Is It Right To Keep Sleeping With Him - I Need Your Candid Advice.

I am a widow - lost my hubby some 8 years ago. Before I lost my hubby - I met this couple - they wee about to get married - so I made a few of their traditional wedding dresses for them. A month after their wedding - I lost my husband.

I locked up my store for like four months - when I opened - I met the husband of the couple I mentioned above - aparently the wife came from America to Nigeria for their wedding and had gone back to America after the wedding. So, he comes regularly to make dresses with me - to send to the wife and for himself. Two years after they got married - the guy himself travelled abroad - but not to meet the wife - he comes home regularly and we became very close - even before he travelled - we kind of got very close- but nothing happened - he couldnt say it out - I couldnt say it out -.

Third year after he travelled - he came home and we met and i asked after his wife and he was like - wife is their but mariage is shakiny and shaky - ok- we got talking intimate stuffs and he went back - nothing happened. At this time - my friend in London introduced me to a divorced man - hoping to have a serious relationship with him - which we talked about and he wanted to marry me  - but his problem is that he can't come to Nigeria - his paper is stuck - can't come to Nigeria at that time.

Now the other guy comes home regularly and to cut a long story short - we started having sex - no mention of his wife - no mention of marrying me - no mention of my relationship with the invisible guy in London - to cut story short - the other guy has now gotten his papers and will come home next year to meet for the first time and hopefully get married to him, but the other guy is aware now, and when i asked him if he wants to marry me - he wouldnt give an answer, but we stil have sex anythime he comes to town.

Now - he is aware of the other guy sorting his papers and wanting to come home - after spending so much money on me to set me up in another business. My predicament is this - I can't stop myself sleeping with the other guy - even though the other guys gives me everything i want - but i havent seen him and he still has a year more before coming home -

Should I keep foking the other guy who obviously doesnt want to make a commitment - or just zip my undies up until the other invisible man comes to take his bride?

You can say that again.
i wan say if your husband spirit show for bedroom abi hotel,abi wherever your show de take place u o hear whin !

Anyway,I believe u really need avise if your story is true.

1stly remove your email from your profile, either of your 'lovers' or people that know them may be on N'land & u dnt want your dirty secret out,would u?

2ndly,u need to get a grip of yourself,stability above anything else,you're lucky you got someone despite your situation & I'll advise you make d best of the situation.
So,stop sleeping with Mr 'Okolawon' & take time to build your future with Mr Lonely Londoner.

Just mt 2 cents  .

Now I believe everything happen for a reason! I'll preffer to be dead like your husband than being alive knowing I was married to a slot like you!

O lawd!

I think she mourned for long enough!

To the topic you made a major mistake agreeing to marrying this other guy you have never meet.
Look this guy you are sleeping with is useless.  Hes not serious at all hes still married or he has at least 343283 other booty calls!

Dump him ASAP.

i agree totally with lady T

get your self out of that sexual monetary induced stupor    wake up jare  

@ mosun-ade go easy  on the curses, since you posted your story here , expect a lot of  good responses mixed with the bad ones  

I slept off reading your story!
Anyway i think you are just a CU.M-BUCKET WIDOW
Keep fucking both of them, you have discovered you are a freak and as for you undies, don't wear any at all!!

haba!  olopa ewo ni ti epe?  

na wha oh

HEY, I HAVE THE CONSTITUIONAL RIGHT TO CHOOSE MY TAILOR AND I THINK I WANT MOSUN ADE TO BE MY NEW TAILOR COS OF HER VALUE ADDED SERVICES.

iyalode ki n she epe ooo!

oriki ni, person wey her husband die wey dey fuc.k

like small pikin wey just get girlfriend no get shame at all!!

  yepaaa
ewo ni epe now?
blind man, how do u know? u be IYA AJE NI?

How can you people say that a woman should mourn her dead husband for eight years? I hope it doesnt happen to you o.

MOSUN DONT MIND DEM JARE , DEM WANT DAT PLACE TO BE FILLED WITH COBWEBS B4 DEM KNOW SAY You MOURN, ABEGI SEND ME UR SHOP ADDRESS MAKE ME MA SEW MY OWN CLOTH.

some guys can be mumuish tho,how can ui set someone up in business when u v not met the person physically
@poster
i think u should just chill out and think about it n figure out if u really want to settle down,dyu have kids cause to me it seems like u just want to have fun but havn a guilty conscience because the other guy s spent enough money on u

i have three kids - i want to settle - it is sad that some people who will die tomorrow are turning this into a joking matter.

three kids and wrecking marriages all over the place?
three kids and jumping on hot dic.ks all over?
three kids and swearing people would go blind or die?

what a farcical nonentity of a woman, a perfect definition of a dumbo-adult!

no mind the stupid foolish horny woman

u wey suppose stitch your toto with black thread!!