Urgent Advice!1

salam alykum,  i need your advice
my half brother will be geting married in some couples of weeks.actually my mum is not currently with my dad.so we stay{siblings} with my mum.one fact is that my mum is not attending the wedding.because of the misundastings with my dad and her mum{second wife} one thing about me is that am always shy when it comes to parties.and they ave chossen cloth to be worn on that day.GUYZ HOW DO You WANT ME REACT ON THAT DAY.ABEG I NEED UNA ADVICE.  I DONT NO WHAT TO DO

Jazakallahu Khair, Brother babs787. To my esteem brother, whose sibling is getting married, please know that their is nothing half, about a brother or sister, in Islam. The half thing, is a degenerated concept of disbeliefs and its not part of the Islamic culture. Allah emphasises the relationships, both on the father and as well as the mother sides as wholesome and complete.

Then the issue of attending your brother's day or occasion whereby he performs 50% of his Islamic obligation, should not be a thing that your should fail to attend. It is part of your obligation as his brother by blood (family ties) and by religion (Islam). He has these 2 rights over you. If you were to be living in the same household, he would have the 3rd right of neighborliness on you.

But those people who are not his blood will attend. Then there is not excuse for you, as a healthy man to fail to attend. You should also tell your mom, to attend. She also need to begin the process of healing, and forgiveness for the pleasure of Allah. You could be a source of your mother's receiving mercy. If you are old enough to have dialogue with your father, you need to encourage him as a muslim to bring his house in order and foster the tree of love, unity, respect and harmony, etc. This is Islam. Forgiveness is very essential among mankind, if we hope to be forgiven by Allah.

m in d same shoes at brother yemi. my parents have been separated for God knows how long, more than 17yrs now. I don't even know how to make the reconciliations happen but i know a time will come when i would have to, maybe when i m to get married. i get soooo sad anytime i think of it. may Allah make it easy all the same.

@yemi
olohun a se eyi ti o da. follow the advice of the brothers above and lets know how it all went, ok?

You need to talk to your brother who is getting married. You have to tell him that you have an examination on the same day. You also have to assure him, that after the examinations, you will head to his occasion for which good things are happening to him.

You however can not give any excuse to the examination body. Your brother should accept your excuse, in goodfaith, because it is forbidden to be suspecious in islam. When you arrive, finally after your examinations, you may, out of your own reassurance of goodliness show the paper/remnant of materials from the examination to him, before you return to your own home, since you do not live together. You make sure that he sees you, is an assurance of your presence. Participate in this celebration of goodliness day as much as possible for you to.

I wish you well.

Go talk to him now. Let him know what your situation is. I am almost sure he will agree that you should go for the examination. Your telling him and his positive answer, may even soften your mother's heart. You may be surprised what Allah will do in this situation. The future is known to Him, alone.

If your mom is a muslim, encourage her as a muslim, to practice forgiveness and forget people unpleasantries towards her, and move on. Thats Islam.