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michelin89 (f)
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 Just know that the longer the dating period, the higher the likelihood of one person dumping the other  If you say so, I bet you also believe that marriage isn't forever. After all it's always a relationship involving two people and besides, they live in the same house and get to see each other every day. At a point in time children will come in, and all the attentions will be on them. Why won't someone also dump the other in this terrible scenario? Is it because of the famous contract they signed? |
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echelon (m)
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Why won't someone also dump the other in this terrible scenario? Is it because of the famous contract they signed? Yeah, it's because of the contract they signed. That contract should engender commitment on either party. This is rarely the case when you're dating |
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Gamine (f)
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LOL Everywhere i go, the men seem to be coming forth sha  |
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michelin89 (f)
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Yeah, it's because of the contract they signed. That contract should engender commitment on either party. This is rarely the case when you're dating
That contract is nothing but a piece of paper. People's will makes them endure through hard times. Nothing stops me from packing my bags and leaving my husband if I get tired of him. Even sef at that point I fit use that contract as a toilet paper.  |
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echelon (m)
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your opinion sha |
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tkb417 (m)
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men will always follow the good girls. . .
the odd ones will get the other side of the bargain.
very simple
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cold (m)
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Most men hav bcom coomitment phobes & are steerin clear of marriages.This is not because they're scared of marriage-but afraid of a bad marriage.
"Men are 10 tyms more scared of marryin the rong person than of never gettin married at all"(Carl Weiss,in his book "So Why Have You Neva Been Married"?10 insights it2 y he hasn't wed)
There're 3 grps of bachelors;doz whu never want to marry,doz who want 2 marry but of which half(that includes me) won't settle 4 anythin less dan perfection & doz who are on the fence.
Ther are also financial issues,both positive & negative.Those with little money fear dey hav nothin to offer a partner,with som sufferin self esteem issues & withdrawin from d datin pool.While there doz who're financially sound are terrified what a bad divorce can do to them.
Besides single men are not unhappy men.They created lives full lives full of careers,frnd & ambitions.It's notlike they walk arnd all day worried about not being married.
My best advice to single women after bachelors is to be patient,if u're in ahurry u'll b frustrated.
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Jiokeh (m)
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Sorry Sistas. This is the jist around town. Just do a small aproko (sic) in any ladies forum and u will agree with me. I have very successful female friends, single and still searching in their late 20s and mid 30s. Working in blue chip and multinationals. In short they are a bundle of BEAUTY | CASH | BRAINS. When I try to encourage them and remind them of how beautiful they are, the response I get is, "Do you know how many beautiful successful women out there? Those that are even more beautiful. Marriageable men are just scarce."
My beautiful black/naija sistas, the earlier you all realize that the kind of men you refer to as marriageable men are scarce, the better. What kind of men do an average sista refer to as marriageable men? The ones that live in a good apartment, drive a good car, have a good bank account, dresses in style. All these are things that money can buy. That man that is yet to acquire and posses all these qualities in not less of a marriageable man. Giving the opportunity, he might well be better.
If I am to councel sistas, I'D say look out for a man who's got Brains, is Confident and has Drive. This is what I call the BCD of a real man. They abound everywhere. You might even be the gasoline he needs to be propelled to fame and fortune.
In all this still "BE WISE". Gold diggers on the rampage.
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francessby (f)
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no matter how things are they all have somebody that are dying for them but is not the type they want that is all, men are everywhere who said he's looking for one
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inspired_m (m)
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Sorry Sistas. This is the jist around town. Just do a small aproko (sic) in any ladies forum and u will agree with me. I have very successful female friends, single and still searching in their late 20s and mid 30s. Working in blue chip and multinationals. In short they are a bundle of BEAUTY | CASH | BRAINS. When I try to encourage them and remind them of how beautiful they are, the response I get is, "Do you know how many beautiful successful women out there? Those that are even more beautiful. Marriageable men are just scarce."
My beautiful black/naija sistas, the earlier you all realize that the kind of men you refer to as marriageable men are scarce, the better. What kind of men do an average sista refer to as marriageable men? The ones that live in a good apartment, drive a good car, have a good bank account, dresses in style. All these are things that money can buy. That man that is yet to acquire and posses all these qualities in not less of a marriageable man. Giving the opportunity, he might well be better.
If I am to councel sistas, I'D say look out for a man who's got Brains, is Confident and has Drive. This is what I call the BCD of a real man. They abound everywhere. You might even be the gasoline he needs to be propelled to fame and fortune.
In all this still "BE WISE". Gold diggers on the rampage.
YOU MAKE SENSE.
I initiated this thread because of realistic beings like you. |
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mckingz
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what are you guys talking about?
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mckingz
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im not looking for a wife ok?
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albridge (m)
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ok. i am lost here. what can i say? i really don't know  |
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