I'm So Attached To Hausa/fulani Ladies

Are u serious?    So what happens when you meet another beautiful fulani girl later on? There will always be beautiful fulani women my dear brother. You need to pray for more guidance so you can do the right thing. Besides make sure you think of other qualities beside beauty. I'll give you kudos for choosing a muslim though. I wish you well.

My brother in Islam, Salaamualaykum wa rahmatullah. As long as you do not indulge in Zina, it is okay. If you are attracted to them, marry them. The Fulani father will be playing hypocracy if he will not be happy to have you as son in law. Afterall he is married to a Yoruba woman. Imagine if his wife's father was not basing the relationship solely on Islam?

Also, you must understand that marriage is not precipitated on the parents, but the potential spouses alone. Though it is nice to have the parents happy as well. The dowry belongs to the spouse alone and she is the only truly important person in the proposal. And please know that you can marry up to 4, if you meet the condition of marrying more than one.

Just on another note, a lawyer friend was just telling me that only in Islam that a poor man, who was a crimina before can get out of jail and yet marry a successful wife. He was telling about a man who had a rap sheet that is long, yet as he got of jail, he married a photo editor of People magazine, in New York City. The woman already has her own home, and a successful career and was a virgin when they got married. While the guy was a cook in a restaurant, the marriage is going on strong, because they are both believers.

Is there any religion on earth that a relationship between two different people by financial status occur, while the woman is the one higher by a mile? The beauty of Islam is openly expressed.

@Ayinba1: I sent you a YIM. Did you get it from aqeedahfirst@yahoo.com?

@Olabowale. Assalam alaikum. I did not  get the YIM, Chloe is not a valid user ID, ayinba should work.
Thank you for all your wonderful contributions

My brotheryou are in their mist. They are the standard of beauty and not so beautiful to you. The same reason you find black men living in Sweden, Norway, Russia being attracted to women of these host countries. The same way that African men raving about American blacks or caribbean black women, when they are residents in the same neighborhood. What the african men see is them is a common thing in Africa. At least 95% of africans have those acutremens. We are visual being and beauty is a visually projected quantity.


Listen, a muslim man will tell a woman that she needs to introduce him to her Wali (male guardian), because he wants to propose marriage to her, after knowing that she is not married and that she does not have any suitor. This way, if she obliges you, you know that she is interested. As a teacher of these young people, I will advise you to lay off them, unless you are teaching advance institutions, where you have matured minds. If the women are young, then you need to find grown women among their community. At least 18 years old. And she can be married and pursue are education, still. marriage is not a death to dreams.



Discrimination is a sin in Islam! Do these people know that they are doing exactly what Iblis did against Adam?



Yet they speak English? How do you instruct them in the classrooms, is it not in English? This is the height of hypocracy. It tells me how bad we are practicing Islam. My man, if you are interested in them, discuss with a hausa/Fulani colleague and hear what he thinks. I am not saying you should take any permission from anyone. But I am saying that you should use him as a rope to get her to know your intention towards her in marriage. You also need to prepare yourself for a home within their community, though not required, but maybe essential. If i were a Hausa/Fulani person, who have nieces, I would just introduce you to my family, even in my absence on ground. But am a Yoruba boy and I only have yoruba family members.

The islam that i find in America is so inclusive that we do not segregate ourselves. This is unlike what I see among those who think more of their cultures and tradition of their native land and heritage, than that that is specifically islamic of Muhammad (AS).

Salaam.Well, from my understanding, I'D say you are teaching in a Sec. Sch. and the age bracket of the girls should be, roughly, between 12 and 17.Inthe north, alot of girls usually wait until after sec. sch. to choose a partner.This is their age of "nyanga".If you are truly looking for a wwife you should look for girls that are grown up and a bit more exposed, but most especially those whose parents are well educated - and by that I mean Islamic Education.Dont get yourself too involved until you are ansolutely sure of her parents because people in the north lack behind strongly in religious teachings.

The word strongly failed you.