Ashawo No Be Work O! Na Lifestyle.

Diffrent different things dey happen for this our Nija i swear. I'm not the most observant person in the world, but this has stopped being subtle it's in your face. Almost choking.
They comb offices all around town "visiting". Clad in the most revealing stuff in their closet. On a Wednesday morning you'D think it's a Friday night.It's making me hard to concentrate on work. Okay, Truthfully i'm not concentrating, i'm checking out my fav Blogs. Which one come be your own now? Mr. Efficiency. Employee of the year Kpele o. Abeg comot make i see road.

Right here on my Table at work is a Wedding Invite for this Saturday. Oga o.Ebere is getting married. Na wah o. Even Ebere!!! Bad girls have it made i swear. This Chica don go round every bobo in Lagos and we're only talking about the bobos i know o. What of the countless ones wey i no know hmm. Single guys, Married guys, Divorced separated, bring it on. She don dey do since 1993 wey Boys they pari ise (Finish am) for Murphis Toilet. Whatever happened to those joints back in the day sef? Murphis, Terris Burger, Eddie King Burger, and Chicken something i forget what it's called now. Anyway sha.

Wetin i dey talk again sef? Ehen Ebere. Ebere don find Husband o. Surprise surprise. That girl would screw anything that drove up in four wheels back then. Anything. As long as it came in a car. The girl ehn, she no sabi talk NO. lai lai. If it comes in a Car she rides. End of story.
Anywhoo the story is, she's now attending one Pentecostal church in Ikeja. She even dey choir sef. Na so one guy wey come from yankee say make e come bury I'm Papa see am for Church say na fine yellow girl. Before you could say "Nna Bros chelu" e don dey Western Union money to Ebere family for Okokomaiko. How correct nice babe go dey ground, people like Ebere go find correct bobo marry am? Na serious issue o. Bad girls go to heaven no?
Guys let me tell you something. If you see a babe ehn, and you wan marry ask well well o. Wetin i talk? do research gan seriously,  That's how i saw my work colleagues main squeeze in a Micro Mini on Akin Adesola one night like that. I couldn't breathe a word of it to him. It would totally break him to pieces.
They are still "dating" and i feel kind of bad for him but hey no be for my mouth them go hear that kain thing,  Ignorance is bliss yeah?

On the flip side of this, The economy is soo bad, things are so difficult for the average man like you will not beleive. Going by the comments on by last post. I tried to do a not too perfect math on how a Man is expected to survive on the Federal Govt. Minimum wage of #7,500 monthly.(about 30 pounds/55 dollars). Mr. Man spends about 5,000 on transportation a month, and he's got a wife(My driver has two), 3 kids, pay nepa bill, feed his family, clothe himself and his family,Pay school fees, books, his aged parents at home, and other miscellenous wahala. Haba!

And all this is on the assumption that the guy is gainfully employed in the first instance.
It's a different kettle of fish when there's nothing coming in at the end of the Month, and he's got teenage kids.The boys struggle through school, most likely will moonlight as a conductor or Mechanic or something. The girls, , well you guessed it. Have you been to Kuramo Beach at night? This young teenage girls have sex with Men for about 1 pound.(250 naira). Just so they can eat.

Quick math. If there are 100,000,000+ Nigerians,(That's one hundred million. yup) and only about 20% are employed, another 20% gainfully employed, i'm being very geneerous right hurr.
There must be about 60 million starving/nearly starving Nigerians.
With the above in mind, a girl born into the unfortunate tax bracket, Father is a Ministry Clerk, Mother is a School Teacher/Hospital nurse, warrever. There are 5 kids in the house. How the heck do you work that? What are her options?

When we scream about "moral decay" in the society, i don't think its's that cut and dried.We should look at the whole picture.Are we that morally Bankrupt as a people. No i don't think so. It's Poverty. When you go to bed hungry because you don't have food to eat, and you're not sure where Breakfast is coming from. Your outlook to life changes.It stops being about what the flashy Pastor says you can't do, it becomes a race of Survival. And the odds are daunting.
You don't beleive me? Step into any face me i face you house in Lagos for 10 minutes and see how people live, how 15 people squeeze themselves into a room just a little bigger than a Toyota Corolla. How 100+ people shove and fight to use a creepy-crawlie infested bathroom in the morning.
Then get dressed and jump on a Molue to go to work. All their hopes and dreams dashed, their future mortgaged by Corrupt Politicians and Millitary Despots,  No Medicare, no Electric Power, no food, nothing. Even Dogs at the other more affluent part of town feed better.Poverty amidst plenty.

A lot of these girls want to chart a better future for themselves they see education as a ticket out of abject povert. (role models are all over the place). So they give it their all. They throw everything in it. They use the only thing they've got. They sleep with Lecturers to get admission into school, sleep with lecturers to pass exams, sleep with Aristos to feed, buy handouts, clothe themselves, and they have absolutely no time for broke undergraduate boys trying to run game. (Oloshi olori buruku i'm running away from poverty you wan make i come add your own join? Na Flowers i go chop? you dey craze. Abeg carry your Basketball shirt, and tontirin jeans comot for here before i open my eyes .lol) Baby gurl needs to send money home to feed her siblings and take care of her ailing mother or wharrever.

They finally graduate from school and keep in touch with the numerous Aristos.Her Networking is on point,she's a *cough* "graduate" now, so she gets a job in xyz Bank. Now she's an official Lagos Big Girl. She buys a Honda, moves from Okokomaiko to a Flat at Opebi, She comes to jand for Summer, attends all the Ovation type parrys in Naija, get's herself an Ajebutter Ikoyi boy, The Boy has no idea where she's coming from. All he knows is she cooks well, cleans up his crib, has no qualms washing his clothes, she shows him a few bedroom tricks that blow his socks off, goes to church every Sunday and Wednesday, Bobo is going, going, gone. Next thing na for Wedding Web site you go see them.
That, my friend is the Nigerian dream.

If you met a girl at a Parry, all decked up in Gucci this Prada that, and she's gushing about her trip to Venice and her Ski holiday at St.Moritz. And you ask her "which Secondary School did you go to"? and she starts stuttering,  ehm you see, "actually it's one school like that in Mile 2". lol. Don't push the subject.Drop it . That's one of several giveaway signs.

Let me quickly chip this in. "The Stupid Girl". The dumb Middleclass girl who lives in Maryland, Daddy is an Engineer, Mommy is a Doctor. Your folks are doing okay, not rich but comfortable.You went to QC, or FGC, or something. Then you get to Unilag you meet the Kpako girl who is desperately trying to be like you. Screwingg pot bellied married men all around town to have money just so your Middle class ass don't look down on her rasmobogee ass. So she buys all the clothes you buy, refines her phonee, No more Akara and Pap. Kpako chic buys all the stuff you eat "including Kelloggs" (sue me. Shio).
Then you, the Stupid Girl somehow got it twisted and thought Aristo Runs was fun. Sweetie it's so not fun. It's a facade. It's survival baby, not fun and games. It's a hustle stupid!!! Mami been hustling since Primary 5.
Whilst you were singing along to Sounds of Music. She was bumming Free Kulikuli off the Mallam pushing the Wheel barrow.
Be content with what your folks can give you now. They are trying their best. You don't need salvatore Ferragamo shoes it's a fucking 3rd world country. Thank God for your Parents, and accept what you're given. It ain't easy for them either but they strive so much. You don't have to look like Ciara, c'mon. The Kpako girls don't have a choice. That's the only thing they reckon they have. Let them do their thing. You stay good, clean, have fun, go on dates(with boys your age), read good books, broaden your mind, but please no Pot bellied old men. You really don't need that extra cash. Trust me.

*Note* I'm not female bashing. I'll talk about the guys some other time.

Go figure. A Nija Runs chic who is used to blowing 500,000 a month courtesy of Aids Donors (Aristos) Now get's a job, earns 70k a month, gets married .Bobo earns say, 200k a month. And she still wants to rawk her Prada,Miu Miu, and Marc Jacobs.
What's the easiest alternative. What are her options? Yup you guessed it. A girls gotta do what a girls gotta do.
Small wonder Divorce rate has gone way up in Naija. 300% in the last 5 years. What more can i say?

Meanwhile Ebere's Wedding IV is so cool. I'm looking at it on my table now. The back says Printed in New-York. Okayee.

Bros na wah oh . . .nah so i see am oh . . . .This life sha

I was wondering too

Kliplemet, nice analysis man.

But , in an environment like naija where people look down on you because of your poor history and background and noone is still trying to help out, can you really really blame these girls for using the only thing they have to eventually come out on top?

And come to think of it, all girls love money  - it all depends on how you flash it, in a tacky manner or smoothly.

I don't know if you grew up in nigeria, but my guy, people have been oppressed , and they look at you like nothing good can come out of you just because you do not have wealthy parents. , meanwhile ur only being oppressed with stolen funds.

have you seen university graduates with first class  / 2nd class upper selling stuff on the streets of lagos, or riding okada to make ends meet ?? I have.  meanwhile , their dumb classmates in school don't waste time getting good jobs or travelling abroad with their parents stolen funds and influence, then they come back and start oppressing the same people who did their exams for them.

Nigeria has a crooked system , the things that work elsewhere do not work in my country.