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haryorlah (f)
You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« on: July 08, 2008, 03:29 PM »

i once cheated on my boy friend. throughout that time, he didnt find out
4 months later, he knew about it
i didnt deny, he was mad but i apologized.
we ar still together and nothing has changed

but i don't feel comfortable about it, he might hav some plan against me
or try and purnish me later

what do u think?
nuttyKachi (m)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #1 on: July 09, 2008, 09:10 AM »

here we go again with ladies cheating,if i were ya boi friend ill offload you right away
Dual Core
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #2 on: July 09, 2008, 09:17 AM »

i think the question should be, what next are u going to do behind him?  Angry

1 guy no dey ever do una.
t-rhymes (m)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #3 on: July 09, 2008, 11:57 AM »

Just keep your mind clean.  Cool
lady bam (f)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #4 on: July 09, 2008, 02:25 PM »

Quote from: Dual Core on July 09, 2008, 09:17 AM
i think the question should be, what next are u going to do behind him? Angry

1 guy no dey ever do una.

as if one woman don do una Angry Angry Angry Angry


@ poster

Just have a Plan B.
lady bam (f)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #5 on: July 09, 2008, 02:29 PM »

just incase he decides to pull a fast one
Moyola (f)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #6 on: July 09, 2008, 02:31 PM »

He cheatz on me!!! D end, 'll muv on innit
chamotex (m)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #7 on: July 09, 2008, 02:32 PM »

Haryorlah oti like oko dido ju,were ni e !

 Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Embarrassed Embarrassed Embarrassed
Moyola (f)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #8 on: July 09, 2008, 02:47 PM »

Quote from: chamotex on July 09, 2008, 02:32 PM
Haryorlah oti like oko dido ju,were ni e !

 Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Embarrassed Embarrassed Embarrassed

bowo lose moh,,,,,,hv u phuck'D her before?
sistawoman (f)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #9 on: July 09, 2008, 02:51 PM »

aint nothing you can do but deal with whatever he throws your way.  You should have denied it till your death.
badoski101 (m)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #10 on: July 09, 2008, 02:54 PM »

plan b, plan c,plan d, u girls really amaze me.you will do anytin just to make your guy happy,but u still go about cutting shows, its a ladies world any way, u shld feel uncomfortable because am very sure you're sucking like 5/6 d*cks asides your guy's   Tongue
kokoye (m)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #11 on: July 09, 2008, 03:04 PM »

I think you are evil.

 From what you have said, this is a very loving and forgivng guy.

 You are only putting yourself in his situation - i think you would have looked for a way to get back at him if he was the one who cheated on you.


 My advice: Learn from him!
lady bam (f)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #12 on: July 09, 2008, 03:06 PM »

Quote from: badoski101 on July 09, 2008, 02:54 PM
plan b, plan c,plan d, u girls really amaze me.you will do anytin just to make your guy happy   Tongue

dude, that is exactly what we should be doing. and FYI, the plans are kept just incase something bad happens
whitelexi (m)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #13 on: July 09, 2008, 03:07 PM »

Funny enough, in all those threads where a girl comes to ask for advice about what to do to her cheating boyfriend, everything female will advice her to, and i quote, "Dump him like he's hot", "he aint worth u", "He aint man enough", "aint gat time to waste on wasters"!!!

Good to see some fresh air for once, you are very lucky to have that guy as your man. . .  and trust me, men don't have time to plan revenge, if he accepted u back and nothing changed, then nothing is likely to change in future - you're just feeling paranoid about the whole thing because u would've dumped him if it was the other way round - and u know it - and thats why u can't understand him letting sleeping dogs lie.
ima1 (f)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #14 on: July 09, 2008, 03:10 PM »

i think once you cheat on your partner n he/she forgives you, you are bound to do it again, its human nature. i know i will never cheat on my husband, but he knows it will be over between us if he does cheat. i'll forgive you but there is no where on earth i will take you back n suffer the pain and memories of you cheating. i don't want to have to worry, what he is doing when he says he is going to work, or out with his friend. so its a no no for me.
whitelexi (m)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #15 on: July 09, 2008, 03:18 PM »

With the way things are today, its so hard to remember that there is a word called Polygamy which means a situation where a man marries multiple wives and they all take turns in shagging one man.
This is not a case of worrying where he is when he says he's going to work, this is a case of knowing he's in his room right now shagging another woman whom u know very well. You even hear the bed creaking and their voices moaning with pleasure and you still endure it.

Women of nowadays sef - making issues of trivial stuff Grin
badoski101 (m)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #16 on: July 09, 2008, 03:19 PM »

but can't u ladies do without cheating on your guys?is it all ladies that cheat?think d answer is yes.lady bam, its a lady's world.but if you're dating a guy like me, u cheat on me and i nab u,just leave d country
Dual Core
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #17 on: July 09, 2008, 03:20 PM »

Quote from: lady bam on July 09, 2008, 02:25 PM
as if one woman don do una Angry Angry Angry Angry
i'll just slap ya face now o, ah ah. in short come here!

Quote from: badoski101 on July 09, 2008, 03:19 PM
but can't u ladies do without cheating on your guys?
my brother, they can't na, na why we get backups, and we dey even backup the backups.
Moyola (f)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #18 on: July 09, 2008, 03:22 PM »

Quote from: badoski101 on July 09, 2008, 03:19 PM
but can't u ladies do without cheating on your guys?is it all ladies that cheat?think d answer is yes.lady bam, its a lady's world.but if you're dating a guy like me, u cheat on me and i nab u,just leave d country

ladies can't o,,,,,,,esp. when d guy is not doin them ryt
ima1 (f)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #19 on: July 09, 2008, 03:23 PM »

Quote from: badoski101 on July 09, 2008, 03:19 PM
but can't u ladies do without cheating on your guys?is it all ladies that cheat?think d answer is yes.lady bam, its a lady's world.but if you're dating a guy like me, u cheat on me and i nab u,just leave d country

stop making generalizations, its not all ladies that cheat, i know i have never cheated on my husband, wats the point of cheating, if you don't want to be in the relationship then end it instead of cheating.
onyinye2 (f)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #20 on: July 09, 2008, 03:30 PM »

@topic

i think i kind of get what you are saying. you have that feeling in the back of your head that the guy might be planning something against, but i highly doubt it. personally i don't know how you could have stayed in the relationship. i would have been over whelmed with guilt. i would have just gone and start a new relationship where i would have learned my lesson and be faithful. just a thought.
Dual Core
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #21 on: July 09, 2008, 03:36 PM »

Quote from: ima1 on July 09, 2008, 03:23 PM
stop making generalizations, its not all ladies that cheat, i know i have never cheated on my husband, wats the point of cheating, if you don't want to be in the relationship then end it instead of cheating.
u don marry na, we aint talking about married people here.
issssh now u make me wonno get married  Angry

ehen. . . see eh, simple truth is, whether male o, or female o, all of us own no good.
i don't think i would be too bothered if any of ma Gfs is cheating or not, i don't even see it as cheating. i don pay for her head? then why would i want to be possessive?
i give her all she wants, if she wants more and i aint there, she should have her fill somewhere elze.

**runs off to pick a wife to marry
Hannibal (m)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #22 on: July 09, 2008, 04:05 PM »

Quote from: haryorlah on July 08, 2008, 03:29 PM
i once cheated on my boy friend. throughout that time, he didnt find out
4 months later, he knew about it
i didnt deny, he was mad but i apologized.
we ar still together and nothing has changed

but i don't feel comfortable about it, he might hav some plan against me
or try and purnish me later
what do u think?

Ya best bet is to pack your bags and leave.
The dude is waiting patiently to serve his vengeance in the coldest way u can ever imagine.
He is prolly prepping to shag your best friend or a relative.

Thats what i'D do. Tongue Tongue
sistawoman (f)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #23 on: July 09, 2008, 04:18 PM »

Quote from: Hannibal on July 09, 2008, 04:05 PM
Ya best bet is to pack your bags and leave.
The dude is waiting patiently to serve his vengeance in the coldest way u can ever imagine.
He is prolly prepping to shag your best friend or a relative.

Thats what i'D do. Tongue Tongue

Shagging my best friend or relative is no payback for me.  She should have kept her mouth shut.  I have already told my husband if you cheat on me take it to your grave because if you admit it we are done.  If i catch you we are done.  Cheat is a non-negotioable and will not be tolerated.
Hannibal (m)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #24 on: July 09, 2008, 04:27 PM »

Quote from: sistawoman on July 09, 2008, 04:18 PM
Shagging my best friend or relative is no payback for me. She should have kept her mouth shut. I have already told my husband if you cheat on me take it to your grave because if you admit it we are done. If i catch you we are done. Cheat is a non-negotioable and will not be tolerated.

The simple laws of nature expects the relationship to be over and done with once a woman cheats.
However, men are taking vengeance into anutha level these days. . . . Sending her out alone is no punishment.
She already wanted out by cheating in the first place so whats the biggie??
Men now wait patiently for the right moment, hurt her real bad then send her packing as a bonus offer!!! Tongue Tongue
sistawoman (f)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #25 on: July 09, 2008, 04:45 PM »

Quote from: Hannibal on July 09, 2008, 04:27 PM
The simple laws of nature expects the relationship to be over and done with once a woman cheats.
However, men are taking vengeance into anutha level these days. . . . Sending her out alone is no punishment.
She already wanted out by cheating in the first place so whats the biggie??
Men now wait patiently for the right moment, hurt her real bad then send her packing as a bonus offer!!! Tongue Tongue

but how do you lay beside someone and sleep with them knowing that you are holding a grudge and about to send them packing.  I have say thou that would be a hella way to get her back.  he knows her better than anyone else i will know just the right way to get her back then send her on her way.  Maybe she will learn to stay faithful next time.
woodboi (m)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #26 on: July 09, 2008, 04:49 PM »

relax your mind but you have already given him a better conscience to do whatever he like to whenever without thinking of what may come out of it.infact can you tell us why you did that in the first place and about him having plan b depend on the kind of person the guy his.game or no game if he wants to play on you,you don't have to wrong him before he takes the step.


but if it happens to be NO LONG THING.i will let the girl to understand that i want the best for her to if she know what is good for her then let her follow the lead.if i loose her then we are not meant to be,so she can jebele.
Hannibal (m)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #27 on: July 09, 2008, 05:04 PM »

Quote from: sistawoman on July 09, 2008, 04:45 PM
but how do you lay beside someone and sleep with them knowing that you are holding a grudge and about to send them packing. I have say thou that would be a hella way to get her back. he knows her better than anyone else i will know just the right way to get her back then send her on her way. Maybe she will learn to stay faithful next time.

Lying beside her and holding a grudge is what would make the pain INTENSE!!!
It's the best way to punish a cheating tart.
She shoulda thunk of that before cheating in the 1st place. . . .
ibkaye (f)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #28 on: July 09, 2008, 05:06 PM »

@poster
move on, waste of time
rubi (f)
Re: You Found Out your Lover Cheated On You. What Next?
« #29 on: July 09, 2008, 05:08 PM »

May be he is using psychological intimidation on you
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