Moving To Separate Rooms After Many Years Of Marriage

  Time for a real vacation! 

Lol the red carpet is out 

What works for couple A, might be an anomaly for couple B. Let the couple decide what's best for them in the interest of their marriage. They are some couples who live in seperate bedrooms and have a thriving marriage over those sleeping in the same bedroom, but calling it quits soon afterwards. Fact is, you can't decide what's best for each couple. To each his own.

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Maybe one of the folks snores like an elephant and the other can't stand it. that is enough reason to sleep sperately when you are tired from work and you can't sleep with all that noise around you.

i Have posed to this question to some people at my office and there answer varied
But i want to seek the view if nairalanders.
PLEASE IF YOU ARE OFFERED HUNDRED MILLION US DOLLARS AND NEVER TO SET FOOT IN NIGERIA AGAIN EVEN AT DEATH NOT EVEN FOR ANYTHING, OR NO MONEY  BUT LIVE AND TRAVEL, COME BACK TO NIGERIA ANY TIME YOU CHOOSE.
WHICH WOULD YOU CHOSE?
TO NIGERIANS ALONE PLEASE.

""This is a result of what I've been saying ever since. Love has an expiration date, and for most marriages that date is after over 100 sex bouts, 3 - 8 Kids and co-existing for over 15 - 25 years.
At that point the only thing keeping them togerther is formality and lack of any other choice. It's almost like they can't stand the sight of each other.
So my advice is to milk the cow while you still can, because a few years from now, that milk might just go sour. (and turn to yogourt) """


I have never heard this much BS on nairaland for quite a while.
Actually I have heard, but this one goes up there. This is obviously a child talking. I already pity your marriage.

i   really think that there is absoultly nothing wrong with couples having separate rooms cause some times they can feel
like being alone to think or stuffs like that but that does not actually mean that they shouldn`t sleep together at night.

For a couple formerly sleeping in same room, that point when they decide to start sleeping in separate rooms is a late indication of marriage crisis. Be not deceived, there is no smoke without fire. If you find your spouse and yourself so drifted apart to the point that you're both beginning to lose the urge to sleep together in the same room, take the initiative and save your marriage. Talk it over and get yourselves back in the same room. Time and time again, it's been proven - couples who stay in separate rooms don't only end up in infidelity, but ultimately end up divorcing. 

@radiant must u be involved in every thread ahah! lol! u should syart a blog or sumfin!

Well s 4 me, pa had em wives in abundance so just had to have a seperate room from them all, then they set a time table and were playing rotay!

my honest submission is that couples should have separate rooms if they can afford it, too much intimacy can be suffocating. I, for one have moments in my life when i just want to be alone to reflect and meditate. i will definitely have a private room when i marry and that will not make me love my wife less.

those who thinks that theres nothing wrong due to the reason of having personal privacy should stop hiding those many diseases of theirs.free your disease to your partner,let him/she understand the pains you have been going through because of this disease.

I think STEAMING has got it right.The fact that couples sleep in different rooms does not mena there is a breakdown in the marriage.It could be by mutual agreement.The can still meet in the middle of the night in any of the rooms, to perform their conjugal roles.

The reasons for separate rooms include amongst others,
1. Longer marriage means perhaps more money and more properties.The couple can build their own house and create more space to accomodate their personal stuff separately so as not to suffocate each other.Many times there is a linkage door to both rooms.

2. The man may wish to have a room double as a study and bedroom.So he can work late at nights without disturbing the wife.

3. The man may wish to view his favourite DSTV programs (e.g Premiership league)undisturbed.Dual channel subsrciptions allow the wife and the rest of the family watch family programs elsewhere.

Behavioural differences could be the reason. You know those irritating behaviours like the award-winning, rip-my-trouser-at-the-centre,send-the-devil-to-hell-and-back kind of fart!  and the earth-shaking, galaxy-jolting kind of snoring. Not every one might be able to stomach these things. So, a separate room may not be bad afterall. My views

I want to say I have been married for 30 years an we sleep not only in the same room but the same bed.  We would not have it any other way.