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g2drax (m)
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Ok This Is Long: But I Really Need Advice On This: Really Do
Never posted on a naija forum before, but i believe i can only get honest advice from nigerians that my life wont really affect, Here's my story
I had a girl once, she's almost perfect apart from she loves "the chace", I was after her 4 nine months and even after we started dating , other guys where still in the picture, at the end of the day we ended it (2 months)
I met another girl afterwards, great girl , at first all i wanted was some fun to build my confidence back, but she was such a good girl it became a serious relationship. I didnt want to hurt her but at the same time i was scared of her allowing my world to revolve around her. This made me do stupid things in particular, frequently breaking up with her. I caused her pain. Now to make things worse the former girl wanted me back, but honestly i still feel all she wanted was just to destroy my new relationship. Needless to say after a while the good girl left me and i essentially became hopeless because my world has already started revolving around her. Well 10 months now, I still miss her and still want to be with her. She doesnt call me and even if i call she talks to me as if we r just friends and sometimes ignores my phone call. Now shes a good girl but the final break up came when she went to naija 4 holidays. She's been with another guy and left that one, am still here wishing we could be together. My whole life has been at a standstill since then(not like i was doing great but i had reason to be positive). What should I do, so far I've tried moving on, but i can't, I've talked to her about it and she just dismisses the topic. If I call her she ignores me and rarely picks up the phone. I knw if she can just 4give me for wot i did before we going to have a good future together but she just wont listen to me and she's so stubborn. I love this girl and I knw I LOVE HER, anyway fellow naija peeps , what else can be done? Should i just pace myself and do nothing? or should I keep trying over and over and over till she marries? am confused and need SOLID advice, please feel free to express your HONEST opinion
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davidylan (m)
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hmmm, long story indeed! Bros na you spoil your runs o.
Infact, i can totally relate with your predicament as i have been in that shoe not once but at least 2ce.
Forget the good girl, she's through with you, no matter how much you beg her she's made up her mind she's not coming back. Don't waste you time and effort, concntrate on meeting another girl and not making the same mistake again. The truth is we tend as men to think that because girls love us they will take just about any nonsense we throw at them in the name of love. True, girls are very accomodating and forgiving but there comes a time when the camels back breaks, from then on no return o.
Please leave the first girl, she has nothing to offer you but sorrow and hurt. Be friends with them both, concentrate on correcting your past mistakes and moving on. Soon yo'll meet the girl of your dreams and u'D have learnt valuable lessons from this experience.
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davidylan (m)
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You were afraid of commitment, same here too. I had a wonderful girll who would do anything for me then, for fear of commitment, i chickened out. she did me no wrong at all. today i am wishing i could roll back the hands of time. Next time, sieze your opportunity with both hands, good guys are hard to find, good girls too!
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Hotstepper (f)
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now u have learnt your mistake so next time, apply it to make u hay. don't worry, u will find someone better, good luck
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hot-angel (f)
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David already said it all. I mean if i add more, i'll be talking dust.
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beyunce (f)
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u will find someone else but don't keep jumpin in and out of a relationship
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cucchi (f)
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wow u talking about me boy  i was in same situation but opposite i was wit a guy who messed me about saying he wanted me then he didnt. then i met my current boyfriend who i'm mad about but yet my ex still thinks he can have me back. it aint happening. Move on wit your life u'll find someone else. Dont ruin her life because of your mistake. Good Luck |
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g2drax (m)
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Thanks guys, I've recently thrown the last dice. I guess God doesnt believe the relationship is good for me, because after talking with her 4 1 hour plus and sending her a text message , I realised i sent the text message to one of my friends instead of her, a bit of a break i guess, according to master Yoda, its time for me to "Up the shut f**k" and "on move".  |
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g2drax (m)
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wish me luck on making myself happy first, then lover will come, or i'll end up a true jedi or father, may the force be with u
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sherri (f)
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if u really love her, you would be more concerned about how much u hurt her.my 2 cents: let her know how u feel (be honest with her and yourself) u should want her to forgive u even if she won't take u back. now, that's love!,
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g2drax (m)
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well , tell u wot, she said she's 4given me, she's told me that she feels bad that i care so much about her and i want to make it worse, infact she thinks she's been punished because she doesnt want to be with me, I have said sorry like 500 times, and I'll keep saying it till kingdom come, theres nothing i wont do to be with her and to get her to 4give me, she's like my best friend, life's been strange to me since she withdrew away from me. All the vibe i'm getting is that she just doesnt have feelings 4 me anymore and u knw wot , after 9months ish , i think i deserve to be happy even if i was ONCE wrong. The fact is I have not been given the chance to prove that i culd do better, infact she doesnt give me the chance to say sorry, if u knw her please tell her i'm sayin sorry on my knees. The fact is this though, I NEED to get a life myself. All i knw I can do i have. If theres something I havent done its because I havent thought about it. The only thing I havent done is "move on". Thats the only option that seems open to me now, and i think thats what i have to do, but believe i have begged and begged and asked for forgiveness, i even gave her space, didnt bug her when she started seeing someone else, heck, the only mistake I've made since she left was to give in to my emotions over her(if thats a mistake). Believe I simply DONT knw wot else to do apart from move on. If theres anything else I'll do it, infact I'll call her now and ask her to 4give me. and believe I'll be back here telling u guys hw she said "NO" again  |
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sherri (f)
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i guess u need to forgive yourself and move on. consider this a lesson learned.if u are meant for each other, it will all work out in the end.
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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sorry to say but it serves you right,  . |
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g2drax (m)
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aye, serves me right indeed, lesson learnt, now whos my next victim?  |
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eslynera (f)
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Yeah, the reason that she won't forgive u is because you once hurted her so badly, and probably everytime she thinks about the heartbreaks u gave her, she finds it hard to love you again.
One thing, just have a serious talk on the phone, i mean don't talk seriously or angrily, L.OL You won't get her if u do that , just find any other way to make sure u talk on the phone, make an appointment wit her u know?
just start the story from the begining, then let her know how much u regreat it, tell her how much you feel her, do all doze stuffyzz bwoy!!!   , not romantic stoughs,!! NO!!!! Don't do that yet!! i mean do the apology expressions stuffyzz datz what i mean,
I f possible, get down on your four knees i mean get down on your two knees + your two arms and then start cryin even if u don't have d tearz, just pretend being an actor at that tyme.
cry cry cry cry cry cry cry cry cry cry cry cry cry cry cry cry cry cry cry cry lol this is fun
Apologize and show men tearzz, maybe she'll feel sorry or sumfin, she might start cryin too, which'll show she's forgiven you. Kiss her, carry her on your back, and all that when your'e done, log into Nairaland at once (Not before u're done with her tho. ) visit the board, Romance, Topic she's a good girl but she won't forgive me.
Then tell us how tingz a goin, Good luck bwoy, i hope ma advy will work, 
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eslynera (f)
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by d way, u shouldN'T give up. remeber d story of d two frogzzz?? kg stuffs?? try that, be real, maybe she still love u but she doesn't want to show u. You never know. *READ MA SIGNATURE.* |
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g2drax (m)
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ok, not giving up, but what story about what 2 frogs?
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dominobaby (f)
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Lol eslynera!!
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Rhodalyn (f)
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@esly Lmao @topic Awwwwwwww how sad  but i think You really deserve what is be done to You , You did it to her and now, She's also doing it to You, afterall two Can play that game innit??  anywayz, i think You should have a deep long Chat with her , find Out if She's still got something for You, You know what i mean right?? , like if She's Still got Sumtin going for You, some feelings and then Carry On from there, But if She hasnt, then i suggest You just let it go, there's tymes when we mess Up and there's no second Chance to make it all perect again! ! another thing You Could also do So as to feel the pain You put her through is To wipe your mouth On the ground You know, bend down and wipe your mouth on the ground as if You''re scrubbing but whatever the Case is, i wish u the best Of luck remember the heart Of a woman is very Fragile and You just broke her's |
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Rhea (m)
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G2drax,
Learn from the past and forge ahead with the future. Manyof us have said it all.
Also listen regularly to R Kelly's song 'when a woman is fed up'.
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g2drax (m)
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Well thx guys, and indeed looks like she's fed up and i am too now, I don't care if she's my missing rib or if i'll never find anyone like her, because if thats the case she'll never find anyone like me, I need to at least stop giving my self heart ache. At the end of the day I wasnt half as bad and it was out of not wanting to be here that i did wot i did. Lesson learnt and I'll try and stay happy, thx 4 all the support , means a lot to me
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eslynera (f)
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c'mon g2trax, don't give up now bwoy
Aiight, let me give u d kingergarted story of d two frogs
THE TWO FROGS:There were two frogs, which were hipping and hopping here and there,
suddenly, the two frogs accedentaly fell into a pot full of milk.
Dooooooop, Doooooooop. (awwww, poor frogiezzzz ) fell in there, one was called g2drax, the otha was called xyz,
"Now what shall we do? if we stay any longer wer'e going to die."  asked xyz to g2drax.
"We should swim!!." replied g2drax to xyz.
SO poor frogiezz they swam and swam and swam and swam and swam and swam and swam and swam.
till xyz, got tired. "whoooosh!! i'm sorry ma friend, i'm givin up, we've swam but still, nothin. Let me just give up."
so xyz stopped swimmin and sank back to the bottom of the pot, so he died
RIP FROGGY XYZ
Now it was only G2drax, but he said [color=#550000][b]"NO, I WON'T GIVE UP, I'LL KEEP SWIMMING, MIRACLES HAPPEN"
So he kept swimming. He swam and swam and swam and swam.
After a while a miracle happened
As much as he was swimmin, it made the milk get together, and made a thick heavy surface on the top.
So g2drax jumped on the thick part of the milk and hopped out 
Ohhhh, he[/b][/color] saved his life, thank GOD!!!!!!!!!!!! BWOY, THIS STORY AIN'T ABOUT LOVE, IT'S A NURSERY KG STORY , BUT PROBABLY IT'LL HELP, AIGGHHHT?
I HOPE IT DOES!! DON'T GIVE UP, I'M TELLIN You, GOOD LUCK ONCE AGAIN
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g2drax (m)
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well don't know, miracles do happen , maybe I'm forcin things, she's told me I'm tryin to hard to be her friend anyway so i reckon if i move on its for the best, and if a miracle is going to happen , i guess that other frog that drowned will come back to life
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eslynera (f)
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nuffin cumz to alive again, it was JESUS only, and it won't happen again. that is g2drax, u can get her if u've given up, but it's good to make a conclusion, and it's also standing strong, If she loved u, she could of understood u, But be strong man!! |
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g2drax (m)
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danke |
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Anabib (f)
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JUST GIVE HER SPACE.
With time, if u are meant to get back as just friends, it will happen, and otherwise, its part of life
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eslynera (f)
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i changed my mind on this, just forget about her |
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g2drax (m)
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Eslynera, why d change of advice, I'm curious
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g2drax (m)
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oh well, i hope i'll be sane when i meet someone else 0_0 and aye, she said it herself she doesnt have feelings 4 me anymore, guess she never really did, or maybe she did, heaven knws,
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