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RedHotChic (f)
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One dude i work with once told me that he has this soft spot for feminists and will like to marry one as a wife. I was amazed at his fantasy.
Guys: Will you like to marry a feminist?
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michelin89 (f)
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Oh yes i would!  |
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Jackal (m)
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No! I would shoot a feminist.
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michelin89 (f)
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Don't hate but love us!  |
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whitelexi (m)
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its just wrong
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michelin89 (f)
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Haba, wetin we do you? |
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whitelexi (m)
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Haba, wetin we do you? Na the truth na |
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Riskie (f)
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No! I would shoot a feminist.
 WHOA! That's really harsh. Femenists can be annoying but shooting them is absurd although it seems warranted at times |
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2dye4 (m)
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well, i don't dig labels. can date or marry anybody else but someone carrying the albatros of the entire feminine gender.
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Pataki
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Feminist are emotionally disturbed. I am really learning how to tolerate their rantings now. No thanks to the all sorts I have to read from some wannabees here on the forum.  |
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vivaladiva (f)
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we have been puttin up wit male chauvinists(specially nigerian bloody men) for centuries, i think tis time we gave the feminists a chance
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Tetchiness (f)
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My friend is a feministmaybe because she's Indian. She's always about female rights. . lover her Ideas thou. But I feel sorry for her man  |
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RedHotChic (f)
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No! I would shoot a feminist. Why? Do they emasculate you? |
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RedHotChic (f)
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Feminist are emotionally disturbed. You think so? |
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Cyclone5 (m)
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She can be a feminist at work, on the street, in the market; or wherever she likes but as long she is feminine at home then we know where we're going. Cause we know women can't stand a man who is a major wuss. A woman with a good head on her shoulders and a great intellect is to be cherished. She just needs to be wise too. Since we don marry I would assume we no get fight. So if she make mistake and confuse love with license then lion go enter market place!
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layzie
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i agree with the "once she"s feminine at home" part. I wont have a woman nagging about female rights all the time in my house.
Do that at work, on TV, wherever but not in ma house
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HR.hotness (f)
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I expect any man who marries a feminist would have found a balance between commitment, love and respect and therefore there should be no need for her fight the causein her own home. If you treat her right, there will be no need for her to be "feminist" at home |
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Cyclone5 (m)
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I expect any man who marries a feminist would have found a balance between commitment, love and respect and therefore there should be no need for her fight the causein her own home. If you treat her right, there will be no need for her to be "feminist" at home You know that, sometimes after a cat has spent all day chasing chickens it might think that its a tiger. The balance should be found but dog wey rear up for hind leg must know that when I'm come down na run be I'm next move. So she just needs to show good judgement even in times of extreme stress. |
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HR.hotness (f)
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You know that, sometimes after a cat has spent all day chasing chickens it might think that its a tiger. The balance should be found but dog wey rear up for hind leg must know that when I'm come down na run be I'm next move. So she just needs to show good judgement even in times of extreme stress.
In my opinion, being a feminist means u are should be rational and show good judgemnt. . . I expect that she should always show good judgemnt unless u are planning on being irrational and applying extreme stress |
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Cyclone5 (m)
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In my opinion, being a feminist means u are should be rational and show good judgemnt. . . I expect that she should always show good judgemnt unless u are planning on being irrational and applying extreme stress
All relationships will have moments of extreme stress. Thats perfectly natural. Its just not appropriate to reduce everything to gender biases and sexism. Sometimes we all have to confirm to societal definitions of genders. That doesn't stop a good relationship being a good relationship. When this go awry we fix them. No need to go burning bras. All I am saying is small pikin wey wan stretch neck to see wetin old person dey do must be ready for pepper wey go wash I'm eye. |
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HR.hotness (f)
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All relationships will have moments of extreme stress. Thats perfectly natural. Its just not appropriate to reduce everything to gender biases and sexism. Sometimes we all have to confirm to societal definitions of genders. That doesn't stop a good relationship being a good relationship. When this go awry we fix them. No need to go burning bras. All I am saying is small pikin wey wan stretch neck to see wetin old person dey do must be ready for pepper wey go wash I'm eye.
And the cry of the feminist simply is why should sex or gender be involved or be an issue in the first place? why should we allow society to define us as individuals when it should be individuals who define the society? why can't a marriage or any relationship be a partnership with each person treated equally and fairly and each with his/her own responsibilities? yes there are moments of extreme stress in every relationship but need there be? Most of the time it arises becomes the woman is bitter or unhappy about something and cannot repress it for much longer. occasionally the reverse is the case but if both parties where on equal footing to start with, there would be no need for any form of repression but an avenue for dialogue and mutual compromise |
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Cyclone5 (m)
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Sometimes human being naturally repress things. It's a perfectly natural response to stress or fear. I am just saying that the rearing up of feminism in a relationship can have the effect of lashing out at one person for the sins of many. That just can't be right. Being part of a society does imply subsuming oneself into the culture and rules of that society. In order to relate to others we sometimes have to use society as reference point. Of course no one should be limited by the limitations of the society they live in. But they have to live by it norms. That might mean not exposing ones vulnerability to opportunists in the name of being strong and independent. If you really want to be strong, you can wait to express your views challengingly in the right forum, or you can work your guy over pretty hard in bed. I am sure he will love that kind of strong independence! |
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HR.hotness (f)
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Sometimes human being naturally repress things. It's a perfectly natural response to stress or fear. I am just saying that the rearing up of feminism in a relationship can have the effect of lashing out at one person for the sins of many. That just can't be right. I am ashamed to admit that there are a few women claiming to be feminists who go around lashing out at all men with no justification and all in the name of feminism. . . thats not the way its spsed to be. womens rights simply means the right to be treated fairly and equally and not the right to special treatment and ordering the whole world around. That said, any woman who would lash out at her husband for the "sins of all men" is quiet frankly a fool. why would she marry him in the first place? I still hold the opinion that any man who marries a feminist should be open enough to understand her values and the importance of what she stands for, respect her opinions and treat her the way she expects to be treated. It would be just silly for any man to go marry a feminist and expect to dominate her, thats just a recipe for disaster Being part of a society does imply subsuming oneself into the culture and rules of that society. In order to relate to others we sometimes have to use society as reference point. Of course no one should be limited by the limitations of the society they live in. But they have to live by it norms. That might mean not exposing ones vulnerability to opportunists in the name of being strong and independent. Who defines the norm? who determines what is normal and what is not? this has nothing to do with being strong and independent, its simple deciding for yourself ur own values and standing by them. how can we have free will when some of our actions are frowned upon by society just because they don't fit into the "norm". I am of the school of thot that states its a free world and I am entitled to do as i please as long as i don't hurt anybody. Life is too short to live by somebody elses rule. . . make up ur own and have a blast! If you really want to be strong, you can wait to express your views challengingly in the right forum, or you can work your guy over pretty hard in bed. I am sure he will love that kind of strong independence! between I subscribe to this form of independence |
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Cyclone5 (m)
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I agree that no relationship worth a damn can be reliant on one mate dominating the other. It not only isn't necessary it fails to get the best out of both mates. A guy marrying a feminist must love her for the strong will and passion with which she applies herself. He wouldn't want to see that flame extinguished. Ever! Remember that for every ring of laughter, there is a tear falling somewhere on earth. You may not be directly hurting anyone through the exercise of your free will but sometimes a lot of damage can be done. Very often what we call free will is a series of connections and loops that have been pre programmed. We just just don't, or choose not to; see the machinations. Sometimes society may take time to evolve but its evolution has to be by mutual consent. Even wild beasts live by a social code. Subscribe on O! The world will continue to be a happier place.   |
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RedHotChic (f)
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I agree that no relationship worth a damn can be reliant on one mate dominating the other. It not only isn't necessary it fails to get the best out of both mates. A guy marrying a feminist must love her for the strong will and passion with which she applies herself. He wouldn't want to see that flame extinguished. Ever!
Remember that for every ring of laughter, there is a tear falling somewhere on earth. You may not be directly hurting anyone through the exercise of your free will but sometimes a lot of damage can be done. Very often what we call free will is a series of connections and loops that have been pre programmed. We just just don't, or choose not to; see the machinations. Sometimes society may take time to evolve but its evolution has to be by mutual consent. Even wild beasts live by a social code.
25 stars. |
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RedHotChic (f)
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If you treat her right, there will be no need for her to be "feminist" at home Why do we always stress on the way women should be treaated and the repercussions? What about treating him right? Will it be justified for him to turn to a beast when you don't treat him right? Again, what is treating someone 'right'? |
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HR.hotness (f)
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Why do we always stress on the way women should be treaated and the repercussions? What about treating him right? Will it be justified for him to turn to a beast when you don't treat him right? Again, what is treating someone 'right'?
the whole reason for the feminist movement is due to the fact that historically womenhave been treated as second class beings rather than equals. and that is the context in whch that statement was made. the question of how partners should b treated in their marriage, with the key subject being the marriage, is an entirely different debate |
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Cyclone5 (m)
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There was good reason for the Feminist Movement. And there are many areas of gender inequality around today. So the struggle continues. But a lot of what is taken as feminism, especially amongst we Black folk, is just women mouthing off about beating men down. Now I have no problem with a woman beating down any man of her choice. If thats what gets him off then more power to him. Just not cool with the 'Bills, bills, bills' mantra that keeps being yelled around. Yes I can pay your bills but can you shut the hell up for a minute so I can actually get to know you!
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HR.hotness (f)
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There was good reason for the Feminist Movement. And there are many areas of gender inequality around today. So the struggle continues. But a lot of what is taken as feminism, especially amongst we Black folk, is just women mouthing off about beating men down. Now I have no problem with a woman beating down any man of her choice. If thats what gets him off then more power to him. Just not cool with the 'Bills, bills, bills' mantra that keeps being yelled around. Yes I can pay your bills but can you shut the hell up for a minute so I can actually get to know you!
LOL but those chics are just hiding behind the term feminism, a true feminist doesnt need man to pay her bills. you are right in some ways though, the true meaning of feminism is lost esp by nigerian women today. they thinks its an excuse for nasty behaviour, i shudder with disgust when some chic, there are loads of them on Nairaland who start man bashing threads attack men unnecessarily all in the name of feminism, thats just crap! a true feminist will treat everone with respect in order to gain respect herself. |
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Jackal (m)
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Marrying a feminist is just pushing one's luck.
Why would i marry a woman that believes she has got equal rights as i am?
Gender equality me ass.
A woman's submission is one of the sterling qualities of a virtuos woman. . . anything apart from that, she can ferk off!!!
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