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StephenP (m)
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what's up with the hoooohs and ahhhhhs?
maybe because what you said was not the appropriate thing to say to someone who just broke up . . . "why not leave him and come to me. I'll treat you right. unfortunately you're in the uk so I guess you're stuck in the mess. sucks to be you"? Naw . . . not cool. |
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KarmaMod (f)
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The maturity of the lady in question is based on the fact that, it is what she would like and not because all men want from you is sex and they are gone to the next womanf mentality. These are two completely different things. If we can be free discussing it and the attitude towards it is healthy then we're fine. If the attitude is that (men think about sex every 6 secs, men will have sex with anything in skirt, men, once they have sex with you, they're gone) then we cannot be together. We are definitely not on the same wavelength.
I agree. The second mentality is enough to turn anyone off because it says alot about how the person would regard things even within marriage topup, Take it from me. sure easily said than done but when things break you gotta move on, even if it doesnt happen mentality, the facade says alot to the other. A good friend of mine and her dude broke up last year, she would whine about the sitation to me and her other friends but put up the whole "I'm strong" shit lol plus she never called him again, just left him with a "We can't be friends but I hope you have a nice life. wish you all the best." They both played the "who will break first", tell me when both of us were leaving one day for lunch and he was infront of the office begging her to listen to him, even pulling at her legs. Who thing was too funny but sweet  Point is oif it's menat to be they will be back, if not take it as that and with time your heart will heal. |
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rokiatu (f)
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@ Topic sex is not everything especially for d unmarried ones do you want to be used and dumped I don't think so just be patient a dead person will get tired of sleep
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CH3COO (m)
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maybe because what you said was not the appropriate thing to say to someone who just broke up . . . "why not leave him and come to me. I'll treat you right. unfortunately you're in the uk so I guess you're stuck in the mess. sucks to be you"? Naw . . . not cool.
lol! what can I say, my posts are not always filled with words of consolation and endearment. |
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CH3COO (m)
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topup,
your premise is also assuming that sex is the only problem in your relationship. i'm telling you this, 3 or 4 months is not nearly enough to decide if this dudie is the "perfect guy for you" . i suggest you snap out of it and move on. changing your principles to satisfy a guy's sexual appetite is something i discourage.
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Chat2MeBac (f)
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Sex is not love, Too often the two are misconstrued as being synonymous. I won't necessarily call off a relationship because of lack of sex, I would rather appreciate that one. who wants someone breathing in their face all the time?
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topup
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 Thanks everybody, if it's meant to be it will be, my problem is closing/ending the hope that lies inside me, he left me with words such as 'in future if i'm single and you're single who knows' lol so I am already his backup plan. Who knows in future I probably would have moved on, he sent me a reply this morning, which has totally ruined the whole 'moving on' tactic. I've got my whole life to live!! I can't be worrying about this! And yes if he did break up because of sex it says a lot about the person, no matter what anybody says about it! |
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Memi (f)
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Yes, because if he loves me he'll make sure I'm satisfied, unless he has some type of medical issue , he had better stand and deliver, Now if this is about a young guy in his twenties or early thirties most of these guys are not ready to settle down if he isn't sleeping with you then he is sleeping with someone else, Most older and wise men make it a practice of satisfying their woman, because they know she will eventually stray if he doesn't ,
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gabrywyl (f)
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Since the question was obviously meant for the guys, therefore, I leave it to the guys to answer.
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Akinagirl (f)
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Dont know, it depends on the relationship that we share. If other things outweigh the sex then ill stay but if we are in it for the sex in the begin with then yes i will leave. Means, it was never serious
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proo212 (m)
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Hello Topup,
I see you are hurting really badly but time wounds all heels or is it the other way round. Yes yes, wounds heal with time. I suppose this is first love. I suggest giving each other space to move on.
Can I ask how old you are?
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Persona82 (m)
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Yes, Definitely. One of the criteria that have to be passed. In the long haul its better for both.
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ibkaye (f)
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@topic
that is the worst excuse for leaving somebody, nonsense
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sista-jay (f)
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To walk out on a man due to lack of sex, would be the weakest excuse ever. Being with the man I love gives me pleasure.
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smooooooth
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i know a frnd who his girl frnds were alwasy leaving, because he wasnt doing them.their excuse was he doesnt make feel like a woman. worse part they left and ended up with his frnds and neighbours. now he is into shagging, and has been able to hold his present one for 2yrs now.
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rokiatu (f)
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To walk out on a man due to lack of sex, would be the weakest excuse ever. Being with the man I love gives me pleasure.
this is well said |
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Persona82 (m)
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To walk out on a man due to lack of sex, would be the weakest excuse ever. Being with the man I love gives me pleasure. Weak but then err1 has their preferences by the way who would be naive enough to tell you that its the sex if not only to hurt your feelings or then its 300% IMPORTANT!! @Ibkaye: You and I know that there are worse things |
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stillwater (f)
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Yikkkeeesss, relationships
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eldee (m)
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@topic I wouldn't even be loving her in the first place I don't roll that way  |
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stillwater (f)
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@topic I wouldn't even be loving her in the first place I don't roll that way Biko puo!!!! |
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The Sly
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@topic I wouldn't even be loving her in the first place I don't roll that way Seconded!!!!!!!!!!! Thir ded!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Forth ded!!!!!!!!!!!! Fifth ded!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sixth ded!!!!!!!!!!!! Seventh ded!!!!!!!! Eight ded!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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stillwater (f)
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You guys are whores.  |
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eldee (m)
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Seconded!!!!!!!!!!! Thir ded!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Forth ded!!!!!!!!!!!! Fifth ded!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sixth ded!!!!!!!!!!!! Seventh ded!!!!!!!! Eight ded!!!!!!!!!!!! Nineded!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tended!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You guys are whores. Why would I be in love with someone that won't let us make love It's just selfish . . . I'm depriving some eunuch somewhere of his dream woman |
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stillwater (f)
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Why would I be in love with someone that won't let us make love It's just selfish . . . I'm depriving some eunuch somewhere of his dream woman Make love? Please!!! Who are we deceiving? You and I know it's all about fulfilling your selfish desires. If premarital sex is all about making love, the rate at which people get dumped, I believe would be reduced. |
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The Sly
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You guys are whores. Oh no!. . . . . . .Not again! If leaving a girl because she doesn't Wanna do it makes me a whore! Then i take that as a compliment. . . . . .Thanks.  |
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The Sly
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Nineded!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tended!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why would I be in love with someone that won't let us make love It's just selfish . . . I'm depriving some eunuch somewhere of his dream woman Who needs a boring girl?? . . . .Most defly not me! Life is too short. . . . . . . . I Gotta do what I Gotta do. . . . . . . . . |
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Busta (f)
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Isn't sex/making love is sometimes a way of showing someone u loved them?
sorry but I go pack my kaya comot o if i ain't getting nada!
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eldee (m)
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Make love? Please!!! Who are we deceiving? You and I know it's all about fulfilling your selfish desires. If premarital sex is all about making love, the rate at which people get dumped, I believe would be reduced. Marital sex reduced and we have increased divorce rates Making love brings people together . . . it's like magic Life is short ooh . . . Imagine reaching Heaven's gate and still annoyed that you never got to enjoy sex The person for your back go land you better slap  |
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Chat2MeBac (f)
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Marital sex reduced and we have increased divorce rates Making love brings people together . . . it's like magic Life is short ooh . . . Imagine reaching Heaven's gate and still annoyed that you never got to enjoy sex The person for your back go land you better slap Oh no!. . . . . . .Not again! If leaving a girl because she doesn't Wanna do it makes me a whore! Then i take that as a compliment. . . . . .Thanks. I have already call Baba from my village to send me a whole drum of Holy water, just to drown you two,  Thank God I have medical papers to prove I am allergic to sex , So y'all I don't have to worry my dreaded head |
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