I Need Your Advice

Y is sex da first thing on your mind ehn?

Y is sex da first thing on your mind ehn?

Y is sex da first thing on your mind ehn?

Oops, am so sry, didnt mean to send it more than once! Twas some error.
Sup genial

I really want to post my own post but I still can't figure out the exact steps of soing it.So I will just do this. I am a 23 year-old born and raised American girl of african decent.I don't know how far back but my family came to america as slaves.Ever since I was very young I has always been fasinated by africans.When I turned 17 almost 18 I began to experiance actually being around them. To me I felt comfortable with them,I just fit right in. As I got older I began to meet and interact with more and more africans,mostly Nigerians.In dallas ther are alot of Nigerians. I was in a relashionship with a man from sierre leone for four in a half years and then I realized that he wasn't my type. I felt more as ease with Nigerians than I did with sierre leonians. Last year when I gave my life in truth and in spirit to the Lord,I became ingulfed in Nigerians. My church is an international church,and the congregation as well as the pastor is Nigerian. People began to ask me if I was Nigerian and began to tell me that I looked like one. They all said it as if Nigerian was the best of all africans to look at. Many people began to approah me about their brother and cousins asking e if I would be interested,I would always politly say no. Well as time went on a became very very zealous for God. I began to make him my life and my only important thing going on in my life.More important than friends,more important than school,more important than family. I was so excited.There is one lady in my church who I never really talked to,but everyone elese liked her alot.She has alot of money.I notice with Nigerians,in most cases,you have to have money to be respected.Anyway, she approahed me one day and began to talk to me and she said that she had been wacthing me for sometime and that she loves how I love God,and my faithfullness to the church (which is a new church).She began to talk about moving back to Nigeria and I said to her that I would love to visit her.She was so shocked to hear an "black american" say that. She said she would love it and that I would like it so much.She was telling me about ther drivers and the cooks,and the maids,and the lifestlye of the rich over there.She said that she was going back home and that her and her husband have gotton all they need from america.So the next Sunday,she approahed me and told me that she has a brother and that he has a girlfriend but that the girl is not a christian and that she doesn't like her.I blew her off because I knew what she wanted to ask me next.I wasn't interested in being hooked up. So I nicely blew her off about it. a few months later say about four months later.My pastor,his wife,me,and her were sitting around talking after church and she brought it up agiain. She already had my number and she said that she wanted to give it to her brother so that we could talk. She began to say how good her family is and that she would like for him to marry someone who is love with the Lord. I didn't want to tell her no,because she is like the madaam of the church.Everyone wants to be close to her,she has alot of friends.Everyone want s to know this lady.So I said o.k. just to not embarrass myself. So that next weekend I received a call from her brother.We talk about a whole little of nothing.He began to call me ever weekend and by the third week he started telling me his "feelings" for me. I thought he was full of  (S)ugar,(H)oney,(I)ce,(T)ea.I just rolled with it. I figured he needs papers. I had done a fast about a month before I began to talk to him and one of my main prayer points was that God would allow my husband to begin to look for me.That were ever he was in the four corners of this earth, that God will make a way for him to come to me speedily.  I was just tired of being single and I wanted to get married,which I still do.Anyway,so he told me that he trust his sisters judgement very much and that she had become the mother of the family when their mother died,and that she only wants whats best for him,and that she must really like me. I was still like, what ever!!!!! He told me that he can tell that I don't have a bad mind and that I am very gentle. Which I think is true. He began to say that he is tired of dating and having girlfriends,he wants to get married and start his family.He is 33 at the time he was 32. I began to think that maybe this was God answering my prayers,and that of all the men who have tried to get close to me he is the only one who was ablr to get threw. I began to ask myself am I receiveing an answer from God this fast!The thing is sometimes God wants to bless us and due to lack of faith sometimes we miss our blessings.So I told myself that I will except this because of the fast and because of the wisdom his sister has and the way she carries herself and how she loves God that I would try this to see. So we began to talk about the future and what we wanted and our plans. We talked about children.He said he wants to start as soon as possible having them because he is 33. I was like ,well he must be for real because he wants children with me.So I let go and decided that I would marry him.He talks about God and he seems serious so maybe it would be good. So,I began to ask my pastor, who is 26 years old,for advice.He didn't have much to say,he has been over me since I gave my life to christ and has been like a father to me. I couldn't tell if he was jealous of the fact that I wasn't coming to him for every little thing anymore or was he not saying anything because of the respect for the lady,the guys sister. So anyway,the summer came up and I began to have big,big doubts.I started to avoid both him and his sister.I love his sister so much and I hated to avoid her,but I felt trapped by her presence.We went from praying together everyday to not praying together at all.She told me that the only reason she liked me was because of my Zeal for God and that without that I don't seem to stand out. I felt hurt but I understood where she was coming from.At that point I new that she really wanted me to marry into her family.the thing is just because she is a women of God doesn't mean her brother is or isn't.Christianity is a personal experiance with the Lord,you feel me?Anyway,after avoiding the brother for about a month,he left me a message and unlike the other messeges I decided not to delete it before listening.So he said that he didn't understand why I was doing this to him and that he had already told all of his family about me and our plans and that he didn't do anything to deserve what I was doing to him and that I want to ruin him. I was like blown away by his statement. I called him and we talked. He said that he knew something was wrong before all this happend.I told him about thewarning that I receive to be careful with nigerians and they began to scare me. He was mad and he acted so offended.so I apologized. He said that I should come and see him and then decide but not to decide before I see him.He told me that he wants me to come back to the states pregnant,to ensure that I am his. I was like wow!I don't want to get pregnant yet,I have to go to school.So he said I shold come for a couple of months and I said no I have to work,so we decided on one month. I am not in love with him,but I am just wanting to follow threw to know if this is indeed the will of God in my life. I'm scared of being deceived. I am leaving on the september 8. What do you think about all of this?Share this story with as many nigerians as you can so I can be asked questions and receive advice,God knows a want to marry an annoitted man of God,but is he it?You only get married once  you know.so I would like to do it right.My email is vitacarr@yahoo.com don't hesitate to write,if you are lead by your spirit, pray for me. This is so serious. If you know how to cut and copy this to a individual post please help me out.  I am runnign out of time please help me if you  can.Do you know him?Kingsley Efraims Ogbonna?  vitacarr@yahoo.com. He is out of status in the u.k. He could go back home but I don't think he wants to.

TaniCarr, I really should tell you what deceision to make but I'd say pls do not marry a man You really do no know. There are many fraudsters everywhere even in churches.
I heard of one girl here in Naija who was introduced by one decaoness in her church to her brother who lived in the UK. The brother came to visit her in Nigeria and every single time he came to see her her had a bible or a book written by Benny Hinn. She married him, moved to the UK to leave with him and then discovered he was a credit card fraudster. He madse her life a misery and now she is back in Nigeria HUSBANDLESS and the man is married to another woman introduced to him by the same 'deconess'.
Tani Dear, Our GOD is not a GOD of confusion. Do not let age make u anxoius to be married. Take your time, be careful.
I would definitely pray for you today.
I worried on your behalf and wish u well.

good lawd, lol

ill advise u, dont get decieved by anyone, 

i wont lie,  i couldnt go thru your post cos it was so long and then my eyes were somehow ,

where is the guy now? and where are u going to meet him

well u aint sure if hes tryn to decieve u right?,  why go for something u aint sure of,  why go for a journey u are scared of embarking on,  ill just say u shuld follow your heart, and of cos i'll keep u in prayers,  but think twice b4 u make your move

wow thats really nice, well just be careful though, God is always there,  i hope things work out well for u,  by Gods grace everything would turn out good, AMEN,  ill keep u in my prayers, and hope to hear wonderful news from u wen u get back,  feel free to share with us,  like i often say,  life is full of risks,  u cant move on without taking this risks, good luck sis

aww so sweet.lo thanks