What Would U Do If U Gave Ur Mom Money To Buy U A Land & She Use It For Herself?

Hello Nairalanders,your advice is needed here!

This my story,in 2003 i sent my mom huge amount of money to buy me 4 plots of land,which she did but bought it on her name and i have also sent her more money to fence the land and build a bedroom flat for a security guard to watch the land since we found out that some people were draging the land with us.

the case was so serious that it went to court but at the end my mom won the case,i know that she did try alot handling a complicated land and taking care of it for almost 6 years now but i have sent her money for design and also foundation for the house and i discoverd when i went home that she never did start any foundation etc and she kept asking for money all the time not to mention that i use to pay her 500 euros monthly for her up keep and she always complain that its not enough,

so now i decided to travel home last month to see my family and as well see if i can finish the building etc but i never told anyone i was coming home
so when i arrived home,they were all surprised of course and after 1 week during my stay,i ask my mom to show me the documents for the land because she never even mention anything about docs to me apart from showing me the land and when i went there i didnt like the area and i decided i was going to sell it and use the money to buy land in another area.

Then i ask my mom about the documents it was a fight as in she didnt want to show it to me but i insisted and when she brought it and i discovered that her name was still in the documents ,when we both agreed a year ago that she should change it back to my name when i discovered she bought it with her name and she did tell me that she has changed it back to my name and even sent me the land documents with my name on it,which was fake but just to make me beleive she has changed to back to my name  ,so i got soooo pissed that she lied to me and i told her that we should go and change it back to my name and she refused that she wont do it  and also refused giving me the documents.

And i also find out that she has been planning to sell the land or take a loan with it and build a 1 storey building in her own plot.

How can my own mother do this to me, you all abroad know how difficult this are and after working so hard and your own family cheat on u like this what would you do because as for me i am done with her

i even bought a car worth more than 2m and still gave her additional 2m and she didnt appreciate anything i did for her instead she wanted me to give her all the $ ,i came home  with and also the money i gave to my elder sister  for a uk visa,my younger sister for a resturant,the one in uniport etc

she just wanted everything to herself and not to mention that she was unhappy almost all day that i was there and argue with my sisters everyday on little things .
with anger i moved to a hotel and left from there without telling any of my family memember until i arrived here.

not to mention that someone also tried setting me up at the airport with the police so that i don't go back but God has been by my side and my hands are clean,so i went pass it.

so my question is if your in this kind of suitaion what will u do,avoid your family ,never go back home etc your advice is needed because I'm so confused and betrayed right now.

i for to tell you guys that ,she even told me that she  is not happy that i took my younger  sister to europe ,how can a mother not wish her kids good eh?

let ur advices keep coming
Evept

@ehie007

thanks for your advice,i did tell her before i left that she should sell it and send the money to my account

secondly,i trusted her ,so i didnt think sending someone to check on her would be necessary and she hardly let anyone know where she bought the land.
my sister don't tell me much about the land when i ask them .

i have decided that if she doesnt sell the land and transfer the money into my account then i will personally disown her as my mother pronto.

She will never get a dime from me again for LIFE !

You took the words out of my mouth!!!

I thank you guys for your advice,it just hurts so much ,maybe i have to request for a DHA test lol to be really sure if she is my biological mom etc because there was a time i  even wanted to use another woman who cared more for me and loved me unconditionally as my mom and I'm still thinking of that,since i can't get that mortherly love from her .etc

well,I'm being very careful and avoiding her since i came back and i never told her I'm back so she will find out sooner or later.

and also discovered that whenever i discuss any good plans i wanted to do or achieve,it never works out ,not to mention that she is like this to almost all her kids and a 2face woman. my elder sister ran away from home for 2 years because of her attitude.

and no one want to stay under her roof because she makes them all unhappy.

Eh i almost forgot to mention that my immediate younger sister got married while i was in nigeria and my mom was the saddest people on earth that day,because she never wanted her to marry that man because he is a student and my sister already have 2 lovely kids with him,so i insisted that they should get married because they have always wanted to get married and my mom have been stopping it and trying to take my sister out of her matrimanial home . my sister is happy with this man and now happily married and I'm very happily for her. so let her go to hell with her bad attitude. everyone was dressing really nice for the wedding but my mom wore her uglyest cloth thats D.day and even told a lady at the reception that she is not happy for her daughters wedding and she refused coming out from the car to join us and eat and celebrate i had to beg her etc


And again last year december i lost my baby ,he was born too early and i had complications during pregnacy i told my mom about my conditions,i thought she was caring because she called me almost everyday while i was in the hospital but then she was telling my sisters in nigeria  that i was lying about having a baby so that i wont be paying her ,her monthy up keep because i did stop paying her for a while when i was pregnant as we needed the money more for my condition and she never shown me any emotionally support instead she told me that ppeople loose 5 pregnacies and the 6th or 7th one survives and  was telling me that i should send her money, when we havent even buried my son  and that same month i brought my younger sister here ,she was supposed to know that we have spent so much already but she  didnt care etc.

i am very happy i went home to see things for myself because she tells me alot of lies on what is going on at home etc

well,thanks to u guys for your advice and please tell it keep coming.

@poster- I can't blv my eyes as i read ur post,but der's notin new under d heavens now,and of because we watch films and some of des tins are true.Am sorry to say this but uve gat a bad mother that doesnt have ur interest at heart at all. U can prayerfully collect ur properties from her bak (serious prayers ooo), but if you can fashi it,i will advise you to just leave it 4her since she is still ur blood and blood is thicker dan water,henceforth she stops knowing any thing about u,please just for parental blessings as God commands u can still keep sending anything u ave for her up keep it doesnt have to be up to what u were sending before anymore,afterall ure not d only child she has.

u could get a lawyer and let he/she knows about d case of ur land and anything that could be done about it in d future.

please cut of all forms of communication wt her.at least for now.For her not to be moved about d loss of ur baby pisses me off (nawa ooo) she was much more concerned about her monthly allowance. Wonders shall never end indeed

how is 500 euros/month not enough for her?

I'm sorry to hear about all of this. Just because she's your mother doesn't mean she would be all nice and perfect because some of us out there do have horrible parents just that we wont come out  and say it. It horrible that she would do such to you. Hang in there.

this is serious, but a great lesson to all women. we can see from all indication that the woman is devilish and not worthy of immitating
my dear i know how u are feeling, it is unfair, but i mayi advise u that u should put her into ur prayers seriously for to be delivered f
from the evil blinding her. again is ur dad alive? if no it is certain she killed him. but not withstanding be careful in dealing with her.
be diplomatic with her. because she can do and undo. in summary she is greedy and wicked.

Can I tell you something a bit different from all that you have heard?
1. Forgive her. (I'm not saying you should continue the monthly allowance though).
2. Put all the loss behind you.
3. Focus on making more money to acquire another property.
4. Maintain a cautious distance but bear no grudge.
God will make all things work out for your own good.
God bless.