Would You Leave Someone You Loved Because You Weren't Getting Any Sex?

@ruby

i was juss kidding. geez louise.

don't know why she's defending a bonehead like you

@karma. Why have you been attacking me since now. Well i'm as gentle as a dove. And even if i'l fight its not going to be with a lady. Women are beautiful creatures and should be respected not fought with. CHEERS!

karma stop abusing the guy  
tolu don't fight with women.  you are truly a gentleman  

I said sharrrap dia. acetate

She doesn't need to!  He is a willing participant.  It's not that men don't get raped by women, , the victim, in this case the man, was looking forward to a repeat of the event and would thus not make sense reporting it.  His desire for a repeat is the reason we never hear of men raped by women.

My point though is that a lot of things that women term "pressure" is viewed that way because the mind has a lot of issues that it need to attend to,   work project waiting to be completed, oil change in car, grocery shopping, class enrollment, bargain sale on Saturday, and so with the mounting pressure of " to dos",  it becomes increasingly desirable to offload than to add on.  Sex in some instance might be mis-interpreted as a add-on.

With you? impossible.  i don't fornicate, thanks.

where is the unattainable love of my life? did she flee for bed

CH3COO.

see ur head.
we're playing hide n seek outside, not in the bedroom. shior

@post
YES YES YES YES YES!!
I'll leave him.

Poster,
I wont leave him because I think it will be hard to leave someone whom you love emotionally and mentally. . . .

Yes I can.  Only if we're married.

Some great replies here though half way into this, we started chatting about traditional weddings, then shropshire then ,

Ok, I knew him for about 3 months before our relationship and I made it clear that I didn't want a fling and he knew I was trying to get closer to God as I told him. He also replied saying that he also wanted to embark on the same journey. How many Christians would reject someone who seemed to need God in their life. We became friends, initially I avoided all his advances, made excuses so I oculdn't date him, I didn't think he was b/f material, but he showed me a side of himself I think he rarely showed others, he seemed serious, but maybe he saw it all as a game, to chase me. Eventually, I began to think he was special, very dedicated, when I first went to his place, he had his bible and daily bread out, he lent me his bible to read and he got on with his work, this was when I truly thought he was a serious, harmless and genuine guy. Moving on, 2 weeks into the relationship, I felt I should draw the lines, neither of us talked about sex, and I asked him what his opinions were about pre-maritial sex and he told me he believed if you loved someone truly it was ok, I made it clear to him immediately that I wanted to wait until marriage. There was an awkward silence for the rest of the night and I thought, 'oh well, this relationship was nice whilst it lasted' but then he seemed not to be bothered by it the next few days and we were back on track. His reaction still lingered on my mind though, so about a month later, we were once talking about our relationship and I questioned him about the earlier silence, he went on to admit his disappointment, which I appreciated because of his honesty, and then he said he felt our relationship was worth it, that in past relationships he had left girls because they said the same, but with me he felt something stronger, less physical, and more serious. I was swooning at this point.

Now would you not call that an agreement. I laid down my cards, gave him time to think about it and he returned. Now if I was into sex before marriage and he wasn't and I cared for him I would also raise my bar, it is more feasible for me to restrain than to try and get him to start having sex. He also knew that I was a virgin so in my mind I thought where I stood was clear.

I'm not saying he left me because of that, but he did tell me he had fidelity problems later, which made me think he had begun to get urges for sex during the later stages of our relationship. Like someone mentioned earlier, it is easier for a male to leave someone he is emotionally attached to and truly cares for because of an 'overwhelming' (subject to opinion) desire for sex.

I personally know that if I had sex with every guy I thought I loved before marriage, I would have a list, I know myself, how I am with guys, all they have to do is be sweet and kind to me, and I am willing to give them a chance. I changed that this time round because I left the relationship. BUT, seriously, I may have also started seeing sex as such a casual thing if I had sex with my boyfriends, because once you do it and become heartbroken it becomes less and less of an important/bond between you and your partner and your focus switches to trying to maximise the pleasure aspect and you start building a mental list in which you compare previous partner's to the current and sex becomes a more and more important role for a successful relationship for you.

Yes because I doubt anybody finds love and wants to let it go. But it's all about where you're thinking from, your organs or your brain. If anybody knows what's good for them, they'll wait, after all sex is only a bonus, a wonderful bonus indeed, it isn't the be all and end all like we make it.

By the way I am only saying wait, because the topic is addressing people who are being made to wait.

I'm not telling anybody how to/how not to have sex in their relationships.

Na wa for these people and sex oh, them use sex do una?

lol no sex=no love to me

me wont leave, nothin stoppin me form gettin a little top up somewhere else ey