So I Met This Nigerian Man

It is wrong for anybody to say Nigerian men are good or Bad.

The are about 35 million Nigerian men and guess what!!!!

There are over 35 million different behaviours.

If you are happy being single, stay single then. don't rush into having one if you are not into having one.

As for not trusting Nigerian men, thats a very subjective matter. In Nigeria itself, theres like millions of men there and don't tell me the whole population of men there are bad and evil? Now thats not logic aint it?

Just because your friend had one bad rotten apple, it doesn't give her the right to over generalized the rest of the men in Nigeria.

I had seen some bad Nigerian men but also some good ones as well so it all depends. But of course, its not wrong for you to be cautious and careful at times.

I think i understand why there is so much mistrust and scepticism from the ladies as regards to nigerian men and their intentions,but i honestly think it goes both ways.

There are bad Nigerian men,and there are equally bad nigerian women.

The fact that a man is bad or that the last five men a lady dated turned out to be bad is still not enough basis to classify all men from a country as bad.The same goes with the ladies.

Personally,i have met 2 ladies who gave me the impression that they were "victims" of bad men in their relationships,but after being with them for a while,i came to the conclusion that the men were probably right to have dumped them.Characterwise,they were simply nasty and they behaved in ways without regards to logical consistency and acceptable norms of human bahavoiur.

They later tried to justify their attitude by explaining that it was some form of defensive mechanism so the men don't take advantage of them as had been done to them in the past,but it made no sense at all.

In a way,i can say several ladies have taken advantage of my nature by commimg and getting free favours and assistance from me because they know i wont ask  for anything from them in return.(I beleive that if you want to help someone,help the person and forget about it.If you want to repay me out of your free will,thats alright.).

Afterwards it has even come to light that a few of these ladies had boyfriends and pretended to be single and to like me just because they wanted some help or favour.Such is life.

Those experiences not withstanding,has never made me think for once that all women are like that.I believe there are good women out there,and there are also good men out there.

I don't think you should allow what happened in your  past to affect your future.Yes it can help shape it,but don't let it damage your optimism that the future will be better.

Understand that this is part of life.Just as there are bad men and women,there are also good men and women.

The poster even said it that the man seemed good and kindhearted (or something like that).Why don't you give him a chance to prove to you that he is not bad, the fact that your dad didnt take your mum home has nothing to do with him.

I beleive that nigerian ladies are the best and the loviest in the world.They've got this esteem and character that is unique to them only.Thats why most other ladies especially african ladies hate (envy) them.

To the ladies,i know some men are bad (just as some women are bad),but don't cut down the tree just because some friuts are rotten.

Pray to God to bring a good man your way.

Come to think of it,it is possible that God sends bad people first,so that when he then sends the good person,you will appreciate him and not take the person for granted,

, and don't ever plan on living your life as a single.It wasnt meant to be that way.It never was,

ahhhhhhhhhhh, you  people should stop assuming jare!

are we still indulging these women? please allow them to remain single, no one cares.

^^^ see the kind of women ebmulo talked about.

Can't remember the first time I heard this shit  but this is 2008 and I'm still hearing Nigerian men are bad! Nigerian guys are not romantic, they don't know how to french kiss, they are users! they just use you and go back home to marry!, naija guys are this! naija guys are that! when will you girls move on to the next tribe/nation and leave this guys alone?
I still don't get how you girls know all this about Nigerian guys and still fall victim to them! look like someone is stupid! and please guys lets not talk about the lady it took 13 whole years to find out someone is bad or can't be trusted! 13yrs not 13days! idiot.

Just for those that still don't know, Nigerian guys are not even human _{don't tell anybody I told you!}

hehehe

guess what??

I told him about this forum and he signed up.  He has read or is reading all response.  Just look next to you and you'll see him in a jean and Tshirt

We have known that you are single and in a way searching but you shy to say that, feel feel because we have people that can handle you more than your ex dude

          

Udode:

My boss musse think I am crazy b/c I can't stop laughing 

Are african american men better than nigerian men?

@cayon

what makes you laugh so hard?

@ mes:
obviously you want ALL de attention.  I am going away (7/4 weekend), so tekk ALL the Naija men fi you self.  Sounds like a hater
I see this forum as a  fun place.  How you see it?
between, i hope one of Naija men cyber impregnate you