cook as in soup or pasta and meatballs (specially rolled with fresh herbs and fresh tomatoes etc etc) he said yes, but like that, I found al of it in the bin.  |
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Leilah (f)
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I think I am going to contact the local nigerian restaraunt. I am going to ask them can I do some work experience there, hopefully they wont mind. In that way it may save more money becuase the inflation is getting real bad here. Times are getting harder. More importantly I can say I tried and it may help the situation. Hope they don't laugh at me when I arrive at the restaraunt  |
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Leilah (f)
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Hey Lakanye, any chance of you putting a bit more meat on your last post? don't really get what your saying.
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Method-Man (m)
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Hey Lakanye, any chance of you putting a bit more meat on your last post? don't really get what your saying.
i thought you said he threw all d meatballs in the dustbin?! |
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coolspear
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i think u should search for an igbo friend, or ask his sister if he has any, to help you out by tea hing u how 2 cook their food.
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A3673 (m)
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Engineerd ,she is just asking how to cook not advertising sisters |
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skyone (m)
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This is what some nija women wldn't do, going out of their way to please their husband, nice one Leila.
But i'm sure he knows your root before he married you, therefore cooking an igbo food for him shld be optional.
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LAKANYE~ (m)
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Hey Lakanye, any chance of you putting a bit more meat on your last post? don't really get what your saying.
EM, EM, NGBATI, NGBATI, NGBATI, NGBATI, NGBATI,EM, EM, EM, NGBATI, NGBATI, NGBATI. YOU MAY NEVER UNDERSTAND EVEN IF I DISECT THE ANALYSIS, |
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skyone (m)
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Lakanye
wetin u dey yern 4 here
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LAKANYE~ (m)
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Lakanye
wetin u dey yern 4 here
I JUST DEY FEEL SORRY FOR THIS OYINBO PEPPER WE GO MARRY NIGERIAN MAN FOR ENGLAND. AFTERWARDS, THE OKORO MAN BEGIN COMPLAIN ABOUT HER COOKING AFTER OKORO DON GET HIM "GREEN CARD"
NAIM LEILAH DEY ASK ME SAY MAKE I ANALYSE WETIN I MEAN'T ON MY PREVIOUS COMMENTS.
TUFIAKWA. NO BE MY MOUTH SHE GO HEAR SAY OKORO GET PIKIN FOR ABAKALEKE. HER MARRITAL PROBLEMS PASS HER COOKING PROBLEM.
NO BE THIS SAME OKORO MAN DEY EAT THE SAME SHIT SHE DEY COOK BEFORE HE GET HIM "GREEN CARD"??
NOW, OKORO DEY COMPLAIN SAY OYINBO COOKING NO GOOD ANY MORE.
HMMN N I G E R I A N MAN (I DEY FEAR UNA) |
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Method-Man (m)
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I JUST DEY FEEL SORRY FOR THIS OYINBO PEPPER WE GO MARRY NIGERIAN MAN FOR ENGLAND. AFTERWARDS, THE OKORO MAN BEGIN COMPLAIN ABOUT HER COOKING AFTER OKORO DON GET HIM "GREEN CARD"
NAIM LEILAH DEY ASK ME SAY MAKE I ANALYSE WETIN I MEAN'T ON MY PREVIOUS COMMENTS.
TUFIAKWA. NO BE MY MOUTH SHE GO HEAR SAY OKORO GET PIKIN FOR ABAKALEKE. HER MARRITAL PROBLEMS PASS HER COOKING PROBLEM.
NO BE THIS SAME OKORO MAN DEY EAT THE SAME SHIT SHE DEY COOK BEFORE HE GET HIM "GREEN CARD"??
NOW, OKORO DEY COMPLAIN SAY OYINBO COOKING NO GOOD ANY MORE.
HMMN N I G E R I A N MAN (I DEY FEAR UNA)
haha i hear say Okoro wash meatballs put for dustbin, na him dog enter dustbin chop waka Okoro wan chop akpu, madam dey cook salad Okoro wan chop okpa, madam dey cook spaghetti and meatballs Okoro wan chop ogbonna, madam dey fry chips! Okoro wan greencard, madam want love! |
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LAKANYE~ (m)
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haha i hear say Okoro wash meatballs put for dustbin, na him dawg enter dustbin chop waka Okoro wan chop akpu, madam dey cook salad Okoro wan chop okpa, madam dey cook spaghetti and meatballs Okoro wan chop ogbonna, madam dey fry chips! Okoro wan greencard, madam want love!
ME I NO DEY O.
I DEY GO WATCH HBO FOR MY BEDROOM |
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Leilah (f)
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As a matter of fact I can read pigin english. Thank you for your observations, your basically saying I shouldn't bother as he is only usin me for a green card. If he was that bothered about his food he would have gotten someone to teach me by now but no he is not very bothered at all. Note: I do cook his foods for him, I just wanted to make sure I do it PROPERLY so he no go chop salad and meatballs OFTEN. As a matter of fact also he regularly go chop ofada rice n stew, egusi, okro, jollof etc I can make them you know. Well, maybe I shouldnt bother at all, seen as I am oyinbo.
Very encouraging indeed.
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Da Bio (f)
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una no fit just give her recipes before una yab her. PLEASE MY BROS & SISTAS GIVE HER RECIPE 4 ANY OFE.  :- |
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Leilah (f)
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I have all the recipes, this is a technique that obviosly needs supervision from a native hand. I think I just won't bother at all. Judging by what Lakanye said there is little point in me wasting time and money because igbo kinship doesnt marry oyinbo for lifetime, he got his greencard so what what more does he want. Just I wanted to please him and somehow thought that making ofe this and ofe that would make him want to see how much I do care about him and want to make the marriage work. I was quite hopeful up until Lakanya and method man posted her honest, realistic observations.
okoro wan greencard she wants love. Thanks methodman.
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Method-Man (m)
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I have all the recipes, this is a technique that obviosly needs supervision from a native hand. I think I just won't bother at all. Judging by what Lakanye said there is little point in me wasting time and money because igbo kinship doesnt marry oyinbo for lifetime, he got his greencard so what what more does he want. Just I wanted to please him and somehow thought that making ofe this and ofe that would make him want to see how much I do care about him and want to make the marriage work. I was quite hopeful up until Lakanya and method man posted her honest, realistic observations.
okoro wan greencard she wants love. Thanks methodman.
You are welcome sweety!  |
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Truequest (m)
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I have all the recipes, this is a technique that obviosly needs supervision from a native hand. I think I just won't bother at all. Judging by what Lakanye said there is little point in me wasting time and money because igbo kinship doesnt marry oyinbo for lifetime, he got his greencard so what what more does he want. Just I wanted to please him and somehow thought that making ofe this and ofe that would make him want to see how much I do care about him and want to make the marriage work. I was quite hopeful up until Lakanya and method man posted her honest, realistic observations.
okoro wan greencard she wants love. Thanks methodman.
JUST CAN'T IMAGINE THAT A TOTAL STRANGER'S COMMENT ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR HUSBAND WILL MAKE SUCH IMPRESSION ON YOU. Just give me a moment, does this methodman know your husband or what he feels for you? Did you not say earlier that he eats the food you make and does not complain, but you just wanted him to eat more. This is kind of scary! You shouldn't use a complete stranger's comment to judge your husband please. I can tell you that most of the posts here are more of jokes and sarcasm that should not be taken serious. Quite a number of great ladies have give you some recipe and advices, could you focus on those ones and leave those trying to interpret the mind of a man they know nothing about. Basically it will boil down to you standing up for the choice you made. God bless you, wishing you a successful marriage. |
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Method-Man (m)
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JUST CAN'T IMAGINE THAT A TOTAL STRANGER'S COMMENT ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR HUSBAND WILL MAKE SUCH IMPRESSION ON YOU.
Just give me a moment, does this methodman know your husband or what he feels for you? Did you not say earlier that he eats the food you make and does not complain, but you just wanted him to eat more. This is kind of scary! You shouldn't use a complete stranger's comment to judge your husband please. I can tell you that most of the posts here are more of jokes and sarcasm that should not be taken serious. Quite a number of great ladies have give you some recipe and advices, could you focus on those ones and leave those trying to interpret the mind of a man they know nothing about.
Basically it will boil down to you standing up for the choice you made. God bless you, wishing you a successful marriage.
POINT OF CORRECTION SIR: Method-Man and not "THIS METHODMAN" |
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fun4me2 (f)
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@ poster,u re realy trying,i was so interested in you that i read all your post from your profile, even nija women wont go as far as uve gone just to make your husband happy, am not talking just about this cooking aspect alone,You need to build-up your self esteem and remove fear from your heart,2me dough i might be wrong,its just as if ure living your life just 4 this your husband,u love him so much and ure ready to do anytin 4him but i doubt if he loves u as much.
please just be yourself,your greatest fear is 4ur husband to leave u for anoder woman esp a native woman from nigeria,u can't kill yourself my dear,attimes in life d greatest things we fear end -up happeninging to us (like in d case of Job in the Bible),Please just do your best and leave d rest to God.
I realy admire d fact that ure so versed even in d cultures and traditions of nigeria,some nija that just travelled wey never reach 6 months sef have thrown away all about der rich culture.Nuff respect. Takecare
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Leilah (f)
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Thank you also funforme that was nice what you said God bless you too.
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LAKANYE~ (m)
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As a matter of fact I can read pigin english. Thank you for your observations, your basically saying I shouldn't bother as he is only usin me for a green card. If he was that bothered about his food he would have gotten someone to teach me by now but no he is not very bothered at all. Note: I do cook his foods for him, I just wanted to make sure I do it PROPERLY so he no go chop salad and meatballs OFTEN. As a matter of fact also he regularly go chop ofada rice n stew, egusi, okro, jollof etc I can make them you know. Well, maybe I shouldn't bother at all, seen as I am oyinbo.
Very encouraging indeed.
Dear Leilah,
The truth is a bitter pill to swallow. No one knows your husband better than you do. Most of the advice you would read here are from Nigerians, but may not be a helpful advice to you because we are only making preconceived judgment from one side of the truthful situations in your home. But, I had advice you to be on the safe side. Live your life for you, and not for some man. You have portrayed yourself far beyond an average and good wife to a typical African man. I honestly do hope his complains of your cooking was made out of love. I hope he is not attempting to hurt you and destroy the rest of your life with a choice of an Igbo woman in place of you. I do hope he is a good and God fearing man. But, your approach and selfless efforts to please your man may come back to hurt you if and only if he has a skeleton in
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tyna1 (f)
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I think Leilah is a Nigerian and she is so fake,because no sane real oyibo woman will put up
with this trash.How come you sabi read and write pidgin English?
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LAKANYE~ (m)
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I think Leilah is a Nigerian and she is so fake,because no sane real oyibo woman will put up
with this trash.How come you sabi read and write pidgin English?
I'M PISSED NOW.
IF SHE IS A NIGERIAN WOMAN FROM ANOTHER TRIBE GO MARRY AN IGBO MAN DEY GET PROBLEM TO COOK OPOROKO FOR HER HUSBAND, HMMN, AND THEN SHE GO POST SOME YEYE PICTURE WEY LOOK LIKE AN HALFCAST/OYINBO WOMAN?
FOR ME, I DEY WASH MY HANDS OFF ALL YOUR PROBLEMS.
ON THE OTHER HAND, I KNOW THIS WHITE WOMAN WEY DEY ALWAYS LOOK FOR NIGERIAN MEN HERE IN THE STATES. SHE GET ONE PIKIN FOR A YORUBA MAN, AND ALWAYS LOOKING FOR NIGERIAN MEN TO ADVICE HER WHENEVER SHE GET PROBLEMS WITH HER HUSBAND. THE OYINBO WOMAN SPEAKS PIDGIN ENGLISH LIKE A TYPICAL LAGOSIAN. YOU MAY NEVER REALIZED SHE IS ACTUALLY A PURE WHITE WOMAN ON THE PHONE UNTIL YOU MEET HER IN PERSON. NEVER UNDERESTIMATE A WHITE WOMAN, THEM DEY TRAVEL GO ANYWHERE TO FIND A GOOD MAN, AND WHEN THEY FIND A GOOD MAN, THEM THEY DO ANYTHING TO KEEP THE MAN, BUT NA THE MAN DEY GET TIRED OF THEM AND WANNA MOVE ON WITH HIS TRIBAL WOMAN. DON'T GET ME WRONG, OYINBO WOMAN GO USE HER WHOLE LIFE AND SPEND ALL HER MONEY ON HER HUSBAND TO KEEP HIM. BUT, IT WILL GET TO A POINT WEY THE MAN GO BEGIN COMPARE RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS TRIBAL WOMAN, AND A DOMINEERING WOMAN. MOST OF THE TIME THE OYINBO WOMAN DEY END UP KILLING HER HUSBAND IF SHE FINDS OUT SAY THE MAN DEY SLEEP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN, ( ANY OTHER WOMAN). |
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Method-Man (m)
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I'M PISSED NOW.
IF SHE IS A NIGERIAN WOMAN FROM ANOTHER TRIBE GO MARRY AN IGBO MAN DEY GET PROBLEM TO COOK OPOROKO FOR HER HUSBAND, HMMN, AND THEN SHE GO POST SOME YEYE PICTURE WEY LOOK LIKE AN HALFCAST/OYINBO WOMAN?
FOR ME, I DEY WASH MY HANDS OFF ALL YOUR PROBLEMS.
ON THE OTHER HAND, I KNOW THIS WHITE WOMAN WEY DEY ALWAYS LOOK FOR NIGERIAN MEN HERE IN THE STATES. SHE GET ONE PIKIN FOR A YORUBA MAN, AND ALWAYS LOOKING FOR NIGERIAN MEN TO ADVICE HER WHENEVER SHE GET PROBLEMS WITH HER HUSBAND. THE OYINBO WOMAN SPEAKS PIDGIN ENGLISH LIKE A TYPICAL LAGOSIAN. YOU MAY NEVER REALIZED SHE IS ACTUALLY A PURE WHITE WOMAN ON THE PHONE UNTIL YOU MEET HER IN PERSON. NEVER UNDERESTIMATE A WHITE WOMAN, THEM DEY TRAVEL GO ANYWHERE TO FIND A GOOD MAN, AND WHEN THEY FIND A GOOD MAN, THEM THEY DO ANYTHING TO KEEP THE MAN, BUT NA THE MAN DEY GET TIRED OF THEM AND WANNA MOVE ON WITH HIS TRIBAL WOMAN. DON'T GET ME WRONG, OYINBO WOMAN GO USE HER WHOLE LIFE AND SPEND ALL HER MONEY ON HER HUSBAND TO KEEP HIM. BUT, IT WILL GET TO A POINT WEY THE MAN GO BEGIN COMPARE RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS TRIBAL WOMAN, AND A DOMINEERING WOMAN. MOST OF THE TIME THE OYINBO WOMAN DEY END UP KILLING HER HUSBAND IF SHE FINDS OUT SAY THE MAN DEY SLEEP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN, ( ANY OTHER WOMAN).
I think Leilah is a Nigerian and she is so fake,because no sane real oyibo woman will put up
with this trash.How come you sabi read and write pidgin English?
I defo believe shez Nigeria, i am just playing along One would be stupid to think shez not all this while Her posts on Nairaland smells Nigeria in and out Stop taking the Mickey Leilah, your true identity and origin is known by most of us |
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Olwam (f)
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Wow u guys can talk, I am South African married to a Nigerian man I don't think cooking is a problem at all and I don't think that I can fuss myself to learn to cook Nigerian food but my man will be man forever that I am certain.
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Seun (m)
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You won't cook Nigerian foods for your husband, even as a special surprise? Hmm, some marriages.
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