so getting married and starting a family are the only examples you have to claim women think 'long term'?

I beg to disagree - many a woman in their 'romantic' haze will say,
'lets get married now - don't worry we'll figure out the details and it will work out in future' While a man might say
'I need to be able to provide and care for this family of mine, to give them at least the basic comfort if not luxuries, if I marry now, I may not be able to exert myself fully and achieve this, let me wait'Men do not seek their own needs first - Fathers who will deny themselves new cars and clothes and sell their property to send their kids to school are not seeking their own needs first.
I would disagree to the utmost that men are more 'instinctive' - to me women are more instinctive - the instinct to protect, to nurture, to care, to preserve. A man on the other hand would (in most cases) rationally think something out - weigh pros and cons, devise alternative methods to achieve the goal.
I don't think women are slow decision makers, it just depends on the subject matter - a woman will not hesitate to work herself into the ground to save her child's life or provide for her family, she'll do whatever it takes for the most part, while a man might still be considering options and exploring different avenues - the woman will likely move to preserve life in whatever way she can.
Maybe people you repute as intelligent always do anything to get what they want, but that is not my definition of intelligence - the most intelligent people had visions - well thought out dreams and aspirations that helped not only themselves but the world at large. Nobel Prize winners come to mind - chosen for their outstanding work which is often of great benefit to the whole of mankind.
Men do consider consequences, so I disagree with that comment as well - they may choose to disregard some consequences, or rank them differently than you do, but that doesn't amount to not taking consequences
Overall you made an intelligent attempt at a deconstruction of the male and female thought/decision making process, but it is inherently much more complicated than can be treated in your short treatise, as well as your incorrect (in my opinion anyways) premises as to the motivation behind each gender's decisions.