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Kashogi23
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Hi Guys, Generally, it is very easy to say that coming froma broken home could affect the psyche of the individual, but then i also believe that it is our duty to "re-educate" them and show them approach to live can be different.Having said that, it can be very trying being in close relationships with them, but the ones who are willing to change or give a go at live must be given a chance.
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albridge (m)
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By default? yes! but since your asking this question on this forum it means that you have been thinking. when smart people think they go out and look for answers. when they get answers they get solutions and stay out of trouble. my point is that by being aware of the potentially destructive effects of broken home and taking steps to ensure that you are not left vulnerable to these effects (by making up your mind to have a healthy and successful relationship irrespective of what happened to your parents, reading good books that counsel in this area, seeing a therapist if there is a need to do so) you can neutralize these potentially negative effects and have a happy relationship, marriage and life
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Ohenry (m)
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Coming from a broken does have an impact on future romance.
I've noticed from personal observation that women from broken homes tend to be less trusting of their male partners. This is especially so if they view their father as the cause of the break up.
This does not apply in all cases however.
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newdeal
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my submission on the issue is that there are no hard and fast rules about it. it could go either ways, depending on the individual
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doe82
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@ SYREN How are u today?long time @ topic
Why are we still on this issue! No doubt some broken homes are the product of the wrong choices and mistakes of parents!This condition cannot and never be blaimed on the child (girl or boy) But whether it sure affects romance and futher 'family orientation" of a potential mother of father-------The answer is YES(90%) There is no hard and fast rule about the behavior of humans given our different complexities dispositions but for sure FAMILY PLAYS A ROLE IN MOLDING THE BEHAVIOUR OF EVERY CHILD. E.G
1) You hard an emotional accident(broken heart) and refuse to ever love again. Reason:u never really believed in love,it was an experiment from the beginning--could b that u never really felt love from the home
2) same scenerio in 1 above!----u learn t your lessons and still believe that there is love for u somewhere because your parents really taught u it exists!!!!
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Gamine (f)
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Yes of course? with no explanation 
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Ambber (f)
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with benefit of hindsight I will say 'yes' it does affect.
What you don't have its natural you can't give,
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syren (f)
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with benefit of hindsight I will say 'yes' it does affect.
What you don't have its natural you can't give,
What don't you have?  @ doe82 Long time indeed, I'm fine and you?
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doe82
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@ Syren where ve u been?
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syren (f)
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I've been very busy sha, even now I'm just waking up from my nap, I'm exhausted.  Always nice to hear from you tho, hope all is well  @ topic Come to think of it, the term "broken home" can be very disheartening for children to hear. It has a very nagative stigma and they know they're looked down on at times and automatically seen as dysfunctional and problematic, so they feel ashamed and negative emotions arise from that so I'D say it's both internal and external factors from the home and outside world.
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doe82
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I've been very busy sha, even now I'm just waking up from my nap, I'm exhausted.  Always nice to hear from you tho, hope all is well  I can understand!just take it cool and slow down sometimes to take care of yourself.Feels good meeting u again!! @ topic Come to think of it, the term "broken home" can be very disheartening for children to hear. It has a very nagative stigma and they know they're looked down on at times and automatically seen as dysfunctional and problematic, so they feel ashamed and negative emotions arise from that so I'D say it's both internal and external factors from the home and outside world.
THATS WHY EVERY SINGLE ONE OWE IT A DUTY TO THEIR CHILDREN UNBORN TO MAKE THE RIGHT MARRIAGE DECISIONS TO SAVE THE INNOCENT KIDS THE STIGMA AND THE MENTAL TORTURE THAT GOES WITH THIS KIND OF SITUATION
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syren (f)
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I can understand!just take it cool and slow down sometimes to take care of yourself.Feels good meeting u again!!
I really wish I could  I'm not even feeling well, but I just have to keep going. Nice meeting u too  THATS WHY EVERY SINGLE ONE OWE IT A DUTY TO THEIR CHILDREN UNBORN TO MAKE THE RIGHT MARRIAGE DECISIONS TO SAVE THE INNOCENT KIDS THE STIGMA AND THE MENTAL TORTURE THAT GOES WITH THIS KIND OF SITUATION
Very true, a lot of parents don't think about that, don't even care at times all they think about is how much they can't stand their partners and how to get as far away from them as possible.  Not only in marriage but outside of it too.
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doe82
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I really wish I could  I'm not even feeling well, but I just have to keep going. Baby take care of yourself as health is paramount in all we do.If u breakdown whatever u were doing another will take up ???so whats is the essence of going tru all these stress. Very true, a lot of parents don't think about that, don't even care at times all they think about is how much they can't stand their partners and how to get as far away from them as possible.  Not only in marriage but outside of it too. got some personal questions but i don't think nairaland is the best forum for that
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doe82
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I really wish I could  I'm not even feeling well, but I just have to keep going. Baby take care of yourself as health is paramount in all we do.If u breakdown whatever u were doing another will take up ???so whats is the essence of going tru all these stress. Very true, a lot of parents don't think about that, don't even care at times all they think about is how much they can't stand their partners and how to get as far away from them as possible.  Not only in marriage but outside of it too. got some personal questions but i don't think nairaland is the best forum for them 
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syren (f)
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Baby take care of yourself as health is paramount in all we do.If u breakdown whatever u were doing another will take up ???so whats is the essence of going tru all these stress.
got some personal questions but i don't think nairaland is the best forum for that
OK I'll try, I need a holiday LOL  You could email them to me if possible? I'll put the address on my profile
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doe82
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ok,that ll b nice 
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syren (f)
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sorry, I write it wrong, it ends with .com not .co.uk, the correct one should be on there now  Anyway I must dash, I have another long day ahead take care doe82 talk to you again soon 
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habiolah (m)
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@ topic Looking straight at the question, the answer should be an emphatic YES but sometimes there are exceptionsdepends on the individual
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Gamine (f)
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I was talking about this issue with a friend yesterday My mum was from a broken home and i believe she tried her best not to go that path she did all she could and we all saw her struggle. Anyways, a friend of mine left her house with her mum when her dad took a new wife. her mum thankfully had a well-paying job and she was able to sustain her children. Now, my friend wants to hear nothing about marriage, she is ready to go in for name and children but she'D rather be lesbian than to marry a man for love. 
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2b frank
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i think so because i have experienced it my girl friend finds it difficult to trust her boy friend.because of that she didn'nt want to give every thing to the relationship. thinking that d guy wil do ike her father,but i met this guy and found out this guy. is the best guy for her because this guy.is too loving and cearing 
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Gamine (f)
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werrin be this 
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Pataki
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@ Topic,
No it does not.
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Pataki
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Whats with the emoticons after my posts? Are you now beyond comprehension? 
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Missy B (f)
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Yhu go fear pic naw.
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strexfree (m)
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All depends in the way you view it. if you really want it to work it will. that is it
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akinolagre
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It really affect them especially those that involved court case the children are placed in the middle and there are even some cases that ask the children to desire which of their parent they want to live with hence the emotional stress affect their performance in live.It also affect their love relationship later in the future they can't really trust the other person because event would always be replaying in their mind.
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Gamine (f)
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hmm. But their should be a stop button somewhere 
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