Sister Wants A Divorce

Assalam alaikum brothers and sisters in Islam,

I have a question about divorce. If a woman knows that her husband lies and is not honest in his dealings with his customers, is this enough justification to leave him?

To make it clearer, the husband takes money for a project from customer A then spends it all on something that could have waited. When customer A calls for his project, the husband spins a tale or two. That's about how much I know.

I also sense that she may not love him as much as she thought she did.

Thank you all

@Ayinba1: As Salaamualaykum wa Rahmatullahi ta ala Wa Barakatuh.
Divorce is a very terrible thing. But does happen.

What the man is doing is actually against Islam. However, is that a common practice of this man? Has his wife been advicing him and warning him against evils like this? Since we know the importance of marriage, being considered half of the deen, the woman need to be sit her husband down and discuss the issue.

She needs to reminds him of the evils of this type of behaviors. Then if he is not listening, she should go to the parents of the husband to request that they need to talk to the husband against evil. She may not even tell his parents, but to simple encourage them to advice and encourage him to doing good deeds. It will be necessary to hide hisshame, unless everyone knows about it already.

She should never as long as she is married to him, stop advicing him about doing things and make halal money. If all fails then she needs to get the two of thm to talk to a knowledgeable person, who is very pious. It is after she had exhausted every chance to keep the man honest and he is obeying God that she can begin to contemplate divorce.

And if she insist, based on just that she does not love him anymore, she may have to return the whole dowry. Read the case concerning it in Qur'an and ahadith about divorce.

I ask God to make them better people and good family who will love each other for the pleasure of God.

Salamualaykum

Ayinba …that decision of divorce your friend are facing is crucial there are many factors to consider regarding separation/divorce in a family…like property, children, sustenance  to the children needs so on and so fort. If the woman has suffering from maltreatment to his husband frequently or being abandon to their children without any support or committing other substantial evil acts it is justifiable to have a divorce. But your friend problem is regarding her husband  the use of money of her client and spending those wealth without providing and doing works to the project. You know people they always have problem about Money every individual needs that money to sustain their need and other thing in life. If that is the only problem about money and he can cover up that later on and continue the propose project  the problem can be solve if anybody in the family can give him a chance. However, if their is another reason aside from that money, you need adviser/imam or close relative which you can talk and solve this problem that your friend are facing for. Just may opinion

Al’lah know best…

Salam alaykum,

Based on the above narration about the husband's deceit, it is not enough ground for divorce. Besides, Divorce is one thing that Allah SWA hates. So divorcing the husband is not the solution at all.

Kindly follow the advise of Olabowale. He had said it all. Talk to your husband, report him to his parents and Muslim clerics so that relevant portion of the Holy Quran and Hadith can be quoted to him so that he can be aware of the dire consequences of his actions.

Do be a good wife to your husband and always remember to pray to Allah for His mercies and guidance. Allah knows best.

Assalam alaykum all,

Thank you for your wonderful responses. I have advised her in similar ways but since I don't live with them, I cannot assess if she has tried enough or not. There is also the issue of keeping things to herself fearing sin of "gossiping". I advise patience to see how things play out but another question is what is the implication on the wife and kids if a man owes a lot of debt that he cannot pay?

And are there other brothers on this forum who do business like the said gentleman? From the little I know, it is unIslamic but then how much do I know?